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community 36F   
9406 posts
6/2/2009 6:14 pm
Give to your local Dood - He needs your support

A bit off topic but - I get a bunch of emails from guys on the site asking me what they are doing wrong. I work here, so I must have some insight on how it all works. I'd like to be able to give good guys who aren't having luck a good answer. Do you think my "one guy to another" speech is truthful?

A recent reply I gave:

Women approach the site in a different way. They tend to hang out in the Groups and Blogs. They ease into things, get to know you. Most are not going to seek you out. If you're just sitting there waiting, you are wasting your time.

What I would do is find a girl your interested in, go to their profile and see what groups they belong to, see if they have a Blog and read through it. Read her profile, find out where she hangs out on here and go talk to her. Talk to her about what she's said, not just her body. 95% of the doods on here never read a profile and just send grammatically incorrect emails about "sucking it". If you can show some interest in her other than cramming your cock down her throat, you've beaten out most every other guy on here.

Find her Blogs, find her Groups, read her Profile. Be honest in your profile. Get your game on. It's work, but it's rewarding.

There are a ton of guys on here that have figured it out and have a great time. Most of them are active posters in groups and blogs. That's where the women are.

Freedom4FunNow 53F
963 posts
6/2/2009 6:34 pm

I just finished commenting on some guy's post about this same topic. And my advice was identical to yours. It's excellent advice. The only thing I would add is... make your initial pic a face pic. We don't need to see a cock shot. We know you have one. And we certainly don't need to see it inserted into another woman to prove you know where it goes.

Live. Laugh. Love.

rm_NassyFox 59F
37014 posts
6/2/2009 6:53 pm

All in all, for someone who's profile isn't here for a hook up of any sort, you did pretty good. You might also suggest that they themselves join one or more groups and also start their own blog.

It is very important that they understand they get more response with a better filled out profile and a pic. Even a discreet pic is preferred over none. Too many profiles are full of PNTS and only a line or two. Yes, spelling does count. You are trying to attract someone and need to put forth your best efforts.

I totally agree with looking beyond the profile to someone's activities in groups and blogs. That's simple enough, if the person they are after is a blogger or in an active group.

What if they aren't? There are a lot of women that use the IMC, cams or chat rooms only. The first place is still the profile. Don't just read it, but try to understand what he/she is saying with her profile. Unfortunately, it doesn't help if they are incomplete or inaccurate, but that's all you really have to go on.

The other problems I see, for the men that are after the women, primarily, is don't realize that if they are contacting a standard female, she may be getting too much mail per day and that she can only respond to 10 per day. If she gets 11 or more, she has to leave someone out.

Not only that, no woman or man for that matter, is obligated to respond to anyone for whatever reason and many don't if they don't feel like it, regardless. Many a time a woman has responded with a polite "no thank you" or something to that affect and gotten hate mail in return. It's happened to me. Heck, I even had one guy slam me for answering period and preferred no response to a polite "no thank you". You just can't win no matter what you do so folks get to a point that they do as they please.

The one thing that really ticks me off, is not really the "wanna fuck" e-mails because they are at least being honest. I am not in any way advocating such an e-mail, btw. But at least I know that they are simply after a quick hook up. The ones that piss me off are the ones claiming one thing, after reading my profile, they can see that's not what I'm looking for, they tailor an e-mail to elicit a response and they are still after something I don't want. This is why I say understand the profile and what the other is looking for.

The best advice is to look at the person as a person and not simply as explicit body parts or what sexual abilities they may have. Read and understand the profile. Respond accordingly only if you really feel you are looking for the same things and express why you feel that way in a nice e-mail that shows a bit of respect.

Don't get bent out of shape and retaliate if you don't like their answer or get no answer at all. Move along to another profile.

I should add, women are not the only ones that do not respond to nice e-mails. Men are equally guilty, but few have the excuse of getting too many to respond to.

rm_NassyFox 59F
37014 posts
6/2/2009 6:57 pm

    Quoting Freedom4FunNow:
    I just finished commenting on some guy's post about this same topic. And my advice was identical to yours. It's excellent advice. The only thing I would add is... make your initial pic a face pic. We don't need to see a cock shot. We know you have one. And we certainly don't need to see it inserted into another woman to prove you know where it goes.
I love what she added.


rm_FXSBOB3 45M
4437 posts
6/2/2009 7:04 pm

Hey Ryan great points.
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MyHeartLost4U 57M  
2486 posts
6/2/2009 7:06 pm

How very true Ryan..and if you do not mind. I would like to post a link of posting of mine that backs up what you are saying here that I originally posted back in 2005 Finding what you are looking for, and possibly what you were not looking for from this site.

Guys take it from an old dawg of this all depends on your presentation to the women on this site when it comes to being successful in what you are looking for.

roxy54sexy 59F
8914 posts
6/2/2009 8:52 pm

Hello Ryan, I think it is very important to show lot of interest to the other person. They should participate in blogs,groups, or chatrooms. Of course corresponding that potential email helps too. Another thing you should recommend not giving out information right away and wait patiently for a response. If they get a response they should be greatful. Another thing do not call names to the prospective prospect that you are trying to meet like being fake for instance. I have wrote blogs myself on this subject because I seen so many posts from men not succeeding. It takes alot of work to put into it. Sometime you can be lucky other times not here. Yes you have brought up some good points.

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rm_FXSBOB3 45M
4437 posts
6/2/2009 9:25 pm

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rm_DaphneR 63F
8019 posts
6/2/2009 10:25 pm

You gave good advice, but you might want to bold and bump up the font size on the words "Read." One of the MAJOR issues that I have are men not reading my profile, the blog is optional. They read the "join the site and get laid tonight" and then sometimes I think their eyes fall out or they are blinded by all the genitalia they see.

Most of the good guys do find the blogs on their own.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

firegryphon 52F
5903 posts
6/3/2009 9:34 am

I keep a running list of blog posts that have great advice for guys to be more successful and some of the ones I've written about the topic.
Show Some Class series and other informative posts

Looks like I'll be adding to that list really soon. That was solid advice. I usually comment in those "why can't I meet anyone?" blog posts out there and keep it simple with my top 5.

1. make sure you filled out your profile completely and took it seriously.
2. make sure she's there for the same things you are.
3. make sure you're what she's looking for.
4. spell check and proof read your profile and any communications you send. Smart is sexy.
5. All the other rules of society apply - same as though you were standing right in front of her at the bar or a grocery store or whatever.

That's my 2 cents for today.

The only thing I HAVE to do is eat, shit, and die. Everything else is a choice.

rm_Benkai7 60M
2358 posts
6/3/2009 2:36 pm

Dear Ryan,

You've given him good & necessary "basic advice" ... to my opinion there is a lot of learning by doing as well ... nevertheless "newcomers" very often need help {even females do} ... If you don't mind I got some advice written by IsThisBetter4u in 2006 ... his blog is only visible to friends, but it is for anyone still visible on mine {in German & English of course} Advice for A F F Ratgeber f ...

Thanks for all the time you're spending on helping & "fixing" ...

Benkai7... just a poor Rōnin marching by ...

  • rdy2try4 56F  
    3305 posts
    6/4/2009 8:29 am

    OKAY, as I send out lots of this info to guys that ask, and some that don', I have to say this...

    FIRST, the site itself does perpetuate some of this with the "log in get laid tonight" stuff, we tried to tell ya that. MANY of these men wonder why they can't just log in and pick out a woman as if it is a whorehouse warehouse as they 'thought' it was. IT DOES cause frustrations on both sides!! MOST DON'T EVER READ A PROFILE!! I wish you could make them, but even with not available being on my picture I still get emails asking to have sex and meet. I truly think most do not realize that the women here are NOT employees.

    SECOND, the age old thing of dick pick or no dick pic will be argued!! So many truly believe that if you show a dick women rush to them. I have even seen guys posting blogs showing proof that they get more views and such. YOU MAY!! But how many are gay men posing as women? How many meets did you really GET from it?? MOST women know what a dick looks like and even Quasimodo had one!! There is MORE to meeting for 'most' than just penis/vagina let's go.

    THIRD, even when reading profiles, I will back NASCAR that some will still try to get to you and believe they are going to convince you that you want them. I have had more than a few with the 'convo' and 'just chat' thing that in 3 or less emails it is clear they think they are going to get laid.

    FORTH, what one writes DOES matter!! There is a plethora of "suck my cock for me" and "wanna screw" messages, trust me, it is lame at best even if it is truthful.

    MY favorite blog to send out for help is [post 382854]. I send out about 12-15 links in total for helpful advice.

    One person set out to post blogs that are in their opinion the 'best' info. Many of the ones I send out are in this list...[post 1745514]

    And I myself have blogs on the messages (good, bad, and ugly) that are out there so that people see that they are NOT alone, they are NOT doing something wrong it is other people with the problem, etc... I have had many a thank you from women saying they thought it was their fault they got flamed for saying no or getting unsolicited hate emails. And many a man has thanked me for showing him why he is getting lost in the emails with the junk that is sent out along side his good message. IT IS NOT EASY!! NO ONE OWES ANYONE!! Rdy's Info Blogs is mine.

    I feel so bad for the men that truly DO want to have meets and are good when so much crap gets in the way. And it affects both sides.

    rdy2try4 56F  
    3305 posts
    6/5/2009 1:13 am

    I am going to be a bit of a shit here.. but this is the kind of thing I don't like to see or get emails from. This man put this in his profile AFTER sending me an 'unsolicited hate email' telling me to get off the site because I wasn't putting out.

    Profile for MDigitalB

    I enjoy sex immensely and looking for a confident woman as the blessing to make it possible. I also enjoy conversation that stimulates intellectual thought and sexual desire. If you like to have lots of fun...I'm your man.

    UPDATE...Tired of members that don't belong here and think they are better than the rest of us looking for a good time...wish these buzz kills would leave the site so their noise is off the radar...for the rest of us looking for on!!!

    BECAUSE WE ARE NOT PUTTING OUT DOESN'T MEAN WE HAVE TO LEAVE THE SITE!! And even if I was available, I wouldn't TOUCH a man that had this crap in his profile!!! No one OWES you a f*ck!! As has been stated before, with multiple sites logging in here these jackasses come in here and totally ruin it for others by sending out hate emails to people to leave based on our profile says we would not have sex with them. I am not a pre-paid whore and as I said, if a guy wants to get somewhere, do NOT act like we are here to service you!!!

    Ryan, sorry for this, but it was a good example and I just got it today.

    rdy2try4 56F  
    3305 posts
    6/5/2009 1:49 am

    Sorry, after thought here. NO ONE is stopping anyone from having fun JUST because they are here on the site NOT having sex. lol Because I am not available will NOT stop anyone from meeting someone

    hornycouplecent 64M/93F

    6/7/2009 12:23 am

    This must be the best advice ever given to any male on Hope they learn from this!

    Lilgirl73 65F
    385 posts
    6/9/2009 8:16 am

    Great advice. I agree with the responses for the most part. I've gotten slammed for a "no thank you" response. At least i was polite enuf to respond. Apparently that isn't always sufficient & feelings get hurt. If i say no thx, many times i get the "well, why are you on here then??" email. On the flip side, i do get emails that say thank you for responding at all & wish me well. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. Heh, life's a crap shoot either way & is not excluded from said crap shoot. Anyway, i don't typically respond to blogs written by individuals i don't know, but felt yours deserved a pat on the back-take care-

    community replies on 6/10/2009 5:55 pm:
    Thanks! Post anytime!

    SCX700 38M
    539 posts
    6/17/2009 6:46 pm

    OK I been looking for a blog like this until I was directed to it by another blogger. So reading the profile seems to be step 1 but how do you read them if your a standard member and don't want to upgrade? I heard rumors if your popular enough you can start seeing profiles.

    rm_NassyFox 59F
    37014 posts
    6/18/2009 7:20 am

      Quoting SCX700:
      OK I been looking for a blog like this until I was directed to it by another blogger. So reading the profile seems to be step 1 but how do you read them if your a standard member and don't want to upgrade? I heard rumors if your popular enough you can start seeing profiles.
    It's true that the more your profile is viewed, the more active you are, you can earn privileges to view profiles. It's not as easy for the men as it is the women, due to the ratio of men to women on this site. However, there are ways. As I mentioned, being active. Use the groups, blogs and chat rooms and you'll probably earn enough.

    Btw, the blogs are a great way to learn about a member, if they have one. Aside from my writing, I keep a copy of my profile there.

    rm_LilBlondeNZ 45F
    1028 posts
    6/19/2009 6:12 am

    I absolutely agree 100% about what Ryan has said. The ladies are on the blogs and in the groups.

    For me, nothing is a bigger turn on than a guy who writes stuff that makes me literally spit my coffee on my monitor because I'm laughing so hard. If he happens to be cute -even better.

    This is the way I met my partner here. And, almost exclusively, any man I've been involved with from this site had something to *say*.. a personality, and he was a fun and approachable person. I have often struck up a conversation or met up with a man who IMO perhaps wasn't necessarily an ideal physical match for what I was looking for- but fun, positive and honest wins over looks any day.

    And yes... I have to say that when a guy's main pic is of a random cock- it is a *huge* turnoff for me. And who knows if it's even his!? It's not like I'm gonna wanna pick it out of a line up or anything.

    Anyone can post a dick pic, but it takes balls to post one of your face.


    D1ssapear1ngB0y 41M
    34 posts
    6/26/2009 9:17 pm

    It appears I may spend too much time in the chat room and not enough time with groups and blogs. Overall, "Meet and Greets" have been a disappointment. Many my age just don't attend, and I often feel out of place. You see all these great (at least great looking) girls on the homepage, but never in the chat room or "Meet and Greets." I try and at least tell people in the chat to act like they're not in an adult chat room. Many can't realize that if it won't work in real life, then it probably won't work online, either. I see several dozen "cock on cam" messages a day in the chat room. I act like I have some sense and some substance to me. However, I feel I'm still not very successful due to the reasons I mentioned. It doesn't help that I'm a standard member. From what I'm seeing, involving myself with groups and blogs would help? Any recommendations on getting my feet wet? Thanks in advance.

    rm_NassyFox 59F
    37014 posts
    6/27/2009 9:40 am

      Quoting D1ssapear1ngB0y:
      It appears I may spend too much time in the chat room and not enough time with groups and blogs. Overall, "Meet and Greets" have been a disappointment. Many my age just don't attend, and I often feel out of place. You see all these great (at least great looking) girls on the homepage, but never in the chat room or "Meet and Greets." I try and at least tell people in the chat to act like they're not in an adult chat room. Many can't realize that if it won't work in real life, then it probably won't work online, either. I see several dozen "cock on cam" messages a day in the chat room. I act like I have some sense and some substance to me. However, I feel I'm still not very successful due to the reasons I mentioned. It doesn't help that I'm a standard member. From what I'm seeing, involving myself with groups and blogs would help? Any recommendations on getting my feet wet? Thanks in advance.
    The thing about chat rooms is to find one that fits your personality and what you are looking for. There are rooms that are set up for those that want to see the "cock on cam" and I usually suggest they find those rooms. Sometimes they go, sometimes they don't and just troll around the different rooms looking for takers.

    I do recommend the groups and blogs because you will find something to suit or needs or you can create your own. There is far more substance to the groups and blogs than the chat rooms. I like the chat rooms simply for the immediate interaction and have fun.

    Do a search of the groups for what you are looking for and check them out. As for the blogs, you can search by location if that is what you are after. You will find out more about the people and pick and choose what you enjoy. There can still be drama, but you can just as easily avoid it to your liking.

    meriwether27 39F

    8/6/2009 12:34 pm

    I agree, 100%. I actually have men get angery at me for not replying to there e-mails. Often times they never send a photo and I'll I see is there genitals. Truth is I get so many e-mails a day I am selective about who I reply to. If you say something that is totally contradictory to my profile I know you have not read it, so why should I waste my time returning your e-mail. If you don't have the commonsense to send any photo at all, why would I write back? I have to many guys writing that do send pictures and have read my profile, so you kinda get beat out from the jump.

    rm_Muscle_Brand 42M
    1 post
    8/13/2009 5:26 pm

    Thanks Ryan, it really worked..
    One more thing to add as well, is that its all about considering and recognizing each lady as an individual with unique ineterests and not just all "gurls"

    ssilkysteell 52M

    9/9/2009 3:55 pm

    Yes, the protracted "investment" process is all that will work when you have ratios of 200:1 on sites like these.

    rm_suknfuk08 64M/62F
    16 posts
    9/21/2009 1:40 am

    Have some kind of photo's. Do not use prefer not to say. Read the profiles which helps to keep from asking stupid questions.Be truthful of your profile. Don't lead people on if your not into meeting anyone. It's ok to be on here and just look, but don't stand others up or say mean things about them. Stay positive.

    D38778 110M

    9/22/2009 12:44 pm

    The real encounters happend when you are honest, and read the profiles, its true.

    gtrist12 34M
    36 posts
    9/25/2009 1:03 pm

    I would love to read about some of the profiles on here BUT STANDARD MEMBERS CANT DO ANYTHING... sorry not to sound like a prick but its frustrating

    rm_andross98 35M
    1 post
    9/28/2009 10:12 am

    There are some good avices here for sure

    joecrowaz 62M

    10/20/2009 3:44 pm

    I must admit, finding out you have to pay an extra 17 bucks for standard members to see your profile is a bit of a "bait and switch".

    pete1064 57M

    10/31/2009 4:39 pm


    There is no doubt that this site is a bait and switch. Every time you want to contact someone, it says upgrade. Every time you want to post or add friends, upgrade. Every time you want to view the latest pictures, upgrade.

    Further more, and this is the most important, while showing the beautiful woman that supposedly live in your area, before we click on the payment button, it should say in BIG letters, NOTE THE RATIO OF WOMAN TO MEN ON THIS WEB SITE AT A GUESS IS TEN TO ONE. FURTHERMORE, WE CANNOT CONFIRM EVERY PROFILE IS REAL OR THAT THEY HAVE BEEN ON IN AT LEAST THE PAST TWO WEEKS. (NOT THE PAST THREE MONTH)

    Very disapointed in this site and will recommend it to NO ONE!

    pete1064 57M

    10/31/2009 4:43 pm

    One other thing that is failed to be mentioned, the rest of the people on here are couples looking for couples or couples looking for bi woman! With that in mind, what is the ratio now?


    malealltheway2 60M
    58 posts
    11/3/2009 7:14 am

    Good advice !

    rm_steve11663 59M
    148 posts
    11/7/2009 4:58 am

    Some good advice, somew seems off base. I have meet a couple of ladies off the site and like it is said, just be honest.

    rm_dolphn4u2000 59F
    1 post
    11/9/2009 1:28 am

    Im a female... without a membership, i.e. im on here free. I just 'wink" at guys, and they usually send me a wink back or email me directly. I guess i never notice if i dont get an email back when they arent members... but i guess if you're motivated enough to contact someone, you do have to pay for it (guys or girls).

    Funsex23Ab 36M

    11/9/2009 2:32 pm

    well well well... and i thought this site will solve my problems as i am busy as hell with my career... but yet reading this now seems more time consuming then actually going "outside" and spending the evening in the coffee shop.. I guess I have a long ride ahead of me with very little sex life :]

    sexytime8810 36M

    11/10/2009 1:12 pm

    Good advice for sure, now we just have to go out and make the best of it right? Shouldn't be too hard to be honest right?

    toroman425 63M

    11/14/2009 9:19 am

    This site is a waste of money as I have been on for a couple of months and sent out about 40 emails and the only response back came from spammers trying to get me to join their porn sites or adult verification services.What a bunch of phony B.S. I am a gold member and I regret wasting my money here as this site sucks and I would recommend it to no one. The spammers belong on craigs list not here where you have to pay for this shit. I will not be renewing my membership any time soon

    Vandrake212 40M

    11/18/2009 2:49 pm

    I agree 100% with you on this one! Excellent advise!

    songbird07 63F

    11/24/2009 8:30 pm

    This is very good advice. I am a real woman. I get a lot of messages from guys, and I try to respond to as many as possible. My first priority is to communicate with people who take the time to read and comment on my blog. This shows me that the person is interested in what I have to say and not just having sex with me. If a guy contacts me and in his first message asks me to meet in person I'm going to say no. I don't meet people who I have not developed a sense of "safeness" with. You only develop a level of comfort with someone who communicates with you, and the best way to communicate is through a blog or a group. I try to post pictures and topics that would be interesting to men and women as well as topics that are exclusively me. I have met several men from in person, and each one was a great experience.

    You can tell the real women from the fake women when you read their blogs.

    Also, I never go looking at the men's profiles because so many come to me that it takes all my time to reply to those and leaves me no time to venture out.

    Just about every man I have talked to on has gone out with women from here.

    Sometimes I feel that men think if I'm on here that I am required to have sex with them. I can't have sex with every man on this site, nor do I want to.

    Yes, there are some beautiful women on who are real. I personally know some of them.

    So...keep trying, and no one asked me to say any of this.

    1tugg 58M

    11/27/2009 3:53 pm

    HI, I have been here since December last year, been on 4 dates, written over 3000 notes to ladies. 2 of the 4 were not all what I was looking for, the other two, Yes!! I would have like to have known them a little longer than one meal. Network Friends, I have asked almost all my letters to join my network, yes I have some friends, but none have ever written me to say anything. I write to say a polite "THANKS" and still nothing.. I am here almost every night looking,, had one find me on IM, asked me some questions and just like that she logged off. I am not all that but do have manners, and if I start chatting or envite someone out I am certainly not going to just log off or walk off. Ladies know that we need thier goods and don't really care if they hurt soomeone along the way!! I think manners go a long way!! so be polite and friendly even if he is not what you are looking for!!!

    flicker16 66M

    11/30/2009 8:19 am

    Well I take this info as good advice and will learn from it and had planned on revising my site. This is good advice. Spell check your efforts, ask a girl friend of yours if you have one that's just buds not fuck buds what they think of your latest post or email.
    No guy is going to want to think like a woman most guys would be insulted if you suggested it and it is a lot of work.

    A woman might want to go hop in bed in some hotel and fuck my brains out one day out of the year but the rest of the 451 days she is going to go out with a guy who will show them a fun time wine and dine, Nascar or whatever interests them. Thats what you have to take the time to find out what interests them.. Remember that old song by that annoying pink haired girl!
    I had to look it up it was by Cyndie Lauper " Girls just want to have fun". That i think was the honest to gods truth. You also have to remember a lot of woman have gotten burned in the past if you listen you will probably hear that tone "I don't trust you" you can usually peg her for a recent break up. Be patient and remember to check back a couple of weeks later. Get an organizer and let it remind yourself to call her back.



    jimchv 59M
    84 posts
    12/3/2009 12:40 pm

    I agree most women are just rude when they cant take the time for a reply even if it is just to say ( not interested ). I have sent hundreds of emails but have received very few real replies.

    1sandiebrown 60F

    12/10/2009 10:16 pm

    All good advise. Here's my two cents guys. Have a face pic, tell your name, even if its made up, and read the profiles. I hate it when they ask me something that is very plainly stated in my profile. If you can't read or spell you get blocked. Good luck. and just be honest.

    happy_homer 48M

    12/14/2009 10:02 pm

    Great advice from all! Just take your time , but be aggressive as all women like men who take charge. But be respectful. There are a lot of scams on but also a lot of nice people too. Show interest in what they have to say and don't just copy and paste a bunch of responses.

    Best of luck to all and remember to wrap that rascal!

    shitsngigles841 37M

    1/6/2010 9:40 pm

    ok so ive had this site for like 4 days now and it seems like every chick on here is spam used to make men think that there is a chance of actually meeting such babes online.and if u think about it many have the same type of generic pic only one by the way and they don show there face... whoever came up wit this site is a genious gettin rich off of dreams. n its not like im trying to just have sex with every women on here.. theres alot more to me then that but i dont think ill ever grt the oppurtunitty... pleeze just one lady provre wrong

    blm696 60M

    1/8/2010 11:10 am

    Great advice, I appreciate that comments from the Woman and hear from them what is important to them...

    h0rnball69 39M

    1/10/2010 4:00 am

    Great advice. I have met a few and talking about everyday life gets you further than sex talk.

    rm_NYCPumper 39M
    2 posts
    1/11/2010 9:30 am

    This is a great advice. You can't go wrong with it.

    happy_homer 48M

    1/13/2010 4:51 am

    Again i must say, Great advice from all! Just take your time , but be aggressive as all women like men who take charge. But be respectful. There are a lot of scams on but also a lot of nice people too. Show interest in what they have to say and don't just copy and paste a bunch of responses. Take interest in the woman, remember that they get hundreds of E-mails a day so make sure that your subject line makes them want to open it and dont write a book!

    Best of luck to all and remember to wrap that rascal!

    timeoutforme8 57F

    1/16/2010 4:06 am

    How about actually reading a persons profile also before engaging in conversation. I HATE having rapid fire questions shot at me that are each and every one info clearly put in my profile.

    hottim101 36M

    1/18/2010 11:40 am

    Great advice. I find that reading the profile before replying is a must.

    sidewinder354 37M

    1/20/2010 2:43 am

    Thanks for the advice.

    Big_Smile 46M

    1/28/2010 2:00 pm

    I think a lot of it comes from perspective; all online dating sites have the same types of issues, from some not getting responses from the parties you are interested in to billing troubles.
    I appreciate this site apart from the rest because I can truly talk about what we are all here for out in the open… I would rather be able to meet up with women that know what they want out of life and see a profile that mentions what their kinks are in advance. In all seriousness, who here wants to be with a person that can’t even discuss their sexuality? Or someone who thinks they will go to hell if they masturbate? I am here because I am a little hedonistic. It is hard to find like minded individuals on other dating sites without going through the whole routine first, just to find out you are making a connection to someone who is a complete prude. I want to find someone that I can spend my life with, that enjoys similar interests, and is in touch with their sexuality.
    This is hardly a free sex site. Almost any woman can go out and find sex if she wants it at anytime. I know that while there may be some initial attraction to someone’s physical attributes that there has to be more than that to make me want to be physically involved with someone. That is where you come into play. I would go about things this way; if what you are doing here is working, great. If not, change it up. You have few precious seconds to make an impression. If you don’t get any responses to your messages, maybe try a new picture, maybe one of something other than your privates... If nothing seems to look right, maybe look in to getting a Photographer to take it for you. If it’s awkward, just tell them you are interested in trying online dating and need a picture, you don’t need to mention for where. They may be able to arrange someone to do your hair, clothing choices, etc. They do this all the time with professional head shots for actors/actresses/models. Maybe try one of those Photography places at the mall. If $$ is a concern, you may be able to find a Photography club etc to help you out. To boil it down, you are only as good online as you appear to be to someone that does not know you in a 2-3 second glance. If you are a good person and you are not getting any responses, it is not the sites fault or the opposite/same sex (whatever floats your boat) fault, it is yours. You must present your best possible side to people. Think of it as selling your car. You are not going to put a for sale sign on a car without washing and waxing it to make it shiny and vacuuming it out first. I see some profile pics on this site that look like people(men and women) are recovering from a 5 day drinking binge, and I know that they probably don’t look that bad in person. Put a shirt on like you are going out on the town, do your hair, etc. This alone could change things around for your response level.
    After you break the ice, you still need to communicate and establish romantic/passionate feelings with these people, even if you are both only interested in temporary relationships. “Nice shoes, wanna fuck?” doesn’t work unless you are a perfect 10, and then only sparingly. Make your interest clear, but don’t be super pushy. Let your words and actions show that you are not some weirdo from the internet. Get to know them. I like smart confident women. I have talk to more of them here than at a MENSA convention. Communicating with people is key and things take their natural course from there. If something is meant to happen it happens. I have never interacted with anyone that wanted to just come fuck you after you wink at them. It will likely take a little time. You shouldn’t expect that this site is as easy as shooting fish in a barrel because you found a magical site with girls that can’t find sex from anywhere else. It will take work and some practice, just like the real world. Don’t let a little rejection get you down. Keep your chin up and get to know as many people as you can here. Even if they are not interested, they may have a friend who could be.. good luck!

    Tnick1979 46M

    2/1/2010 7:39 am

    Reading most of the blog on here there is a lot of good ideas to meet women on thanks.

    snake_bites87 42M/34F

    2/1/2010 10:24 am

    If an attractive young lady is confident enough to go on webcam, don't insult her.
    Just because she's on webcam does NOT mean she takes requests.
    Sometimes I go on just to see how many people want to watch me sit here and type to people!
    These are MEMBER webcams, not model webcams. If all you're interested in is seeing tits, ass and pussy, watch some porno.
    It is SUCH A MASSIVE TURN-OFF to be on webcam and have guys constantly harrass you to see things.
    If I'm not showing you, it's for a reason. Take a hint.

    Rayhawk1234 56M

    2/3/2010 11:38 am

    I signed up for this site a long time ago and always received mail saying this many members wanted to meet me or had sent me mail. I finally decided to come back and pay for a few months and check it out. I read profiles and then send a short note to those I am interested in and find out that they are standard members and unable to email me back unless I pay additional fees. I am not really looking to do that so what is considered acceptable to have them contact you back? I have it posted for members to see it just not sure who actually can though. I am a real person looking for a real woman I have already had a few fakes try and scam me and I don't want to come across to a woman as a scammer myself. Any suggestion would be appreciated. Thanks

    lepricon1983 50M

    2/5/2010 9:52 pm

    good advice

    sexybigpatrick 49M

    2/10/2010 6:21 am

    I completly agree and I would have given the same advice had I been asked that question. You have to go where they are. Yes you find the occasional drunk girl on IM that is willing to do anything, but that is because she is drunk, and you are one of many watching this display of public awareness. If you want to truly vest yourself in finding a cool woman or women to communicate; and fully enjoy the site, then you too must participate. Write articles, respond to them, write blogs, and above all Be HONEST. These women are not dumb, and like the man said 99% of them will not coming seeking a connection, it will come through time and work on your part. Great advice and well said.


    1994jeep 57M

    2/14/2010 8:14 pm

    Great advice. Thanks a ton.
    I've found out humor goes a long way, too.

    funandpassion999 40M

    2/15/2010 1:41 pm

    It's easy when you put it that way.

    funlovincouple2 51M/47F

    2/18/2010 3:05 pm

    I agree!!! We get tons of messages a day from single guys looking to "hook up". Most women are not interested in the "pieces and parts" as they are more interested in what you look like (face shot) and if your going to be respectful and honest. Men have to be patient, take their time, and get to know what we are looking for. Once that is accomplished WOW Look out!!!!

    barbieguy733 43M/44F

    2/19/2010 10:45 am

    I agree with you, but I also have to say that Big_Smile has a valid argument. Personally, I like to see a face picture and know that a man can carry on a conversation based around something other than his groin. However, once the ice is broken and all of the mutual respect and flirting is covered, I want to know that he knows what he's talking about and how to back that talk up with some great action. I'm already in a relationship and have all of the long-term commitment I want. What I'm seeking here is fantasy fulfillment, variety, hot monkey lovin', or whatever else you wish to call it. I'm not looking to date anyone, but being able to hang out before and after doing the dirty deed is always a plus.

    love_leah06atliv 35F

    2/25/2010 11:29 pm

    love love love its very important its like a gold how many times you put in on fire its still gold its like us friend , all of the user of I HAVE trust on them very will, even someone of them are horny but like in our house the is our big house we need to respect each other respect our belongs respect our love one dont judge them of what they are, they are only making and creating a profile that attractive you can tell them that they are not real but listen we need to have a trust on them for me trust its important in each profile.thats all

    TubbyT_Turner 65M/F
    8 posts
    2/26/2010 10:47 pm

    Let's face it "Most Men are Stupid" they havent a clue what it takes to meet that beautiful, sensuous, bright, bedroom naughty woman we all want. Here's a little helpful hint, before you make that first remark or e-mail to her, stand in her shoes for a min, and ask yourself how would you react to what your sending her.

    Dick Tater

    blm696 60M

    3/5/2010 7:32 am

    Thank you,
    Great advice, I will defiantly give it a try and see if my luck on here might turn around!!!

    insideofya 57M
    13 posts
    3/13/2010 4:32 pm

    I actually write to women, usually a friendly hello and ask how they are doing. Nothing sexual at all. Most around 95% do not even respond. Of course here in DFW most of the women are looking for a rich hunk of a guy....go figure.

    VoodooGarden 52M

    3/15/2010 11:45 pm

    There are tons of fake profiles, from "scammers" or from herself - I don't know. But I've met REAL people through the site. I will move to the first site, however, that offers a "bot" or scammer free existence. And I'd pay double for that experience.

    moperator 50M

    3/31/2010 7:30 am

    hallo mannen,
    ik schrijf dit in nederlands omdat ik vindt dat deze site erg veel fake is, momenteel zit ik er enkele maanden op en heb een score of 99% is scammers, het is echt ongelovelijk dat deze vrouwen allenmaal uit ghana,negeria komen, terwijl ze een profiel in nederland aanmaken.
    en ze hebben nooit ouders, en ze zitten daar om een klus af te ronden, ze geven al te graag hun msn of yazoo adres om apart te kunnen chatten, en al snel komen ze met problemen, nee heren al zien ze zo mooi uit, als het klikt laat de dames maar komen, ik zeg altijd(het spijt me ik kan je niet helpen je moet dit zelf oplossen en dan kan je komen, en betaal alles zelf) ik hou van vrouwen die zelfstandig zijn.

    als een vrouw uit nederland komt, waarom moeten ze hun profiel in het engels schrijven, oke ze kunnen het ook verder op zoeken, maar doe dat dan ook in netjes nederlands, en niet een vertaaling prog. gebruiken want dat lees je al snel.

    hoedan ook, heren als de vrouwen uit europa komen en heb je er ook iets aan, ik bedoel als je echt een dame vind buiten europa kan je nog zeker enkele jaren wachten op haar omdat ze nu eerst moet inburgen in het land van afkomst, dan nog eens een vergunning aanvragen hier, nee dat kost je al snel alles samen 4000 euro,

    rm_NassyFox 59F
    37014 posts
    4/6/2010 4:23 pm

      Quoting rm_gudluvn:
      You know some of what is being said I agree with and some I don't. And to be honest I'm not sure what to think of this site, yet. Because I had been honest, tried to communicate on a human level, not sent picture of my penis but of my face and haven't received so much as an polite hello in return. I see tons of fake profile and bogus introduction, and no signs of an human behind the "mask", so to speak. In a nutshell I'm starting to doubt that real ladies are on here to hookup and are they being paid for the traffic they are generating. I agree with reading about them and using their interests as a means to break the ice. But, "Go where they are", really.. If the ladies aren't going to the profiles they established and is making little to no effort to get to no ANYONE - REALLY!!! -
      Please remind me why we are here again? Don't know starting to sound very fishy to me. Time will tell...
    I see that you are new. If I may offer you a little advice.

    Check out the blogs, groups and chat rooms. You can search by region and sometimes by topic. You will find plenty of real people there. Plan on spending a little time to get to know them and I think you will be pleasantly surprised.

    rm_mysticallass 52F
    8 posts
    5/6/2010 11:09 pm

    There are different type of people for different reasons and different expectation. I just joined and found it interesting........I can express in words.......people may said rude things but its up to you to lead them to the topic you want..........I love to meet people FB games are driving me nuts this days.....Wanna come to my Farms, Zoo and Aquarium

    SexyStarlet6952 33F
    8 posts
    6/20/2010 10:02 pm

    I agree with what a lot of people are saying my general thoughts are you wouldn't whip your junk out and say let's bang in person so why do people assume its ok here?

    Also I get so frustrated at people sometimes, I get messages all the time from nice guys who send nice messages and even include face pictures But they will ask me a question that I've answered right in my profile, or ask me where I'm from or something of the sort I mean really... I just feel like saying you seem like a nice guy but do you read much? Granted standard members can't always read profiles but still it gets frustrating....

    ..:: All that I'm after is a life full of laughter ::..


    LovingTouch767 56M

    6/29/2010 8:49 pm

    Hi all, I've been online now for a couple of days and had a chance to read some of your views on the site. First, I am happy I am not alone and others are experiencing the same frustration and disappointments I am going thru. I keep asking myself, what do women really want? I am clean, nice, polite, no penis pics, and reply with respect and openness yet I have to question all those ladies out there that claim they are looking for a nice guy. Well, here I am, along with plenty others like me I am sure, yet, nothing. What's the point of looking for something you never have the intention of actually getting even if you find it? I already had the unpleasant experience of being scammed on my 2nd day here (that didn't take long it seems) and all my flirts are coming from the far east or west coast and I doubt they are even real. I am not sure what business model is or how they see us, are we being used here? I am here till mid September and most likely will not be back here. At least it was a learning experience, even if not a positive one. And ladies, there are truly good men out there and it's really ironic to keep hearing women complain to the contrary when you don't even bother noticing those right in front of you in many cases.


    hotazncpl 43M/42F
    3 posts
    6/30/2010 6:50 am

    Very well put, most guys think with the wrong head. If they only try to get to know a girl..

    rm_NassyFox 59F
    37014 posts
    7/7/2010 11:26 am

      Quoting  :

    You can change your settings so you only receive email from cupid setting matches. Only VIP's can bypass that.

    If you don't want to do that, there is a tick box by each mail and you can check those and do a mass delete.

    TemptationsTouch 56F

    7/18/2010 10:00 am

    I personally think that since woman are so few on this site; the ladies should have all access at no cost.

    From what I've seen, the men pick up the majority of the cost here with gold memberships, and still can't find a woman. Quite a lot of men here email me stating that they are letting their members end at the end of the month because of it.

    Hell, in Arizona; there is one man laying the pipe to about 5 woman here. That's just nasty and too unsafe for me. And the thicker part about that is that that one man treats all of them the exact same a dog. Can't really seem to understand why all of that is necessary.

    However, in saying that, I have to add have told me that it is not about a pretty face here; it is about how many want to simply spread their legs open. My comment to that, is no way; no how. I like my kitty katt fresh and the only way to do that here is probably going to be logging about sex instead of indulging with a man who hasn't a caring bone in his anatomy. His dick included...."Give a dog a bone..and he'll..ha...oh my bad..that was that old nursery rhyme...hahaha..

    Most of the woman here are blogging anyway.

    This is a main reason why I refuse to put up anymore photos of myself here. What is really my reward in doing so? Not very much here from what I've seen. (especially in Arizona)

    BLKLonglove697in 56M

    7/18/2010 11:32 am

    Hopefully something will work out, I am in japan and over here being a Black American is very limited who you can meet on this site. You try to talk with them and the first thing they think is playboy...Not all of us are that way, Everyone say be patient, but 7 months is patients enoug I think...I will do a experiment to see if face to face out in town, is better than on this site amd get back to you on it. I am shy, but not scared..

    kimloves2flash 51F

    8/9/2010 5:23 pm

    I'd like to add my two cents and then ask a question.

    It's not SO much easier to get laid online than in the real world. And if you want your best shot, don't say something to me in an email that you wouldn't say to me in person. "Hey slut, let's fuck" is less effective than "I really like your profile and would love to chat with you more about your fantastic fetish."

    That said, I get about ten emails a day, when I respond to someone saying "thanks for contacting me, but I'm not interested" I wind up having to have a conversation about why and then get insulted when I say no. Of course, when I don't respond at all, I get insulted.

    So it is better to get insulted by not responding or by responding?

    FishingPisces 66F

    8/15/2010 6:49 pm

    I agree with .. First Email .. I wanna do ya...F and S Those Tits.. is a turn off.. Written in a comment with my PICS.. I have no problem with..

    sunog22 64M

    8/26/2010 4:10 pm

    You make several good points here Ryan,I am sure that women do approach this site differently than men do ad men need to realize it.Regarding your comment about how tons guys have figured this site out and had a great time here think that depends on ho0w you look at it,because given the huge number of men here,yes many are going to do well,but I bet if you look at the percentgage of men here that do well that you would see that it's a low number.

    durtybanana 63M

    8/31/2010 9:20 pm

    I've been here twice- once for 3 months about 5 years ago (successful) and about two months this time (not so successful.) Things seem different now vs. then-
    I don't recall the same volume of scammers, and where in the past Women seemed to want to spend some time "breaking the ice" in communication of some sort,the majority of profiles I viewed this time around were quite blunt about wanting minimal communication - "I don't need a chat/ e- mail buddy" seems a pretty common sentiment on the profiles I have viewed lately.
    The group suggestion is good, but in looking at groups this time around , most in my area seemed quite inactive. Doesn't help much to join a group based 1000 miles away , unless you do so on the outside chance that someone in your area participates there as well- hence the suggestion to look at ones group interests on their profile, I suppose-
    I'm realistic- My age and "status" are a big handicap, and I will admit that I haven't necessarily brought my "A" game to bear - (Gold membership and face pic mandatory for the "big leagues".) I'm Just surprised at the lack of curiosity and casual interaction ( that can often lead to something more) that is lacking here.... It's more like making a car purchase ("I want this, I don't want that") than a meeting place-

    rm_NassyFox 59F
    37014 posts
    8/31/2010 10:16 pm

      Quoting  :

    These are all red flags and not only should you be extremely cautious, but frankly, end it and report them to the abuse dept. This is typical scam routine.

    Nighty01 58F

    9/12/2010 7:30 pm

    Very well Put!

    Passion and love making!

    Nighty01 58F

    9/12/2010 7:32 pm

    Wow that is something so serious,it never pays to be too careful at any time!

    Passion and love making!

    Nighty01 58F

    9/12/2010 7:46 pm

    Well i`m in Ga. and within the area i live in most of the guys do not want ot pay for the gold membership, frankly this site is pretty good it has it faults like everything else. The men and the women on this site are about the same. Form what i hear and i know men are out number over here and some men just dont know what to say and most of them are afraid of their own shadow!
    As far as they want see how many legs will spread open, well good luck with that.

    I say it`s time for me to give it a rest. is been good times and bad times. I say to all who know me , met me, hug me, talk to me, etc.
    best of luck to whatever you trying to hold your pants up with.
    Maybe come back later and have some fun.

    Passion and love making!

    rm_rodriguezvs 33M
    25 posts
    9/16/2010 6:57 pm

    really agree wit this.. sex is the best1

    rm_NassyFox 59F
    37014 posts
    10/17/2010 11:18 am

      Quoting mumbono5:
      I do wish to be a gold member but the thing that holds me back most is that it is quite telling on my credit card. if the bill can be labelled in some other way, I'd be most happy to sign up.
      Thanks Dood for the tips. They come in handy...
    You can send a check or money order in U.S. Dollars. For payment information, go to the "Help" page on any page and look in the Frequently Asked Questions" for all your payment options. If you have access to it there, in the U.S. you can purchase a pre-paid credit card which sends no bill. You simply put the amount of money on the card you want, then make your purchase and it is withdrawn from the funds you provided.

    4DeltaTango 49M

    10/19/2010 10:51 pm

    i understand that this site is a business, and the business always needs to make money. i understand that if your a "standard" member its in the best interests of the site to spark interest and get the standard member to go silver if not gold. here is where i have an issue, i am gold and i am still getting the BS bot messages, you know the ones, an odd email, a view, or a wink any of the things you can do on the site but yet the profiles are non-existent or turned off as soon as the items are sent. really? come on now, can you find away to stop doing that, its just really annoying and IMO if your already paying, why send BS...

    eezz_69_ 45F
    9 posts
    11/19/2010 9:33 am

    Lots of great advice, not just for the guys, women also. From my own experiences and from what I have read here.In a nutshell..
    1.location,state where your at(closure to their location, more likely to succeed).
    2.Perfer not to say answers,what's up with that, more than likely than not you'll be bypassed(unless you on here to just jackoff..lolll..if so state your wishes on profile).
    3.A pic of some short is helpful(tastefully done)make sure it's you..
    how disappointing when you finally met up..person in the pic looks nothing like the person sitting across from you.
    4.real encounters,honesty(not going anywhere without it)be assertive,
    not overly just enough to hold their interest.
    5.respectful(eg.don't send the first email stating how you want your dick sucked..that comes later..lolll).
    6.effortless sex..NOT htypassaty (post)..very nicely put...
    7.DO NOT CONTACT SOMEONE JUST FROM VIEWING APIC(read the profile)don't ask unnessary questions that are answered on profile in front of you...
    Happy hunting....

    crusader114 58M
    79 posts
    11/22/2010 6:12 pm

    I have tried almost every approach people say works on this site and have had no luck. I do agree that there are a lot of women here just looking. Would like a lady to help me out.

    rm_zzzzzip 62T

    11/28/2010 11:38 am

    next to education Porn /social sites , are the biggest scames going today,. bite this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    synndarella 45F
    5236 posts
    11/29/2010 2:09 am

      Quoting crusader114:
      I have tried almost every approach people say works on this site and have had no luck. I do agree that there are a lot of women here just looking. Would like a lady to help me out.
    You don't have ANY pics. I NEVER reply to people with no pics...what is the point?

    I'm working with 26 letter's and a short attention span. I'm practically lethal.

    Hangman128 54M
    177 posts
    1/30/2011 3:55 am

    Well, I have (finally) got on to have regular chats and emails and even invitations (for sex) after a few mistakes.

    What I found out from my area is that they like to read profiles that have some nice writeups to show your intellectual side and not a line that says "I want to sex up up". They also do not like to be ask to have sex in the first email. Exchange several emails, chat and treat them with respect and not some sex toy.

    Another thing I noticed is that they prefer to view the first profile picture of something else and not your Huge dick. It is like shiving your manhood in their face before even getting to know you. It turns them off.

    rm_DonnaLeekiss 56F
    4 posts
    1/30/2011 3:10 pm

    Put a regular picture up of you and answer everything on the profile. Only try to get together with women who you have a reasonable chance of driving to meet, not ones who are several states away.

    bostonexpat 63M

    1/31/2011 3:21 pm

    well gentlemen, I am a returned member, met in real time with a couple and also on match .com met ladies and yes had sex on first date, not my idea thiers. and now I am Libya, and in 3 weeks will meet someone in Paris, let me tell you, read, write a e mail and not just a one liner, use spell check to for errors, pictures well thats up for debate, your dick only in your profile well I don't know about that, unless you have something to hide, have talk with many woman on this site from all over the world here, hope to meet them all, not always for sex either some are great people, so relax chill out and get to know people

    good luck

    tgurlusa 58T

    4/4/2011 3:45 pm

    If you're a man looking to meet a "tgurl" aka a transgendered woman I suggest the following: 1) Say something "normal" in your first message/page as opposed to "hey baby" or "what are you looking for" and you'll increase your chances of getting a response, 2) Avoid asking a tgurl questions like "how long is it" or "do you top" because you'll likely find that the tgurl will end that conversation quickly and 3) PLEASE think of something more mature to ask than "how long have u been this way?" or "what made you be a tgurl?" If you ask such questions or make the above listed statements you're likely to see the chat window go empty and it will be YOUR FAULT not the tgurl's. Hint:Treat a tgurl just like a woman you'd very much like to meet and make a good impression on and your odds of success or of at least making casual friends will be much, much better!!


    trailrunner4 47M

    4/15/2011 9:57 am

    you are right but i still like your pic

    Ijustwant2eatyou 57M
    17 posts
    4/19/2011 6:58 pm

    I feel don't feel that the Ladies profiles should be completely free but they should have a little more access when they first join to give them an opportunity to experience what the site has to offer and if they are really interested in the site and genuinely want to meet they would have to get a paid membership to continue their experience. If a woman has a paid gold or silver membership this verifies that it is a real profile and not a fake or phony.

    freakyswirl1000 47M
    31 posts
    4/20/2011 6:39 am

    yea, all users should pay. 5 years ago most of the site and what you could do was open to all, but over time that went away. Making users pay helps reduce the fakes on here. as for the original blog topic, that is very good advice, and so true that most peeps don't read full profiles, sometimes not even the header!

    jmxtout 41M
    19 posts
    4/30/2011 6:50 am

    envie de vous les filles

    Lildevil381 48M

    5/13/2011 8:18 pm

    Do any of these sites really work? Over the years, I've been on them (this one included) off and on. Never had much success. I know I suck at writing profiles and talking about myself, but I feel that if someone were to take the time to get to know me, I'm a very desirable catch. I've re-written my profile many times, each time trying to play on my positive attributes, but always lose out. I hate to say it, but in my opinion, the women on these sites are looking for eye candy, and if you're not perfect in every way, you're sol. "What's inside" is no longer applicable. Just my humble opinion, take it or leave it.

    divad2805 65M
    32 posts
    5/23/2011 5:19 pm

    Good advice!

    rm_tubularsocks 51M
    1 post
    7/25/2011 9:42 pm

    Have tried every approach on this site, have had no luck. I treat the women with respect, but its just a game for most. maybe a email or two and never hear from them again. I just don't know what I am doing wrong. Will try your advice and see what happens

    mitch2020i7 57M

    8/2/2011 9:00 pm

    Most of the girls that contact me have been fatal attraction types, you knoe like Psycho. Or they just want my email address or want me to open one with yahoo.

    hungnready20s 38M

    8/9/2011 12:15 pm

    Looks like alot of good info. Thanks all.

    Boss10JOE 63M  
    28 posts
    8/24/2011 3:29 pm


    Boss10JOE 63M  
    28 posts
    8/24/2011 3:30 pm

    Love the blogs

    foxeyatfifty 65F

    2/1/2012 7:14 pm

    That is really good advice, but some do not read the information on blogs and magazines!!! I think that info should be emailed out to them when they join, so alot of stupid question are not asked on the magazine or advice line would be unnecessary!!! and their expectations that they just have too be there, and we would flock to them to get laid!!! and we should all want to fuc then!!!

    Have a great horny day LUV

    sweet_release 50F
    16 posts
    2/5/2012 12:00 am

    I agree, very good advice! Unfortunately, reading seems to be a highly underused skill around here.

    FullOn4U 56M
    20399 posts
    2/7/2012 5:52 am

    Good advice in theory, but it doesn't really stand up to investigation. Most members simply do not hang around the blogs or groups. In the whole of UK there are about 20 active female bloggers - how do you share them out among 1.5 million men

    DBig1-11 64M  
    83 posts
    5/19/2012 1:43 pm

    I have found the best thing that has worked for me is to talk to them (women) like they are, 'hello, I liked your profile when you said...' in other words, let them know you took the time to read what they wrote, and not like you just went crazy over their photos.. oh yes, correct grammar works pretty good also, you don't have to be an english teacher, just use words you can spell correctly.

    rm_billmarr2 42M
    8 posts
    5/20/2012 8:39 pm

    Very informative for a new member...

    rm_12Treb27 54M
    8 posts
    5/25/2012 5:52 pm

    I do read all the profile , I do go on a blog that has good sense not quite as often.
    I do have some email then after one or two ( same person ) discussion, they got boot out but that's good if they are fake, what about the real one. No luck at all. In real world,
    Outside the Internet, I got no problem approaching or asking ladies out, but you go through all the hassle. I hope this time, I will (confident). LOL.

    FullOn4U 56M
    20399 posts
    5/27/2012 2:34 am

    "If you can show some interest in her other than cramming your cock down her throat, you've beaten out most every other guy on here."

    I imagine it also helps if you weren't stupid enough to join the site Fuck-a-Slut. Except she won't know if you did will she? She won't know if your intention is to fuck a slut.

    And maybe she should...

    rm_kingcrownsol 36M
    1 post
    7/16/2012 5:16 pm

    True Indeed

    handsomeboy2776 45M

    8/6/2012 4:50 pm

    Good advice. Even though this site is for people looking for sex there must be good manners on how to approach members on the site. And I'm not only talking about guys for also women.

    For example, I have noticed that many guys and women have a cock or pussy picture as their main photo. Why is it so difficult not only for men but also for women to show a very nice picture of their face? If we want to find someone let's at least show a picture showing who we are. That way members from the opposite sex we'll see who we really are.

    P.S. I apologize for the language mistakes but English isn't my first language. I'm a Spanish speaker.


    scientistmike 39M

    11/9/2012 2:51 pm

    I am wondering what I am doing wrong. In the interest of full disclosure, I DO have a big problem approaching women in real life. I do however, email several members on here AFTER reading their profiles and determining they would be a good match. My messages are always honest, respectful, and friendly, and with proper grammar/spelling. I still NEVER manage to get anywhere. I am so frustrated and discouraged. My membership is ready to renew on December 2 (gold member) and I am not planning on renewing because of this. I don't have any clue what is wrong. I am being honest and am asking the same. Will someone (female) PLEASE, look at my profile and tell me HONESTLY, is there something wrong???

    scientistmike 39M

    11/9/2012 5:17 pm

    I forgot to clarify, I never show a cock picture in my messages or profile, and I do not ask for any like pics from the women. I don't even mention sex in the message, I simply say "I would like to get to know you better" and ask about "chatting" and maybe "eventually meeting up". I would like someone's honest opinion and I promise I will not get mad or angry or offended, I just want to know what's wrong so I can fix it!

    rm_Curiousa1din 35M
    141 posts
    11/29/2012 5:45 am

    ok, so, I slowly figured all this stuff out through trial and error and also reading about this topic in other blogs and my profile, pictures and approach have been altered over time to best comply with these principles while still communicating sincerely what I'm here for and what I'm about. In hindsight, it all kinda seems like common sense and I shouldn't have had to 'figure it out.' But there we have it...

    Although now I'm seeing some results, it's really only people accepting friend invites but not actually responding to the msg sent. I've spoken to a few different couples and two of them turned out to be single guys posing as a couple. Some others that I've spoken to along the way have shown interest, but then have simply gone quiet, so I don't bother them further. One couple wanted to meet me, but on the day, something went wrong and they couldn't make it...

    I feel that I have to say here that I'm one of the minority that actually reads profiles and is not after a quick one off. I'm not the anonymous type, nor am I looking for the traditional romance, but simply open minded, uninhibited and interesting people, intimacy being a consequence of any connections...

    However, making contact with anyone on here sometimes seems like a fruitless feat. A thoroughly completed or even a short descriptive profile is not common to come by, whether single female or couple. I don't know if that's just a thing of Sydney or not. So it's really hard to tell if the person/couple you're interested in, ARE really in fact, the people you're looking for. And then no one really talks anyway, most likely because they already have a steady flow of msgs to screen.

    What I think the problem really is, apart from lazy no brainers who simply weren't taught manners or courtesy by their elders, is the sheer amount of fake profiles, frauds, humbugs etc that flood this site. Daily, I get lots of flirts from standard members with no pictures. Sometimes a gold member sends a msg asking me to contact them on another site or email address. Or there's been several instances where I've come across a profile with a description that I've already seen on other profiles with different pics.

    Now THIS shit is so much more common than a profile with a good description to go by or even with reliable pics. I'm sure this would be the cause of a lot of dubious members and ultimately preventing genuine and sincere people from connecting... To support this, I've seen it commented frequently on other profiles worldwide, that this site is NOT what it use to be... Unfortunately I think this nonsense is inevitable in all online forums or social networks.

    My 10c worth

    Curious 1

    Randomguy513 56M  
    10 posts
    12/26/2012 7:21 pm

    You really would think it would be this obvious but it certainly doesn't appear to be...

    ElgranL1984 37M
    1 post
    1/11/2013 5:59 pm

    Pff this is how my flirt list looks like, its kinda pathetic.
    Im getting pretty good at spoting fakes, but myt intention here was not to fight off fakes/scammers.

    Don t get me wrong, I have met two nice young Ladies here with which I am still friends, but WTF is wrong with

    Petrovich0111 65M
    8 posts
    3/23/2013 8:10 pm

    That's helps to find out as much as you can about a person before contacting them. Especially if you are REALLY interested in them....then it really isn't work.

    amarnarayan7000 39M
    39 posts
    3/24/2013 8:27 am

    good advice let me try out my luck.............

    DiscreteDavonte 39M
    2 posts
    3/28/2013 6:05 pm

    basically it sounds like researching someone

    phukbudy4u 60M

    3/31/2013 2:20 pm

    Ok another newbie question/observation.. Looks as though 90% of the profiles on here are couples looking for other couples to swing with and make new friends.. which is cool, but not much in here for a SINGLE guy looking for a woman to meet and hopefully connect with...
    Maybey they or me are on the wrong site? Not gonna make too many friends with this post but..wheres all the single women looking for something extra?

    rtx3 55M
    1 post
    4/13/2013 9:40 pm

    That all sounds good. But what about us cheap asses who are basic free members?

    Makeitnasty245 36M

    5/9/2013 1:39 pm

    i cannot flirt either..

    2NParadisse 48M/43F
    124 posts
    5/29/2013 2:31 am

    met my hot wife on this site. She is a thoroughbred and a trooper. She really likes it when we meet hot girls and couples for hot sex. No dudes, most of them suck. I can't complain. Well one thing, she is a professional/career woman so she does not spend as much time on the kitchen as I would like her to. But oh well, life can't be perfect. I am great at the grill anyways and we eat out a lot so it works out. I heard a lot about being a gentleman and being cool when meeting girls here: That's bullshit. Best way to find girls out here is to be honest. Keep your emails short. Tell her how you want to fuck her and pull her hair as you doggie bang her. Ask her if she is hot and what is she wearing. Tell her you jerk off to her pics. Do send her a few pics of your hard cock. If you get to meet with her just point her cute little head to your hard cock. If she is worth is she will go for it.

    2NParadisse 48M/43F
    124 posts
    5/29/2013 2:35 am

    99.99% profiles are very real of couples, guys or girls looking for genuine nsa immediate sex. most girls rather meet horny strangers online for no holds barred immediate sex than have real meaningful long term relationships with nice and gainfully employed men

    becca19691969 52F
    2 posts
    2/13/2014 9:54 am

    Yes and always ask there age send proof as the site doesn't verify peoples ages keep yourself save fair comment or what???

    becca19691969 52F
    2 posts
    2/13/2014 9:59 am

    yes have a look at my profile its shocking but approved they take your money and run thay don't give a damn about you lot gimme a break and not to check age mmmm asking for trouble or what ive looked a great deal into this site and also have a you tube video up people have been done on here for getting together with under age people thinking they are over 18yrs of age because is this not the policy of this site????

    BringintheHeat5 35M

    3/30/2014 8:29 am

    wish we could view profiles like women can. but instead we have to play the guessing game.

    rm_LisaCarver 58T
    487 posts
    4/10/2014 1:09 pm

    This is good advice guys, stop fighting it.

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