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These are the thoughts and ramblings of a BBW Domme and Cuckoldress from rural Northwestern Pennsylvania, now living in the Southern Tier of Western New York.

As I have gotten older, I've really come into my own in terms of D/s. At one time, my leanings were much more vanilla than they are now. Its Become a very important part of my life.

I've included erotica, both fiction and non, that I've written. Feel free to comment!
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Posted:Sep 25, 2021 9:36 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2022 3:54 am

Australian film director, screenwriter, and producer Baz Luhrmann (best known for The Red Curtain Trilogy) delivered this speech to a graduating 1997 college , dispensing important life lessons that may have not crossed their minds at that age.

The words are from Mary Schmich’s commencement speech essay, “Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the ”, which was published that same year.

Ladies and gentlemen of the of '97
Wear sunscreen

If I could offer you one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it
A long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists
Whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
Than my own meandering experience, I will dispense this advice now

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh, never mind
You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth
Until they've faded, but trust me, in 20 years, you'll back
photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now
How much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked
You are not as fat as you imagine

Don't worry about the future
Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing Bubble gum
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind
The kind that blindsides you at 4 p.m. On some idle Tuesday
Do one thing every day that scares you

Saying, don't be reckless with other people's hearts
Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours


Don't waste your time on jealousy
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind
The race is long and in the end, it's with yourself
Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults, if you succeed in doing this, tell me how
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements


Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life.
The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives
Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't
Get plenty of calcium
Be kind to your knees
You'll miss them when they're gone

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't
Maybe you'll have , maybe you won't
Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the 'Funky Chicken'
On your 75th wedding anniversary
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much
Or berate yourself either
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's

Enjoy your body, use it every way you can
Don't be afraid of it or what other people think of it
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room
Read the directions even if you don't follow them
Do not read beauty magazines, they will make you feel ugly

Brother and sister together we'll make it through
Some a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you've been hurting but I've been waiting to be there for you
And I'll be there just helping you whenever I can

Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good
Be nice to your siblings, they're your best link to your past
And the people most likely to stick with you in the future

Understand that friends come and go
But a precious few, who should hold on

Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
For as the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were
Live in New York City once but leave before it makes you hard
Live in northern California once but leave before it makes you soft

Accept certain inalienable truths
Prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too, will get old
And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were
Prices were reasonable, politicians were noble
And respected their elders

Respect your elders

Don't expect anyone else to support you
Maybe you have a trust , maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse
But you never know when either one might run

Never mess too much with your hair
Or by the time you're 40 it will 85

Be careful whose advice you but be patient with those who supply it
Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past
From the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts
And recycling it for more than it's worth

But trust on the sunscreen
Checking in..
Posted:Sep 21, 2021 5:24 pm
Last Updated:Sep 25, 2021 2:26 pm

Nothing much to say today..

Feeling a little out of sorts at the moment. Not entirely sure why. Work has been horrendous lately, and for the first time in a very long time, I'm trying to plan a vacation. I'm just not sure where I want to go.

Any suggestions?
Why? Just Why?
Posted:Sep 17, 2021 5:51 pm
Last Updated:Sep 18, 2021 5:41 pm
I will never understand why men feel the need to send me messages like this. And I get them all the time. They want to spank or, even worse, fuck the dominant out of me.

It's fucking offensive. Just stop.
Posted:Sep 13, 2021 6:27 pm
Last Updated:Oct 1, 2021 5:09 pm

Most of you have no idea who I am, or what I'm into, so here goes....

I am a Dominant woman. A Mistress, if you will I like submissive men. I like to cuckold submissive men. I like to bust their balls, ruin their orgasms, locked up their penises, and many other deliciously evil things.

My dream is to have a stable of subs. 3 of them, I think. I can handle that many; more would just be too much, I think. ( I am keyholding a young man in OK, but he's not that much work. Just tell him what a little bitch he is, and don't allow him out of chastity for a while.)

We would all live under the same roof, with each boy bringing a different skillset to the table. I figured it'll be a pipedream, but who knows?

I currently have a sub. He's my boyfriend,T, and I intend to cuckold him in the very near future with a SUPER HOT 28 yr old BBC. i am DYING to fuck this guy, and to force my bf to watch. I think "force" is a strong word, because he's super into the idea. Anyway, I met a new boy today. I told my boyfriend that since he lives some distance away (60 miles) and doesn't get here as often as he should, that I would be entertaining others. He understood he doesn't get a say, as I'm in charge, and it's my decision. The new boy, P, is wonderful! We spent about 2 and a half hours talking - he was a perfect gentleman, going so far as to ask for a hug before he left, and thanked me for trusting him to meet me. (The aussie accent didn't hurt either.) I inspected him, and put him in chastity for about an hour and a half and it was awesome. As he was leaving, he said he'd like to continue getting to know each other, and would like to see me again. AND he LOVES my stable idea for me!

I feel good about the meeting, and hope to see him again sooner rather than later.
Holy shit! It's Still Here!
Posted:Sep 11, 2021 11:46 pm
Last Updated:Sep 12, 2021 9:37 am
I suck, and not in the good way. Well, I do that too, but... you know what I mean.

I last posted to this blog two and a half years ago, with intentions of carrying on posting like the old days. Well, obviously, that didn't happen. Life got in the way. I'm nearly 53. I have 2 grandchildren. And I'm living alone for the first time in my adult life. It's great!!

There have been lots of twists and turns over the last couple of years for me, as well as the rest of the fucking world. I spent almost a year and half alone, except for going work. I dont like most people, so social distancing has been a breeze. But I was single, and it did get lonely.

It wasn't even really the sex I missed - lord knows, I'm a grown ass woman and know the best way get myself off. But I missed the companionship. Having someone beside me in my bed. Or sprawled over me like a goddamn spider monkey.

Fortunately, I'm in a relationship with my best boy, my sub t. I am waiting for the day I can cuckold him. It's literally been years, and i'm as excited as a on Christmas morning! Unfortunately, he lives an hour and a half away, so we don't get see each other often we'd like. I talked him this morning, and told him that because we can't be together like I want, I'm going to see about taking more subs fill my time, and keep me occupied. Not wannabes, who have never served and are curious, but subs who already have some experience, that I can dominate just for funsies. I'm looking at you, jt!

I look forward seeing where this goes....
Good Lord, It's Been A While
Posted:Feb 3, 2019 7:24 pm
Last Updated:Sep 12, 2021 7:37 am

It's been a very, very long time since I've posted on here, and frankly, I don't know why. Maybe life has gotten in the way. Maybe I've just been complacent. Or maybe I just haven't had anything to write about lately.

I've started going into the chat rooms again, so my guess is I'll have PLENTY of material in the future. I just need to keep kicking my own ass to stay motivated.
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Lazy site users
Posted:May 14, 2016 6:48 am
Last Updated:Feb 3, 2019 7:26 pm

I understand that non-subscribers can't view profiles. I get that (although if you're too cheap to pay for a subscription based site like this, it's unlikely I'll let you put your penis inside me anyway). But for a gold member, who is capable of reading a profile, flatly refusing to, and then call me a nut job because he doesn't like what I'm into? You're a fucking dumbass.

This is how the last conversation went:

Hotdumbass58: I'm single high sex drive 6.5 inches thick hard love to oral n fuck a lot high sex drive d&d free

Me: And?

Hotdumbass58: Would u like to oral n fuck a lot indoors and outdoors

Me: You didn't read my profile, did you?

Hotdumbass58: Do U like to oral n fuck alot

Me: You still didn't read my profile, did you?

Hotdumbass58: Let's fuck and find out do u like lots of fucking

Me: Is there something wrong with you?

Are you prepared to get fucked in the ass with my strapon? To never be allowed to penetrate me because your dick isn't big enough?

Hotdumbass58: Good bye what a crazy nut job omg

Now, my profile is PRETTY CLEAR about what I'm interested in. If you aren't into that, DON'T MESSAGE ME! I know what I'm looking for/want.
To all the cuck wannabes out there...
Posted:Mar 26, 2015 9:10 pm
Last Updated:Sep 19, 2021 7:28 am

Without the relationship, it's not cuckolding. It's just pretend.
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I didn't think you knew I was breathing...
Posted:Jan 29, 2015 5:23 pm
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2016 10:48 am

So, last night, I'm on the book of faces, Trivia Crackin' it up, as I'm apt do, and I get a PM. It was from Jeff L. I've known him since the sixth grade, but haven't laid eyes on the guy since the day we graduated from high school in 1986. (I moved 100 miles away from my hometown, and haven't been back since we buried my Grandma in 2006.) Anyhoo, he's making small talk about him work (he's a biochemist) and out of the blue tells me he's always regretted not asking me to prom.

Now, I'm not sure what to make of this, because he's actually the second guy to say that. They each had a terrible time at prom with the girls they went with, and think I would have been more fun? For the record, I'm sure I would have been, because my close friends knew I was brilliant and hilarious, but I wasn't really close to either of them, despite the fact that I sat next to/in front of Jeff for six years.

I told him that had he asked, I doubt I'd have gone with him. I didn't go to prom. I went to the movies instead with a non-threatening, came-out-as-soon-as-he-went-college classmate. Pizza Hut taco and a movie. I was ridiculously, painfully shy back then, choosing to appear more like wall paper than Most Outgoing . When I tell people that now, they think I'm lying. But it's true.

Jeff and I talked well into the night, finally saying our goodbyes around 2am. But not before he offered me his phone number and mentioned something about coming to visit when he's got some time off in the spring. I didn't encourage it, but didn't dissuade it either.

And he's married. Has a couple of teenaged boys. And wifey is a big girl too.

I have no idea what the hell to think about any of this. Just another Thursday, I guess....
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Let me whip out my red pen...
Posted:Jan 25, 2015 7:45 am
Last Updated:Feb 7, 2019 5:41 pm

I just got this message on IM:

"U like mi cock i like all sexy stuff i give u good fuk"

Well, fucking sign me up, Cyrano de fucking Bergerac!

It makes me sad that the use of punctuation has become a lost art. No, it's not even that. People have become so lazy that they don't even put forth the effort anymore. It can really be aggravating.

I have three daughters. When my oldest got her first cell phone, I told her, and her sisters, that if I received messages that were not punctuated, or were full of emojis and internet brevity that I wouldn't answer them. And if I received enough of them, I'd take the phone until she learned how to properly compose a sentence. The threat must have worked, because I get full sentences from all my girls. Now, I don't know what they send to their friends, but I know that if they send messages to any of the adults on either side of the familiy, they send a fully composed thought. I wish more people did.
Whips and chains? Not my gig.
Posted:Jan 20, 2015 3:24 pm
Last Updated:Feb 7, 2019 5:41 pm

My brand of Domination is different. I'm kind and playful. I'll consume your mind before I ever touch your body. You'll be hooked and won't be able to get enough. I will deeply seat myself in your mind and have it do my bidding. I'm an addiction...

I make it very clear who is in charge. When the time comes, you'll gladly kneel.

Thank you for all of the notes that read like fan mail. They really do mean a lot... But, keep in mind when you message I'm NOT EASY!!! Yes, there are naughty pics of me here but that doesn't guarantee if you message I'll message back... Messaging back doesn't mean I will sleep with you.

Don't mistake a big heart and an affable nature for weakness. I have quite the temper and once you ignite it, there's no holding it back.

I have a very dry and sarcastic wit (very Irish). I take after my Father... I'm very playful and tease a lot. . I'm always nice, even when I'm mean. I've got the good girl with the heart of gold and the wicked streak a mile long thing down to a science.

I'm naturally dominant. I guarantee you every person I'm involved with feels safe, accepted, loved, and special. All of my relationships are long-standing, I play for keeps. I'm an all or nothing kind of girl.

This is my nature. I'm complex and it takes a village to keep me happy. I have trouble staying connected to those who make me unhappy.

I just have a very wide deviant streak. I am in tune with all parts of myself, including my sexuality. I don't see nothing wrong with a little bump and grind...

Favorite things: manners, sass, Kentucky Bourbon and Irish Whisky, pizza, bagels, boutique hotels, unmade beds, making out, a perfectly cooked steak, and men who dress well and smell good.
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I can't unsee this
Posted:Jan 18, 2015 11:59 am
Last Updated:Feb 6, 2019 2:42 pm
I've seen plenty of sex toys over the years, and become akin to many, MANY fetishes, but this just...

No words. Save one.

So long, JD. It was a good run...
Posted:Jan 17, 2015 10:52 pm
Last Updated:Sep 18, 2021 5:41 pm

I had a lot of sex with a lot of people when I was very young. And I lived in a small town (of less than 600 people) so it could almost be a little incestous, fucking your friend's brother or uncle could have some pretty strong repercussions if your friend were to find out. But that's how small towns are.

When I was in my early 20s, I hooked up with a guy I met in a bar. He was in his 40s, separating from his wife, and REALLY liked me. He won me over by serenading me with "Groovy Kind of Love" and we hooked up. A lot. Like, a WHOLE lot.

JD wasn't that great a kisser, and his dick wasn't that big, but he was the first man I was with that appreciated big girls, and loved to eat pussy. He was a little guy, maybe 5'4 and weighed 130 pounds soaking wet. I had at least 60 pounds on him. We were an odd couple, to say the least. But we had a lot of fun together.

One night, after we had fooled around, we were talking, and he asked me why I wouldn't go out with him on a real date. I sheepishly told him I could never go out with him, because of his , Aaron. He asked me why, and I told him that I'd been with Aaron some years before. I expected him to be a little angry, or at least put off, but he just laughed and said "I know. Who do you think told me how good you were?" Small towns. It was shortly after that I met my husband, so JD and I didn't see each other anymore.

Anyway, JD passed away today. Cancer. I can't talk to anybody about the nature of our relationship, so I thought I'd say goodbye here. You were a sweet man and I will always remember you fondly.

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