My husband thinks I dont know hes cheating. But I found out through looking through his phone. But Im not the type to confront or get mad. Since hes doing what he wants, Im going to do what I want. They say 2 wrongs dont make a right, but 3 lefts do. He totally dropped the ball on me. Stopped taking me out on dates, falls asleep on me mid conversations. He doesnt compliment me anymore. I believe Im not attractive to him anymore since Ive gained a lot of weight from having our . Im not bashing him or anything. I love him very much, but I believe were just growing apart after being together for 20 years. But Ive put so many people before myself, its time to focus on my happiness.