Looking for witty banter and possibly more. My spouse is fully aware of what I do. I am a smoker, don’t drink. I will develop this more as time permits. I’m looking for an intellectual sparring friend that is sensual and who could be a good lover for me. Also doesn’t mind that I’m married and can handle being second in my life. I prefer locals , I don’t do late nights or daytime- I am a busy professional so expectation management is key. I can appreciate what this site is for that said I don’t down shift that fast. Yes, I get it we are all here for the same end result but how we get there is different. I cannot just hop into the sack with just anyone, I am sapiosexual. It’s a blessing and a curse. I wish I could let go and be primal however that is not how I operate. If a little effort is out for you then it won’t work for me. I’m kind and understanding but I’m not easy. Just the nature of the beast. Happy hunting