I do not have any interest in cyber & virtual connections. Always open to meeting LS friends near and far, but if there is no realistic chance of us meeting in the near future, I kindly ask that you do NOT contact me....I am looking to make intentional connections with decisive and like-minded people. I do not have the time nor the bandwidth to take on a pen pal relationship. I must be intentional with how I allocate my time, which is in getting to know like minded LS friends with a similar end goal. I also kindly ask to NOT initiate a conversation with me, then stop responding shortly afterwards. This seems to be super common and to be honest, it’s pretty annoying. I am good at responding in a reasonable timeframe and fully aware that most of us have lives outside of the LS, including myself. If you do this, I will block you for wasting my time. The foundation of any relationship, whether surface level, intellectual, in the bedroom, etc is MUTUAL respect….this is a non-negotiable for me. I will not make myself smaller to help others feel bigger. I value myself and the work that I’ve put into being a decent human being. I treat everyone I interact with, with the utmost respect and I expect the same in return. Should we reach the exploration phase in the bedroom, it should be a mutually beneficial and pleasurable experience for ALL parties. If it’s not, then it’s not for me. And now, back to the regularly scheduled program…. Chicago based, educated, professional, respectful, more on the muscular side, looking for CONSENSUAL fun, where ALL parties are aware of what’s going on. I shouldn’t even have to say this, but due to some recent events and knowing that the male half is usually the main point of contact, please be sure the female half knows what is going on and what you’re up to. It’s honestly pretty awkward and embarrassing when the female half doesn’t even know that they’re being set up. That is something that I want absolutely no part of. For my safety (and yours), I do not engage in CNC (consensual non consent) kink scenarios with strangers. I travel a good bit, so if my location shows anything different than Chicago, it’s because I am most likely traveling in your area and I am open to meeting LS friends while I’m away. Tall, dark and handsome with a smile that has been described as infectious. Able to respect boundaries but also able to be dominant, depending on what the relationship dynamic calls for. Clean shaven below, cut, very little to no body hair. Well-endowed and VERY girthy, if thickness is what you’re after. I have received many compliments about the thickness and enjoying that filled up feeling. If you’re looking for someone that has stamina, I have been known for giving as much pleasure as one can handle. Due to the nature of my profession, I do need to maintain anonymity on this site, but once mutual interest has been established and that we’re both legit, I have no issues with sharing face photos, and I will expect the same in return….so please, let’s not make this awkward or weird. I’m pretty easygoing, playful, friendly, charming, well-traveled (33 countries and counting), capable of engaging in conversation that goes beyond the surface and the ability to make people feel comfortable. I like to be active, stay fit, enjoy craft beer, wine, sports, music, comedy shows, playing board games, trivia, karaoke, bowling, eating great comfort food, and the list goes on. New-ish to the site, not new to the lifestyle. Been on/off for the last couple of years. Quality over quantity kinda guy….not looking for a boatload of notches on the bedpost with people that are not good human beings, treat single males like they’re than, or looking for our naughty fun to feel “transactional” When I am interested in someone/a couple, I do take the time to put together well written and thoughtful messages as I am trying to establish mutual respect. What you’re getting is an authentic person first and foremost, that just has a bit of a naughty side, just like many of us that are here. Just don’t interpret my politeness and kind approach as a guy that’s not capable of being assertive or able to take charge. As I mentioned above, depending on what personality type the relationship dynamic calls for, I am capable of assuming such roles. I believe that a "no response" to a message is a response, so no hard feelings if that’s the case....we all have our own preferences. This should go without saying, but full body pics will need to be exchanged for any in-person meetings to be considered. DDF, looking for the same (420 is fine. I don’t partake but totally ok if you do). •STD screening as of 4/8/2024, with proof upon request •No pics on your profile, no reply •Please, no friend requests if we have not even spoken before •I have no interest in males. Please do not send me any flirts or make any sexual advances. If you are unable to respect my boundaries, I will block and report you.

My Ideal Person The ideal scenario for me would be us meeting over drinks and see where the chemistry takes us. Open to same day play if that’s the direction things head in and we collectively decide that’s what we’d like to do, but it’s never an expectation. I'm mostly drawn to couples, but also open to single women and select group play. My experience in the LS has primarily been with stag/vixen couples, hotwives, and select cuckold scenarios, where the focus is ALWAYS on the woman. The male half and I can take turns pleasuring her, or if he would like to sit back and watch his partner get pleasured, that works as well…..I’m comfortable in both scenarios. I prefer meeting married couples because they tend to be more secure in their relationship and in sync about what they want from this lifestyle. Open to meeting non-married couples as well, but you must be secure in your relationship and both on the same page with what you're seeking. I'm not really into people that are self-absorbed or have massive egos and agendas...our personalities just won’t mesh. Please understand that when I play with couples, I am in no way trying to compete with anyone. I am looking to ENHANCE what it is you already have going on as a couple. Physically: fit, average, curvy, and select voluptuous body types are typically what I'm attracted to. You don't have to be a supermodel, but there has to be physical attraction as a base for all of this to work, so no hard feelings if it’s just not there for all parties involved.

Chemistry, solid communication and good energy are big pieces in making these arrangements work, so those are things that I’m always on the lookout for. Exchanging messages is obviously a big part of the “getting to know each other” process, but I would like to see it progress towards actually meeting in person, not investing time in endless messaging that may not even develop into anything. I'm not expecting rapid response times as we are all busy in our respective lives, but if we're interested in something enough, we'll find time somehow and put in some effort. If you're going to engage in conversation then disappear shortly afterwards, please….just spare me and let’s not waste each others time.

To make it very clear on why I am here….to connect, converse, and with the intent to actually meet people that are ACTIVELY looking to meet in person, in the not so distant future. If you’re here, toying around with the idea of the lifestyle, seeking validation, looking for a man to tell you how hot your wife is and stroke that ego a little bit, pic collectors, or can’t seem to be able to transition out of the messaging back and forth phase, I am definitely NOT interested. Please be considerate of each other’s time. Follow up and follow through if plans are made. If I say that I’m going to meet, you can count on me to be there.

I believe that a "no response" to a message is a response. If I express genuine interest and there’s no response, my thought process is that sending a follow up message isn’t going to all of a sudden make someone interested, so I typically won’t send another message. I like people that are decisive and can reciprocate interest. If you don’t plan on being engaged in getting to know each other, please pass on me. I value my time as my free time can be limited. I don’t do one sided conversations….if it feels like I have to do a bunch of the heavy lifting to maintain contact with a connection, when there is supposed to be mutual interest, I'm out. This is supposed to be fun, not feel like a job.