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Posted:May 28, 2007 5:59 am
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Sadly I must retire from the blogging world. As of Thursday May 31 at Midnight I will cease to be on this site.
I would like to thank all you readers and fellow bloggers who have read and supportedme over the year. I have truly enjoyed most of my time here.
I have met some wonderfulpeople and hope that you all will think kindly of me in the future.
I guess I have a few regrets about leaving but a deal is a deal. So if you want to say or tell me something either by email or here in the blog please do, Look for me Friday and I will be gone.
Gone but not forgotten I hope.
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Misunderstandings, Surgery, and Goodbyes
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Posted:May 25, 2007 12:48 pm
Last Updated:Jul 15, 2010 1:50 pm
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The blog I wrote the other day has raised a whole bunch of issues...sigh. There seems to be alot of misunderstanding going on out there. A few harassing emails and notes later I wonder about this site...
Seems I was too clear for some people. They didn't want to know so much. And then a large surprise from someone I thought would be happy with the post. Seems you just can't win...
Surgery went well yesterday. Had my dialysis catheter removed. They just did a local and gave me some relaxation stuff. Guess I slept through most of the thing, when I woke up they were putting on the bandages. All of 15 minutes later. Doc says, "hey you snoozed through it all", he laughed. He said there had been no problems and I could go home shortly. And true to his word I was out of there an hour later. Piece of cake!!
Now the hard part...
For these past few months I have been on this site I have had emotions range from joy to frustartion to happiness to more frustration to sheer bliss. As you know I have been on here mostly with my wife's tacit permission. Well the other day she asked me to stop.
I was quite surprised. Seems she has been getting info from a profile stalker about my activities here. She was quite clear in her initial instructions...she didn't want to know...so now she knows. Guess I was too dumb to hide my identity better...so because she is my wife I will honor her wishes...PJH16 will fade into the sunset. My membership lasts till late next month so I will occassionally check back for emails and maybe the odd blog, but that will be it.
Thanks for being there forme when I needed it most, I will miss you all.
The blog watcher thing says that I have 5 blog watchers. If you would email me or leave a comment here I would like to thank you and give you some other information. Please do that.
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I'm Back!!
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Posted:May 23, 2007 7:47 am
Last Updated:May 25, 2007 12:23 pm
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Sorry about my absence the last week...seems I have been to alot of places that don't have high speed connections. And my home computer crashed and finally got repair this weekend.
So now you know...
What's been happening lately?
Well I had a very nice couple of rendezvouses with a special lady. Worked alot. Went to a very nice city in another province. And prepared for my surgery tomorrow. Just minor stuff, nothing to worry about.
Have thought of some really good blogs to write but can't remember them now, so I suggest you check back later and see what my warped mind has in store for you.
Other than that I must say I missed this site a bit. I certainly missed the regulars who visit my blog and email me or comment. I think I have come to a bit of a crossroads in my life here.
I have made some excellent friends and aquaintances here and those I will want to keep in contact with...but the whole sending emails to new people thing is getting a bit tired for me. I think I have met the people I want to meet, certainly a couple of you and that's all I want or need.
Maybe I'm just satisfied with those around me...if I could manage to contact them some other way every day I think I would ditch this site. It is very peculiar in alot of ways. And I 'm not a big fan of peculiar.
I can see someday not being here anymore and sticking with those I really like and want to be in contact with. To date I have met One Extremely fantastic person who I have had the extreme pleasure to be intimate with. I currently seem to have become a one lady man and that is pretty much ok with me. There have been others who have come and gone and while I appreciate the experience, the leaving was very unsatisfying. I have made a couple of far away friends who I cherish dearly and want to get to know better. One day I would even like to meet them in person...but the logistics of that could be difficult.
In all I have learned that more is not always better. One or two fulfilling in person relationships is all I need and can handle. I have also decided that the one night stand thing is not for me. I really require a longer term committment to be satisfied. That may seem kinda strange for a guy, but I think I find the one night thing very shallow and I am NOT a shallow guy. I discovered this quite by accident. Had a one nighter and was quite upset when she told me she couldn't see me again. I still think about her and how great that night was...but she being forbidden fruit has caused me some very real pain. So why do that to yourself. I think that showed me that what I wanted was a deeper ongoing relationship and that usually is kinda exclusive. If it had worked out between us then I wouldn't have stayed on the site at all. So now when I think of whom I'm with today I see the value of the realtionship and parallel that to what I wanted initially. I was fooling myself to think I could be happy being a hound and run around with whoever, whenever, whereever. My personality type is pretty set and I enjoy the committment too much. I think that one day this will all be behind me if my wife ever wakes up, but who knows...
But I do enjoy blogging. I get a real satisfaction out of it. I love the comments (well most of them) and enjoy hearing other peoples perspectives. To me blogging is a real release and a satisfying useof my time.
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What a Night!!
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Posted:May 15, 2007 10:18 am
Last Updated:May 17, 2007 6:59 pm
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So usually I dream each night. Most dreams are, well, pretty pedestrian. But every once in a while...wow. I know why this one happened. I was talking late at night with my girlfriend. We talked about this and how it would be...so of course my subconcious had to create the motion picture...need to do that more often...lol.
Ok here goes...
I have always wanted to try a threesome/foursome. My girlfriend knows this and has often sighed that she doesn't know anyone who it would work with. So...my dream starts with me picking her up from work. We talk and kibizt in the car as we drive to somewhere for dinner. As always she looks amazing, she always does. Full breats, bright smile, long hair, pretty face...sigh.
As we get closer to the restaurant she looks at me with that sly silent stare she sometimes gets. I ask her "what?" and she smiles... "wanna do something different?" she says. "Sure," I reply.
"K," she says, "turn here." SHe points at the coming street and indicates left. I turn left and continue driving having no idea what she's up to or where I'm going. We drive down the street into a residential area. She starts looking intently for the house numbers.
"What are you looking for?" I ask.
"Number 1616," she replies.
"Well this is 1500, so must be in the next block?"
" I know", she smirks...and continues to check out the numbers.
"There it is," she says as we pull into the 1600 block. "Pull into that driveway."
I do as I'm told. When the car stops she smiles at me and says..."I have a surprise for you inside."
We get out of the car and go to the door. She rings the bell and we wait. Then a very fine woman answers the door. She is dressed all in white and looks absolutely stunning. She invites us inside and gives my girl a secret smile.
"Does he know?" she asks. "No" is the reply.
"Do I know what?" I ask somewhat amused at the secrecy.
"You'll see," my girl beams.
We go inside and settle on the living room couch. Our hostess gets us drinks and sits down across from us.
My girl, Kim, smiles at me and says, "What's the one thing you want to do most in the world?" she asks.
I smile and think...nah, can't be??? But I'm wrong. As a flicker of realization comes across my face it is greeted by a long sensuous kiss from the hostess, Evelyn. I am a bit stunned (ok, more than usual) at this turn of events.
I enjoy the kiss immensely and then realize someone is undoing my belt. It's going to happen...and I am so ready!!
Evelyn continues to gently massage my mouth with hers taking one of my hands and placing it on her breast. Kim meanwhile has undone my belt and zipper and is sliding my pants off me. Evelyn guides me to my feet while Kim removes my pants and boxers placing her talented tongue gently on my growing cock. Evelyn unbottons my shirt while I remove her blouse revealing a perfect pair of 38D's. Kim swallows my now engorged cock as I undo Evelyn's bra.
Evelyn and I kiss again, a long slow sensual meeting of lips and tongues. She gently teases my tongue with hers while all the while rubbing her hands across my chest. I move my own hands down to her waist undoing her skirt and letting it fall helplessly to the floor. The thong she is wearing is soaked as my hand carefully brushes against it.
Kim pauses in her work to suggest we retire to the bedroom, which we do. Once there Evelyn instructs me to lay down while she helps Kim out of her clothing. I watch as these two women do a dance of lust before my very eyes.
Evelyn removes Kim's top and undoes her jeans. She discards both these items and slides her hands up and down Kim's body. Kim lays her head back and soaks up the feeling as Evelyn lingers at her breasts and pussy area. I watch noticing my erection has now increased to unimaginable size and stiffness. This little show of two women totally engrossed in touching each other tenderly is far to alluring to ignore.
Kim takes one of Evelyn's breasts in her mouth and performs the same magic there she was relishing on my cock moments before. I ache to have her mouth back there and my own lips on Evelyn's breasts...but I must be patient.
Evelyn moans as Kim's miraculous tongue does its work. They are now both naked and inches away from me. I do nothing but lie there and enjoy the show.
Then they break apart and simultaneously look at me. "Are you enjoying the show?" they ask. I nod vigourously my approval and they each giggle and join me on the bed. This time Evelyn places my cock in her mouth while Kim offers me her magnificent 46DD breasts. The soft texture of Kim's skin has always been magic to me. I relish every taste of her I can get. While my cock is massaged by Evelyn's mouth, my mouth fondles Kim's breast and my hand finds her soaking pussy. Gently I insert a finger and am greated by yet another longing moan of joy from Kim.
Evelyn has been fingering herself for sometime while eating my cock, she now straddles me and slides a condom on my member, then slides it inside her.It feels tight and warm, and my cock responds by pulsing slightly. Evelyn swoons a bit as she slowly rotates her pussy on my raging hard on. Kim turns to face Evelyn and places her dripping pussy on my mouth. I lick constantly as she rocks gently back and forth moaning yet again. Her juices are flowing freely and I swallow as much as I can. She tastes so sweet and delicious I crave even more.
By turning my head slightly I can witness the two women fondle each other via a mirror to the left of the bed. The sight is amazing to my eyes. One woman is fucking me, the other is having me eat her and the two of them are playing with each others breasts and kissing. It is a site to behold.
I can't imagine I can stave off orgasm much longer, but somehow I do. Evelyn and Kim are both coming and simultaneously explode while holding each others breasts tightly. Their movements become frantic as they each reach an orgasm that blows their minds. They each roll off of me one to either side and lie contentedly smiling. I on the other hand am not content, so I get up and position Evelyn for a rear entry. She raises her buttocks appropriately and guides me in. It feels so good to enter her from behind. The contact is excellent. Kim raises her head to watch as I pound into EVelyn. She smiles and fondles Evelyn's breasts as I work away at her with my thrusts. Evelyn is in heaven and is rapidly coming again. Just before I empty myself into her she screams she's coming and then explodes yet again. My last few thrusts send me over the edge and into a heap of flesh beside Kim. Kim smiles and lays her head on my chest.
We all just lie together for a few minutes recovering. Evelyn is the first to stirr mentioning that Kim hasn't had the pleasure of my cock yet. She removes my limp condom, and cleans my cock with her mouth. She then procedes to coax my manhood back to its height and instructs Kim to place herself on top of me, which she does. Slowly she slides my cock into her pussy relishing the smooth silky feeling of contact. Myself, I am in heaven, as Evelyn guides my right hand to her dripping love box. I find her clit and begin the massage. She moans and lays back to enjoy.
In no time all three of us are coming again. Somehow we manage to simultaneously come together and collapse in a heap of well used flesh. We blissfully drift off to sleep, myself sandwiched between these two lovely women.
I am awoken by a strange noise an hour or so later. I open one eye and see we have been joined by another man, who it turns out is Evelyn's husband. I am afraid that this might not be a good thing but am quickly reassured by Kim who whipsers to me that John (his name) is completely into what we're doing. I relax somewhat as I see John kissing Evelyn and removing his clothing. He is tall and very svelt and has an enormous cock. Easily double my size in length and girth. I am a bit abashed at my limp example, but quickly notice his attentions to his wife have me strangely excited. I have never been in a room watching another man fuck a woman, so this is an extra treat.
Kim however has other ideas. She gets up and strides to where Evelyn and John are making out. She tugs at John's arm and pulls him away from his wife. Without a word she leads him to the bed and lays down inviting him in with a distinct spread of her legs. John needs no further encouragement and joins in. Evelyn meanwhile has layed down beside me and pulls me on top of her. Hard again I enter her as John enters Kim. I am amazed at myself that I love to watch Kim being fucked by another man. The sheer joy on her face banishes any uncomfortable feelings I might have. Simultaneously we fuck each other's woman and love their moans and calls for "harder and faster". It takes only a few more minutes until all four of us are coming. We all come in the space of several minutes and now all lie exhausted on the bed.
I wake up from my dream disappointed I couldn't have slept longer and enjoyed more of the foursome activities...but maybe next time.
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Just A Bad Weekend
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Posted:May 14, 2007 10:02 am
Last Updated:May 15, 2007 8:01 am
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First off let me say that I was saved from a bad week by a very nice person who texted me back to sanity. She really helped me cope with my feelings. Thanks!
Now the last three days have not been fun! I have been in a "mood" as my friend would say. I just got signals and signs that made me feel awful. Actually started last Thursday night when I was alone in my hotel room...a very sad place to be when you feel lonely..and went on from there.
I spent most of the time worrying about someone who had a kidney problem on Friday. And that's not good either.
Add to the worry I have a complicated relationship with a woman who it seems doesn't feel the same way I do. Yet she keeps giving me signals that make me think she actually does care but just can't bring herself to say it. So I am in a quandry. And that usually makes me think....and when I spend too much time thinking well my imagination gets going and bang!! I'm in trouble.
So Saturday was not a good day...except for the golf...and Sunday was really pitsy. Mostly because all I could do was wonder about what was going on.
It sucks when you realize that even though you say you trust someone, you actually expect to have that trust thrown in your face. Now it tunrs out I was imagining things but that doesn't help. Friday evening was particularly bad for that. But I must admit a well placed phone call made a huge impact on my not driving my car into the river. I thank you for that miss wonderful.
So are you getting the idea how bad I was feeling. And of course my friend would say its "all in my head". And she's probably right. Course it didn't help that my wife was a drag on Sunday either... but what can you do?
I have come to think that I'm just not cut out for this lifestyle. I need one or two people I can talk to, be with, and occassionally make love to. And enough of this other shit. I am not nor ever will be a casanova. The problem is finding someone who's willing to share that sentiment with me.
What's the saying "you kiss alot of frogs before you find your prince (princess in this case, no I am strictly homophobic about that, sorry).
The thing is I have found my princess, but I'm not sure she has found me...in fact I think she might not want to be that person. Sigh....
So that brings me back to square one. And over thinking...
Then to really mess me up...my wife who has for the last 5 years been almost adverse to sex says "hey the idea of a threesome with another woman really turns me on". ????? SO I say well let me arrange something? Nope, she has to have control...which of course means it won't happen likely but the thought will always be there...sigh...
So one of those mind game weekends...man I hate that.
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Sex with an Angel
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Posted:May 10, 2007 3:34 pm
Last Updated:May 14, 2007 9:28 am
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A little while ago I had sex with an angel...it must have been because I've been in heaven since. It was so maginificent that I still haven't touched the ground...
How is that? How can the absolute pleasure of it all last so long...I know one thing...it'll be too long till I have it again, even if it's tonite! (and it won't be).
I just keep remembering her beautiful breasts, her sumptuous thighs, her wonderful pussy, her tender lips and the moans she made while coming. Her warm wet soft mouth on my cock...the unbelieveable way I made her come...her shouts of joy when it happened... Man...it was unbelieveable.
I wanted to turn the lights on super bright so I could see her in the stark light but she wanted lowerlight, said she needed that...sigh...Someday I'll make love to her outside in the broad sunlight so she can't turn the lights low...
You know I must say that seldom in my life have I felt this way this long. It is truly amazing. Its like I'm satisfied beyong belief...yet I long for her again. Each time we have sex it gets better...I want to be with her all the time, constantly engaged in the embrace...my cock eagerly inside her...wow...
But life steps in and says "hold on"..and so I wait for my next chance...waiting sucks...
Have you ever felt like that? So does it go away?? Or have I found my true sex mate?
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Committments
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Posted:May 8, 2007 10:11 am
Last Updated:May 12, 2007 8:20 am
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I have had severalconversations with people lately about committments. Many different types of committments. On this site and via emails and on-line chats it has of course been about the sexual committment. But I have also had discussions about friendship committments and work committments. Just a week of stuff like that.
Which got me thinking....
Committing to someone is a big step. I mean if you say you won't have sex with anyone else, then that's a big committment. It means that there is a bond between you and your partner...something that really should be respected and not broken. Like I said a big committment. There may even be love and devotion involved and that shouldn't be trifled with.
I had often wondered what it would be like to have an open relationship with your spouse or significant other. It would involve HUGE amounts of trust I would think. And of course no jealousy allowed...ever... Would be very interesting...
Friendships are alot like that too. Of course there's no jealousy because you're not sharing your body with them, but there is a certain degree of committment involved in the friendship part too. You have to committ to be there and be honest for someone. And that takes some guts too.
Anyway just musing about this...any thoughts?
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Friends with Benefits
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Posted:May 7, 2007 2:28 pm
Last Updated:May 9, 2007 7:20 am
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Okay beckonning stole this from someone and I had to agree to the terms so here it is...
And, after reading the post We as bloggers may also think of all those Sexy people out there that may want friends with benefits. It is a very nice concept.
You opened it so you HAVE to repost it!
A test of your bravery.
Here's how it works:
Statistcally speaking, unless you are a total hermit, social retard, or ugly as a bag of spoiled ass...
There's at least 1 person on your network that wants to date you or REALLY sleep with you. So..... lets play "friends with benefits"
The rules are simple...
if you want to date the person who posted this, send them a msg saying "Im yours".
If you just want to sleep with them and stay friends, send them a message that says "I'd hit it".
SCARED? LOL
THE TWIST IS YOU HAVE TO REPOST THIS
& see who replies. There is at least 1 person on your network that wants to date you, and maybe more that want to truly sleep with you.
SO... re-post this as "friends with benefits"
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Take care
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Good Conversation
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Posted:May 7, 2007 10:31 am
Last Updated:May 9, 2007 7:17 am
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This is something that is lost mostly today...good conversation I mean. When was the last time you had a really good two way conversation with someone? For me it was this morning...we talked about some things we had on our minds and it was very good to do that.
I think conversation is a lost art. Typically it goes like this now-a-days...
"Hi, my name is Fred."
"Hi my name is Helen."
"Wanna fuck?"
"Thought you'd never ask..."
Sigh...that's just not conversation. Conversation is when you and your partner engage in deep meaningful thought provoking dialogue. You talk about something (no it doesn't always have to be about sex) that means something to both of you. You explore the edges and depths of feeling, likes and dislaikes and understand each other better after. It means something. It draws people closer together. And it is satisfying.
I am very fortunate. I usually talk to someone every day that I have excellent conversations with. She is a very very good person to talk to. I love to exchange words with her. In fact talking is sometimes as good as sex. It satisfies the soul and the mind. Plus it can lead to many things when you actually physically get together with someone. You can talk on line, over the phone, even by text or email (though those aren't as effective as the first two). Or better yet in person. The point is you get so much satisfaction and enjoyment out of a good conversation that it soothes the soul.
Take this morning for example. I was in a "mood". You know...nothing is quite right, things tick you off for no reason..etc. Then up pops this wonderful lady who I chat with on line for a few minutes. Nice talk, sharing etc. Feel so much better now. Just from sharing words with a friend. Wow...that's very cool. And isn't that what its all about?
Even if you talk about things that are wrong or bothering your relationship and that can be painful...it's better than not talking about them. In the end if you have a good talk you feel so much better or even relieved. It can help you make up your mind, etc.
The opposite of course can be very damaging. People who don't or won't talk to each other will sooner or later fall apart. So don't be afraid to talk. If it means the relationship is over after, it really was over before so now you can get on with life.
But probably if you had really talked before hand it wouldn't have gone bad anyway. So...those of you who read this an are avoiding talking tome, get your mouth in gear and call or write me...OK??
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Just Wondering...
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Posted:May 5, 2007 2:14 pm
Last Updated:May 8, 2007 7:21 am
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When does it mean something? Sex I mean... When does a fabulous sexual experience mean that the two who share it shouldn't share it with anyone else? Or is that even either person's right to make that call?
If you are monogamous then should the other person be too? I have a friend who I've been with a few times, who I am growing quite fond of who occassionally sleeps with other men. I suppose it's really not my place to say that it bothers me when she does that...but it has started to. I think we just think about it differently. Maybe it's my background and upbringing, or maybe my age...I don't know. I used to get turned on when she told me about her activities, now it makes me somewhat sad. Guess I thought maybe I was enough for her...but guess not. And who am I to expect that? I mean just cause my wife tells me to go ahead aren't I really doing the same thing? Sigh...this is way to mixed up emotionally for me. Usually when I get this messed up about somethinmg I talk to my wife and she helps me sort my feelings out. But duh...can't do that this time. So I will try talking to my friend and see if I can make sense of it. I'm not mad at her, more disappointed, but really I don't have the right to be do I?
There is a person on line that I talk to deeply but she doesn't seem to understand the whole implication for me. Not that she's not helpful, but I think she doesn't want to be involved or come between us or something.
You know I think I'd just give this all up some days if I could find one person who truly felt the way about me that I do about her and we could be true to each other. I don't want to do this sleeping around stuff really...I guess I want something semi permanent or an "arrangement between us" or something like that.
Anyway I'm confused and this is my second post on a Saturday...another first. Sigh...
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Forbidden Places
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Posted:May 5, 2007 7:47 am
Last Updated:May 8, 2007 7:22 am
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Do you have forbidden places? You know places you can't ever go to with someone? Maybe it's because you don't want others to know what you're doing or maybe your partner doesn't. Maybe you need to keep things discrete because your spouse doesn't know or doesn't want to know? Or maybe your reputation would be dammaged if you saw someone you know? Tell me about your forbidden places...
Ever had sex with someone other than your spouse or significant other in your home? That's probably a good example of a forbidden place. I did that once and I gotta tell you despite the sex being amazing, truly amazing, the fear of being caught really spoiled the mood. Once we were done I just had to get out of there, which is not like me at all...I usually love to bask in the afterglow, for hours even, but not that time. Really spoiled it for her too I think.
Sigh... well guess I have to get over it or find a better place.
Speaking of absolute mind blowing sex...when was the last time you actually had that? I mean not the average, ok we did it, it was nice variety...I mean the wow I can't even move after kind. Your whole body is just wracked in orgasm and you are litterally struggling to breath let alone think? That is the best. Doesn't happen very often I'm afraid, but that's what to strive for. Mmmm.
I think if I ever get to be in a threesome that will be the ultimate. I have had mind blowing sex recently, but I think the threesome/foursome kind would be the ultimate. Or maybe not? Having had no experience in that arena I can't say for sure, just what I imagine. And after all imagination is truly the root of all sexual activity, isn't it.
So the weekend has come, it's raining and I have very little to do...which is probably good because I have a very busy work month ahead. Anyway have a nice weekend wherever you are.
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Another Day in Paradise
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Posted:May 3, 2007 3:01 pm
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 2:14 pm
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You know there are some verynice places in the world. But one of them is in my city in the springtime. Ahhhh...just a lovely day again today. Of course the contrast with -40 is what makes it so. But +75 is so nice here in the Peg...you go outside for lunch and you go wow...it's such a nice day...course then you don't want to go back to work.
Started work at a new today. Very nice place to work...and a donut shop right across the street...hmmm...may have to come here more often...lol.
Tomorrow another new ...and a new assitant to train. Should be good. She's quite smart and willing to learn...so that always helps. Will be nice working with a bright young person who is eager to please (at least I hope she is...she was in her interview a couple of weeks ago.) But you gotta watch them young ones...lol.
All in all today was very good. Of course not working would be better, but hey gotta pay the bills right. Some day I'll retire and the pension plan willpay me...that'll be even better!!
No chatting today however. I was too busy anyway...but no one seemed to be around. Had very shocking news yesterday. Seems this lovely lady I had been chatting with has been in hospital for a while. Seems she has a disorder and is not well at all. Hopefully now that the doctors have diagnosed her and can figure out the medications she'll get better and be back on line soon. You feel so helpless when it happens to some one. But K if you read this I am here for you.
Another good friend was sick today. She texted me that she felt just awful. I wish I could go over there and cheer her up, but alas I had to work today...sigh...
Anyway...the day is done so I must go...have a great weekend, not on tomorrow...or the weekend likely, so see you all Monday.
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The Trouble With Women
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Posted:May 2, 2007 11:14 am
Last Updated:May 3, 2007 6:22 am
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So how many of you went to this blog because of the title? Anyone who did solely to get ready to blast the writer?? How about guys looking for someone to commisserate with??
Well, here we go...
The trouble with women is they think differently from men.
Being a man, I am infinitely aware of this. Just when I think I have a woman figured out she goes and changes her way of reacting or thinking and I'm screwed (and not in a good way...sigh)
There are a couple of women in my life at present who I feel pretty strongly about. Yet they tend to drive me crazy. Just when I think I understand them and know where they are coming from, they do an about face and I'm in left field again. By the way I used to be quite a good ball player and hated left field. A born infileder was I...but I digress.
Just when you think you have developed a pretty solid relationship with a woman, she throws all that sanity to the wind. She makes comments or avoids you or just plain is grumpy. Grumpy's not so bad...there may be very good reasons. She may be at that time of the month, or have had a fight with her best friend or husband or someone at work, or maybe she's sick...who knows??? I can handle grumpy. Because usually I can get her to smile and laugh and forget about what's bugging her.
If she avoids me, well then that's really hard. Not answering emails or phone calls or texts when she always otherwise would is a problem. If there is a lack of communication then how do you get past that? I have a friend (relatively new) who was all a flurry with communication...now it has slowed down considerably. This concens me...how can I build a bigger stronger relationship if she won't communicate? That is a real problem.
Comments that are pointed or snide are just plain hurtful. See I would never do that. If I have something to say I say it, usually, unless I know its going to hurt. If that's the case I wait to see if the hurting can be avoided. If not then I at least try to be gentle.
How do you tell someone that something about them bothers you, or causes you to do something. If you tell them then you hurt their feelings. I suppose if the relationship is good and strong then you have to trust that they can take it and it won't ruin everything. I guess if it does then the relationship wasn't strong anyway. Like for example, snoring. If I sleep with someone who snores then I don't sleep. Sigh. But it's not their fault they snore. They probably don't even realize they do...sigh. But it might just blow them away if I tell them...
Anyway I am frustrated by women at times because they think so differently from men. I can tell a guy anything and he may punch me, but he'll understand. Tell a woman something and she takes it to heart...well that very well could be the end of the relationship. Sigh...
So the trouble with women is they need a "how to be with" manual. I guess once you've been with one for a while you amass your own manual, but in the short term you may screw it up so much that there is no long term. And women are all different. Some like to be told things good or bad. Some shy away from positive behaviours, some take everything the wrong way, some get upset when you try to give them advice and help them out. You just can't win it seems!!!
I suppose it comes down to your own goal in the relationship. If all you want is a good fuck, well then the relationship is pretty shallow. But if you want a friend, or better yet a friend with benefits, well that's a whole new ballgame. Myself I tend to want to be the friends type. I think the purely physical is ok, but very shallow and unfulfilling. I hada relationship like that last fall and felt pretty used when I figured it out. She didn't care about me other than that I was good at sex. I wanted to get to know her and be deeper with her...she resisted. So it just stopped. Guess I wasn't worth the trouble. The only real tragedy there was the sex was GREAT!! Oh well can't have everything...
So tell me fellow bloggers...how do I get out of this conundrum? Or do I just grin and bear it?
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