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Ideas for community building?  

Andrew 53M  
2430 posts
7/9/2006 4:10 pm

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Ideas for community building?

After a month focusing on bugs, we are starting
to plan out the next few months of development
and would love to get your ideas on things you'd
like to see that could help foster more interaction
on this site.

I'll start with a few ideas that we're prioritizing
to get your feedback as well as spur discussion of
other ideas. Let's focus this thread on things to
improve groups, blogs, and advice lines.

- add albums to groups (we are almost done with this feature)

- list new and recently visited members in a group

- enable blog owners and group moderators to limit posters to people in their friends list

- enable group moderators to specify how many days a post is "stuck" to the top of the list

Comments? Others?


flagg134 41M
1582 posts
7/9/2006 7:35 pm

Yes please go back to the old way of posting things on the advice lines where posts were left in the order they occured not by the latest response on it. The volume of responses on the AL is much greater than groups and people tend to post on what is on top so things get stuck there for days. Its hard to pull out the new questions and because of that many get ignored which causes less people to post questions.

I like the way that works in the groups as some things warrant long discussion or others are long running games so don't change that. The volume of posters is much lower and things don't tend to get stuck as much.

Lastly I do agree with SSS above that there should be an ignore poster option. Much like you have in chat or blogs where their posts just don't show up to you. It seems ignorance is the only way to deal with this troll as getting rid of him for good is impossible. At least this way many people wont have to read his vitrolic attacks on people.

RF


Andrew replies on 7/9/2006 11:24 pm:
Thanks!

NTTs_ilsuconu 64M

7/9/2006 7:53 pm

Regardless of what you call them, those "Active Blogs" etc. lists are still promotions for a popularity contest. It shouldn't be about popularity. Good blogs are often overlooked, and new blogs are often discouraged because people tend to go to the "Most Popular" ones. The "Popular" people are then considered to be so special that others tend to feel inferior, or not welcome. It's like some kind of exclusive club for the elite, and not a public place for anyone who wants to be here. Get rid of the lists. They seem to serve no useful function other than to stroke some people's egos while intimidating the others who, by the way, are in the majority. The extra space gained could be used to keep entire individual watch lists displayed on the "front page" or use more space for random cycling of more blogger photos. Another section could be used to show recent posts according to certain categories; stories, advice, poetry, etc.


Andrew replies on 7/9/2006 11:25 pm:
Got a better way to identify "good" blogs?

steamyandsexybi 48F
2783 posts
7/9/2006 7:57 pm

YES! WE ALL DO AGREE WITH SSS on her ideas! The sooner, THE BETTER...PLEASE!

Oh!!..How about NOT sending a "standard reply" email response when a member has to contact the abuse dept. or any other department for any "troubles/concerns" that the member might have.?? Each individual member here needs some viable assurance to make sure their concerns/complaints are being handled directly and have them all taken care of PROMPTLY. By the site sending the standard emails for responses as their answer just is NOT cutting it! The site has lost many members (long time,paying AND non paying) members and still alot more who are on the brink of leaving too.- ALL mainly due to the above requests!,and this one. Thank you!


Andrew replies on 7/9/2006 11:26 pm:
Interesting - I didn't know that they were sending out
a "canned" email for these types of emails. Can you
forward one to me?

steamyandsexybi 48F
2783 posts
7/9/2006 8:03 pm

Another one...
When I block someone, adjust the site as to where the member I blocked CANNOT see any activity I do on here at all! NOTHING! Its been discussed with other members also. Not just me.
Right now, I have blocked people and they can still do everything else except send winks and/or emails. WHOO~HOO! Thats not enough. Blocked means BLOCKED! That should mean, that certain member I block cannot see NOTHING of me or any of my activity. Thank ya again!


Andrew replies on 7/9/2006 11:27 pm:
Ah, for example, the can't view your profile if you block them?

steamyandsexybi 48F
2783 posts
7/9/2006 8:07 pm

By the way, we dont work for the site...so, by giving you all our ideas, do we get a piece of the pie? haha...just kidding! We seem to be doing more than the staff does!

Well, its true.(hehe)


Andrew replies on 7/9/2006 11:28 pm:
We are coordinating a focus group (e.g., party) in the next
few weeks... pie included

MyHeartLost4U 57M  
2487 posts
7/9/2006 8:37 pm

I think SexySensualSane suggestion of a "Ignore feature" would be great to have in the magazine sections; however, in a large community of active members it can have it draw backs too by an offensive member spreading rumors and lies about another member on the boards for other members to read and judge another member by. Normally it takes the offended member that is mentioned in a posting to file a complaint with the abuse team against a member to having the abuse team to doing anything about it; unfortunately there are many times the abuse team does not handle the situation. For instance I have already reported a member that posted here in another topic Ideas to combat profile fraud (last posting in it) with placing my photo along with another member and Andrews, I do not appreciate the insinuations and accusations of that posting with my photo attached in it as saying I am a "brown noser". I do not kiss anyone's ass and I mean not anyone's ass. I find it as a form of defamation of character and leaves members to make false judgment of members by reading a posting like that one; consequently, postings as that one tend to causes conflicts amongst active members on this site and disturbances. Anyways, we all have assholes; therefore, we all have opinions too.

Groups One thing I would like to see is that voting's in groups can be disabled by the moderator as it is done in the Blogs and possibly a way the group chat room can be turned off by the moderator of a group. Some members become offended by others voting on them. The reason is that voting's can be used as a tool of abuse by another member towards another member\members; it is a psychological weapon used against a member\members at times which I have seen many times used as forcing a member\members to losing their temper or leaving a group, in addition it can cause an entire group disturbances and lead to the activity in a group to decrease. Majority of Moderators want their groups to be a friendly enjoyable active area of the site for members to meet and have conversations; yet certain features such as the voting in groups can be a monkey wrench in a smooth operating group. Since adding the "Poll" to the groups, I see no reasons that groups need a voting feature, since the majority of groups I been member of or looked inside do not use it or even want it.

  • "enable group moderators to specify how many days a post is "stuck" to the top of the list" This would be quite beneficial for many moderators of groups

  • "enable blog owners and group moderators to limit posters to people in their friends list"

    I have not heard this idea brought up by any member in the past for being added to groups, would be interesting to hear more thoughts on this one.

  • "list new and recently visited members in a group"

    I have mixed emotions on this one, some members may think or believe they are being followed around the site by another member and it might cause a conflict with some members of groups; on the other hand, it can also help put a stop on some of it too. Catch22

    The Magazine\Advice Lines I much preferred the older format of posting orders from newer posting at top to older postings on bottom. The new format tends to drown out new articles or new questions being asked in those forums from being seen and read or replied to because some members are holding conversations in them (a lot times not even based on the topic posted). It works great in the groups because of being more a discussion and conversation forum for a "group of members" to meet in, but in my opinion the Magazine Section and Advice Lines are not Groups and are for members to give feedback to the author of the topic that was posted and not meant to being a "meeting place" for members to hold conversations in those postings. I really believe some of the old programming designs of the Magazine Sections Format from 2 years ago were far more better then what it is now ; the only thing the majority members were not happy with back then was the posting lags (delays), they just wanted a little more speed for their replies to being seen and read.


  • MyHeartLost4U 57M  
    2487 posts
    7/9/2006 8:46 pm

    I think SexySensualSane suggestion of a "Ignore feature" would be great to have in the magazine sections; however, in a large community of active members it can have it draw backs too by an offensive member spreading rumors and lies about another member on the boards for other members to read and judge another member by. Normally it takes the offended member that is mentioned in a posting to file a complaint with the abuse team against a member to having the abuse team to doing anything about it; unfortunately there are many times the abuse team does not handle the situation. For instance I have already reported a member that posted here in another topic Ideas to combat profile fraud (last posting in it) with placing my photo along with another member and Andrews, I do not appreciate the insinuations and accusations of that posting with my photo attached in it as saying I am a "brown noser". I do not kiss anyone's ass and I mean not anyone's ass. I find it as a form of defamation of character and leaves members to make false judgment of members by reading a posting like that one; consequently, postings as that one tend to causes conflicts amongst active members on this site and disturbances. Anyways, we all have assholes; therefore, we all have opinions too.

    Groups One thing I would like to see is that voting's in groups can be disabled by the moderator as it is done in the Blogs and possibly a way the group chat room can be turned off by the moderator of a group. Some members become offended by others voting on them. The reason is that voting's can be used as a tool of abuse by another member towards another member\members; it is a psychological weapon used against a member\members at times which I have seen many times used as forcing a member\members to losing their temper or leaving a group, in addition it can cause an entire group disturbances and lead to the activity in a group to decrease. Majority of Moderators want their groups to be a friendly enjoyable active area of the site for members to meet and have conversations; yet certain features such as the voting in groups can be a monkey wrench in a smooth operating group. Since adding the "Poll" to the groups, I see no reasons that groups need a voting feature, since the majority of groups I been member of or looked inside do not use it or even want it.

  • "enable group moderators to specify how many days a post is "stuck" to the top of the list"

    This would be quite beneficial for many moderators of groups

  • "enable blog owners and group moderators to limit posters to people in their friends list"

    I have not heard this idea brought up by any member in the past for being added to groups, would be interesting to hear more thoughts on this one.

  • "list new and recently visited members in a group"

    I have mixed emotions on this one, some members may think or believe they are being followed around the site by another member and it might cause a conflict with some members of groups; on the other hand, it can also help put a stop on some of it too. Catch22

    The Magazine\Advice Lines I much preferred the older format of posting orders from newer posting at top to older postings on bottom. The new format tends to drown out new articles or new questions being asked in those forums from being seen and read or replied to because some members are holding conversations in them (a lot times not even based on the topic posted). It works great in the groups because of being more a discussion and conversation forum for a "group of members" to meet in, but in my opinion the Magazine Section and Advice Lines are not Groups and are for members to give feedback to the author of the topic that was posted and not meant to being a "meeting place" for members to hold conversations in those postings. I really believe some of the old programming designs of the Magazine Sections Format from 2 years ago were far more better then what it is now ; the only thing the majority members were not happy with back then was the posting lags (delays), they just wanted a little more speed for their replies to being seen and read.

    Nick


    Andrew replies on 7/9/2006 9:58 pm:
    As always, you have great comments - thanks!

  • Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/9/2006 9:00 pm

    Well, I can think of one bug-fix that would add more interaction on the site but it has nothing to do with blogs,groups,or advice lines...lol. Keep members profiles from being deleted from the site. Mine has been deleted 3 times in one week.


    Andrew replies on 7/9/2006 11:30 pm:
    Hmmm... did customer service tell you what was going on? There are many reasons why this could have happened - I'm glad to see you here

    NTTs_ilsuconu 64M

    7/10/2006 12:14 am

    "Better way to identify 'good' blogs..."

    Is it necessary to really identify them? The readers will decide-- if they like it, they'll keep reading it; if not, the writer will get the hint.


    TechSteve 54M

    7/10/2006 6:04 am

      Quoting  :

    I agree with Trilogy and NTTsilsuconus comments.

    I noticed some of the "popular" bloggers do things they would not do if there was no list.

    For example, one of them goes around welcoming new bloggers and refers them to her blog. She is not really welcoming them. She is advertising. I doubt she would do this if there was NO list.

    Many of the "popular" bloggers stay there because many members keep them there by using the "popular" blogs to advertise themselves. Unless they have write something really good, I stay away.

    I agree with SSS regarding the ignore poster option. I mentioned that in the Rants and Raves a year ago as a joke. I never thought someone else would come up with that idea.

    I would prefer the old way of questions showing up in the Advice Lines section of the magazine. I agree with Sexyeyes.

    It has been asked in the past, but the lists on the Group home page should be abolished, specifically the MOST ACTIVE GROUP MEMBERS list. Recently, three more people got carried away with posting and admitted it was to be '1, 2, 3' on that list. It is sad that some middle aged people have such empty lives that posting a lot of nonsense is a big accomplishment. Get rid of it please.

    Steve


    Andrew replies on 7/10/2006 9:59 am:
    thanks

    twoofusincbus 59M/55F
    75 posts
    7/10/2006 6:39 am

    All the stuff you're working on sounds good. And I really like the "MegaBlock" function that people are talking about. To me the major problem with the site, however, is the speed. I know it's a huge networking proposition, and I know you're dependent to some extent on the Internet, but AsianMatchMate.com is often a lot slower than it should be. Two things are tied for a close second, the "review" process and the fake users. The review process tends to run slowly. Is it really necessary to review every blog entry? Why not wait for a complaint and then review? Seems to me that would lower the workload and allow for more scrutiny of new accounts, thus addressing that other issue.

    We like the site. This is our second go-round here. We were on in the late nineties for about a year and had no complaints, IIRC. Left to have a couple of kids and just returned in November. It's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a moneymaker. Addressing these issues would take it a good bit farther!

    Thanks for your work, and thanks for caring.


    Andrew replies on 7/10/2006 10:52 am:
    thx

    MoonRise9 63M

    7/10/2006 6:40 am

    SPEED UP THE SYSTEM. I have many friends who have left or spend less time here, and go to competing dating sites, because your server or whatever takes so long to update.


    Andrew replies on 7/10/2006 10:52 am:
    ongoing

    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/10/2006 8:13 am

    luvpump, no the didnt tell me why it was happening. I figured I just got kicked out for some reason...


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/10/2006 8:20 am

    luvpump, no the didnt tell me why it was happening. I figured I just got kicked out for some technical reason. whatever it is it happens after I have already logged in and i can always tell cause if I pull up a profile all of a sudden it says 'cant read member info'. So I try to log back in again and it wont let me. last night it happened when I clicked on a link to visit my group chat room and I was suddenly logged out and couldnt log back in. I have been in that chat room before and never had a problem though. the other nights that it happened I hadnt even been in there...


    giasine 47F

    7/10/2006 8:35 am

    I think the "Block-Me-From-Seeing-This-Jerk's-Posts" proposition is a good idea. It should be set up so that if I don't want to ever see posts made by "So-n-So," then when I select that feature, I should see nothing coming from "So-n-So's" IP address. This is because as people said: The neighborhood asswipes set up multiple profiles simply to come on here and harrass others.

    A comment I have is regarding pics and the screening of pics... I have seen profiles of members who say they are in the United States, are under 21-years-of-age, yet they have posted pics of themselves drinking alcohol. I have also seen pics of (and comments by) members whom I really question as to whether they are truly over 18. I think a good portion of harrassment on this site may be coming from bored adolescents who are posing as someone they are not- and looking to amuse themselves by being annoying. Perhaps ID verification may have to be mandatory?

    I used to post in the Advice Lines alot, but quit because I got sick of all the tripe that kept getting posted: Flame wars, non-serious questions, hate, bigotry, racism, advertising, etc... It got old very fast.


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/10/2006 8:36 am

    One thing that I have noticed is that when you click on a topic to join a group, the list of groups and how many posts it has has not updated in over a month. For example, if you click on the breast fetish category you will see my group 'big tit lovers' there and it still says that it has 697 members and 9,102 posts the amount of members is correct (697 active members that is) but the amount of posts has stayed the same for over a month now. I like to know how many posts my group has mainly to see how many per day on average that we get, so I can see if the activity is speeding up or slowing down; and plus I have new groups too, so it would be nice if it updated so that when we get enough posts it will show up under that list and get noticed. as it stands now, people have to click on view all to even be able to see it. which leads me to another idea....have a list for new groups on the main page of groups, this way the newer groups can get seen and noticed.


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/10/2006 10:31 am

    bud, there is already a way for you to indicate what type of friends that person is in your friends list. Ex: cyber only, or general etc..there is a whole list of them...


    fsuliber 47M

    7/10/2006 10:36 am

    I'm sure you know blocking users by IP address is not really an option since the majority of users are on dynamic IP addresses. More likely will not block the one you want to block and block those you don't want to.

    I would ask for the addition of a second group moderator, like an associate group moderator. In one of my groups, the moderator was replace by someone else. Our original moderator gave his username and password to another trusted member who would delete posts when they violated the group rules. It would be nice if there wasn't a work around but that this other individual had the rights to remove the posts.

    Thanks!


    fsuliber 47M

    7/10/2006 10:38 am

    I'm sure you know blocking users by IP address is not really an option since the majority of users are on dynamic IP addresses. More likely will not block the one you want to block and block those you don't want to.

    I would ask for the addition of a second group moderator, like an associate group moderator. In one of my groups, the moderator was replace by someone else because of a bug. Our original moderator gave his username and password to another trusted member who would delete posts when they violated the group rules. It would be nice if there wasn't a work around but that this other individual had the rights to remove the posts.

    Thanks!


    Andrew replies on 7/22/2006 11:33 pm:
    sounds like a good idea to share a moderator... groups
    have a way for moderator to hand off a group - but might
    be able to give multiple moderators.

    JuicyBBW1001 59F

    7/10/2006 7:45 pm

    I think if you ban a person from posting in your blog they should not be allowed to even watch or visit your blog at all. Just my humble opinion.

    Juicy


    Andrew replies on 7/22/2006 11:35 pm:
    on list

    nikid_64 57F

    7/10/2006 7:58 pm

    I have a problem with dead weight in my network. Once a person leaves the site they should be deleted from everything or I should be allowed to delete them myself. If you block someone from emails and winks they shouldn't be allowed to view your profile or blog. I'm done thank you so much for your time.

    Niki


    Andrew replies on 7/22/2006 11:35 pm:
    we're doing that now - that was done about a month ago

    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/10/2006 7:59 pm

    I agree with juicy, I wish there was a way also for us to disable our blogs from showing on our profile, at times.. i would like to be able to have people see it, but there was a time when a guy emailed me a nasty comment for no reason and after i told him i reported him he kept visiting my blog...worst part is he is only about 60 miles from me....so sometimes it would be nice to be able to hide our blog posts on our own profile...


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/10/2006 8:51 pm

    I definitely agree with kofla, I went into the advice lines and such for a very short time and came out of it because of the rudeness and abusive comments to innocent members. They are like trolls under the bridge just waiting for someone to abuse...


    puntachueca 110M

    7/10/2006 8:56 pm

    How about AsianMatchMate.com hosting a blogger convention or whatever?

    You have an amazing bunch of people blogging, and some really amazing writers.

    Hold it somewhere in the middle of the country with good airline connections...


    Andrew replies on 7/22/2006 11:39 pm:
    sounds good - we're trying to get a way to have meetings -
    don't know how to avoid a meeting scheduled as someone's
    house (e.g., from ex boyfriend)

    rm_RatMaster_69 52M

    7/11/2006 8:40 am

    You know what nicky dragon boy you can report me all you want.

    Andrew I do things on this site for all to see that it actually is possible instead of whining and crying to who ever is the chief wha wha baby. And that's what the post your1 dream lover is mentioning. I chose those photos because all three of you are the biggest liars on a.f.f. you have this blog trying to sugar coat all your sites flaws while you do nothing about them ripping off your members. Techsteve has gone from one end of a.ff to the other stick his nose in everyones business and stirring up shit everywhere. I myself and my wife have reported him many times to no avail simply because your staff and yourself simply don't care as you would like to have people believe. and dear sweet nicky poo. ever since I first heard of this guy he goes around talking about some dumbass dragon in him and how controversial he thinks he is. He posts here trying to make himself look good to you when everywhere else he posts he cuts this site to ribbons and blames you and your staff and members of this site he don't like for every lil glitch he experiences. So see I'm not the only mother fucker on this site. And all four of us aren't the only ones either. The difference between all four of us is I'm not afraid to stand up when my name is called. I've been banned from this site more times than I can remember and I don't give a shit how many times will come. The folks I inter act with here accept who I am and we get along fine... not everyone will be friends or friendly. And that's what you all can't handle if people aren't kissing your asses 24/7 you do what you can to drive them away. So I for one see straight through all your alls holier than thou bullshit and spit it right back in your face. Here you go nick report this as well.

    your1dreamlover-the castrated dragon/ TCO-the crying one

    techsteve-daddy's special lil' sperm werm.

    luvpump-Daddy the dragon castrator...all out of peanut butter.

    ratmaster_69-just lil'ol' me an innocent peanut butter vendor who donates his proceeds to the home for criminally insane and humane society.

    You people have no appreciation for the emotionally exceptional. your supposed to be kind to the handicap....you fuckers. And as always go fuck yourselves and have a nice day.....no wait you all have a peachy day sounds as some could use the fiber, but diffenently go fuck yourselves.


    rm_RatMaster_69 52M

    7/11/2006 8:48 am

    hey triple S give me his name and I'll go give him a dose of his own medicine. It would be my pleasure to. And besides other than false claims by Andy that's all that will be done to him through a.f.f .


    rm_RatMaster_69 52M

    7/11/2006 10:12 am

    Ok I'm ba ck again ... I actually read some of the more reasonable folks here this time.

    So Now It's time to prove how retarded I am about computers. I've wanted to ask this for a while. What the fuck is the difference between the groups and blogs on this site? Seriously I want to know. As i see it and has been admitted insome replies here there the same shit. Folks here start groups to talk about shit that interests or concerns them and other likeminded individuals. And this is exactly the same reason they start blogs. So why have both features on this site that appears to either have no one that knows how to fix shit or is simply overloaded due to shitty equipment. Just like all the profiles that are no longer in use. I know for a fact I've lost several prolie info and they remain active here all this such crap overloads the best of servers and is real easy to fix, delete the shit. Just like groups there's a lnik to delete your group but it don't delete shit. the groups I've finished with get completely erased and sent in to a.f.f oblivion. I simply post delete this group and send it off into a.f.f space. All this type stuff is what causes a lot of wear and tear on this site so why not simply allow members or mods or whatever delete the shit they nolonger have use of. And let me interupt myself a minute I fully know my words here will be simply ignored and I don't give a shit. So why two different features that do the exact same thing. I'd say get rid of groups and keep blogs because groups are all about the mods anyway just like blogs but blogs don't try to hide it. And there's always live chat rooms and avatar rooms to have live chat in. everything else in groups is bitched about and memers get banned for like ghosting or parking or spamming. So how do you stop bitches from bitching take them out. I also heard rumor that a.f.f was going to fully automate groups do this then it can't be any worse than the way it is. And you don't have to worry about folks showing favoritism. which is basically what most of this is about.


    TechSteve 54M

    7/11/2006 10:53 am

      Quoting rm_RatMaster_69:
      Mr. Andrew Conru... Hello sir i'm a fairly new member of your wonderful site and I was wonderfuling if you could see fit to give me a years gold membership for no other reason than because your just one hellof a guy and my bestest friend ever.

      Hey their right this ass kissing brown nosing shit is kinda fun. especially since I know I'm lying through my teeth..... ooooops did i just say that out loud.... Dam their goes my gold membership.

      Oh well how bout some cheez got any cheez.
    I wont report you.

    You are right. What good would it do ?

    I dont report anything unless it involves serious threats or serious violations of the TOUs.

    You just admitted here that you and your wife are snitches.

    Isnt that something you speak out against ?

    You and your wife wouldnt like it if people went into your group or blog and totally disrespected you, but you have no problems doing it to other people. Or maybe I am wrong ?

    I noticed you tried to be a member of the moderator group and you were denied.

    This is the reason you were denied. Their credibility as a group would be down the toilet.

    I read your blog and I feel sorry for you.

    Get some help.

    Steve


    sexymamma662003 36F

    7/11/2006 1:05 pm

    well all the suggestions sound great.

    but even after you block someone you can add a feature that they cant veiw you anymore. but the bad part about that is that anyone who know the internet knows that all they have to do is google somones handle and they can read there blog anyways so that would work

    ~sexy~


    MissAnnThrope 61F
    11481 posts
    7/11/2006 4:03 pm

    A few issues I'm having...

    In chat options, no one with capital letters in their handles can be removed from ignore. No matter how many times you try. Yes, we've all written, but nothing has been done about it.

    The spell check is suddenly not working when I add a new blog post. The preview post button right next to it is working fine, but not the spell check. It works fine in comments, but not in add a new post. This has started in the past few days.

    I can't remove people who have left the site from my network, with this new feature where you can only see active members.

    I would love to see something done about the blog bots. A number of us have written to abuse, I've even led them to the modeling sites where the photos were stolen. No matter how many complaints they get, the bots stay up. Two, where I pointed them right to where they stole their pics, were taken down for two days, but have miraculously reappeared. It's probably wrong to call them bots, as it's some sort of game that's being played. One claims to be in West Palm Beach, but when "she" gets men into IMs, she tells them how she's stuck in Brazil at the moment. Yet nothing is done.

    New members are becoming increasingly abusive and when you say something to them, they go on about how if we women don't want to fuck anything that asks, what are we doing on a site that promises in the ads that they can get laid within hours of joining and why aren't we women on e harmony instead if we want lovers? Seriously, if you want to build a community, those ads really do have to change. Especially when you consider the number of portals that feed into this one and aren't advertised quite the same way. I know sex sells and fantasy sells even more, but it's the ever decreasing number of women on the site who have to deal with social lepers who make Comic Book Guy from "The Simpsons" look hot and who can't even get laid at last call who think hot women who look like porn stars and are under 25 should be lining up to do them. This is one of the reasons that so many women who used this site for years successfully are leaving. Slight changes would in theory cut down on the number of abusive members and keep women from leaving.

    I would love to see inactive profiles that haven't been accessed in four or five years just deleted from the system. These people aren't coming back. It would nice to see their handles released into the wild. I know of one who really is dead, but her family never sent the death certificate. People from the now-defunct East Coast Room made the trip for her funeral a few years ago. Yet her profile remains. There are various profiles in the NYC area where the last visit was 9/10/01. I don't think they're coming back either. Yet it's active members who are lost in databases errors, never anyone who hasn't been on in years.

    I would also like to see in the browse feature, the people who are active being listed over inactive members. Like go to the top of your respective group according to your last log in. There are active members who are so far back, they're behind people who haven't logged on in a year or two. Other sites do that, instead of putting you in place when you sign up and leaving you there, to be lost in the shuffle.

    Finally, (I know, I'm a whiny, demanding bitch) I really would like to see the how to stay safe online link higher up than the very bottom of the page. And what happened to the IQ test?


    Andrew replies on 7/22/2006 11:54 pm:
    thanks - will add on list

    IQ test was deprecated from main page (I think when
    we "upgraded" the SexAcademy)

    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/11/2006 6:31 pm

    "I would love to see something done about the blog bots. A number of us have written to abuse, I've even led them to the modeling sites where the photos were stolen. No matter how many complaints they get, the bots stay up. Two, where I pointed them right to where they stole their pics, were taken down for two days, but have miraculously reappeared. It's probably wrong to call them bots, as it's some sort of game that's being played. One claims to be in West Palm Beach, but when "she" gets men into IMs, she tells them how she's stuck in Brazil at the moment. Yet nothing is done."

    If they are saying they are stuck in another country somewhere then they are scammers trying to get money from you. They will ask you for help and for you to send any kind of money that you can once they get you into your private IM. I know cause a friend had that happen to her not long ago, not by these bots though...My friend said they are very persistent too, even after you tell them that you cant and all, and if you try to tell them them that you cant because you wont send money by credit card or check then they will continue to persist saying that you can send it by western union and all.


    Andrew replies on 7/22/2006 11:55 pm:
    I think better abuse tools on aug 16 release

    sleeplessknight1 73M

    7/12/2006 5:54 am

    Re albums in groups...
    cant say I have a point of vew on this..... do not really see why the feature is needed...

    Re list new and recently visited members in groups....
    again do not see why this feature is required.... not sure if it adds anything to a group home page.... just another list...
    I would not want any feature that might discourage a person from joining..... if they just want to read, do not see why they need to be highlighted......

    Re limiting of posts...
    can understand why this may be useful in blogs, but really do not think it is appropriate to groups..... a better way would be to have an option where people want a group to be by "invitation only"...

    Re top of the postsI like the idea of being able to fix a post at the top of a group list... for a specified period....

    Other suggestions
    Dump the "most active posters in groups" list......
    Never could see why that was there, or its usefulness....... as far as far as I can see it only encourages some to abuse the system.....

    Thank you for permitting me to comment
    sleeplessknight


    Andrew replies on 7/22/2006 11:58 pm:
    Thanks - I believe we will be added "most recently joined"
    members. The most active is to show who's participating more.

    MyHeartLost4U 57M  
    2487 posts
    7/12/2006 9:58 am

    luvpump replies on 7/10/2006 2:28 am: We are coordinating a focus group (e.g., party) in the next few weeks... pie included



    I hope when this group has been created that you mentioned, that I will be invited to that party

    Nick


    MyHeartLost4U 57M  
    2487 posts
    7/12/2006 10:02 am

    luvpump replies on 7/10/2006 2:28 am:
    We are coordinating a focus group (e.g., party) in the next
    few weeks... pie included

    I hope when this group has been created that you mentioned, that I will be invited to that party Nick


    rm_Anothermwf 110F

    7/12/2006 1:02 pm

    "I would love to see something done about the blog bots. A number of us have written to abuse, I've even led them to the modeling sites where the photos were stolen. No matter how many complaints they get, the bots stay up. Two, where I pointed them right to where they stole their pics, were taken down for two days, but have miraculously reappeared. It's probably wrong to call them bots, as it's some sort of game that's being played. One claims to be in West Palm Beach, but when "she" gets men into IMs, she tells them how she's stuck in Brazil at the moment. Yet nothing is done."

    If they are fake blogs why let it bother you? They are fake, all they are doing is bringing in a bunch of men leaving flirty comments to what could possibly be another male on the other end.

    I think I know some of these blogs are you are complaining about, I wrote about one a few weeks ago just because I couldn't believe someone had enough time in a day to do 25 post. I was going to play his/her game and copy all what he/she wrote into my blog but I decided to watch a movie instead.

    As for AsianMatchMate.com doing something about these questionable post. I say let it go. Pretty soon these fake blogs will dominate the most popular page. Now wouldn't that be fitting for AsianMatchMate.com, One hillbilly and a bunch of fake blogs representing the "best writting" on AsianMatchMate.com.


    Andrew replies on 7/22/2006 11:59 pm:
    The best way to address bots are still member
    involvement - but we're a team

    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/12/2006 3:08 pm

    I have suggestion, and this could be for groups and blogs (and I think this was suggested before by someone else). Why not enable us to post a small thumbnail in blog and group posts and replies? Of course there would have to be a size limit, but thats normal..even for profile pics. Do you think it would be too much? I mean a pic of something other than what is on the persons profile...


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:00 am:
    On the list

    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/13/2006 9:16 am

    Sure would be great if interest group mods had the chance to create something like a "new topic intro". This block of text is displayed on the page where members post NEW TOPICS, as opposed to replies. You could even have a link there to the gruop FAQ, if you got one. Mods edit it on the same page as their other gruop settings.

    I can't tell ya how many mods are frustrated with the number of "Are there any ladies here in Outer Mongolia who wanna **ck?" topics. I usually have to remove several of these every day *sigh*, even though the group intro is pretty explicit about no individual contact requests, and I have a second group FOR personal ads! This suggestion would at least reduce that number by putting the info where it's needed.

    It would also be nice if the words "Post New Message" on interest group home pages were changed to "Post NEW TOPIC" (this helps to clue newbies into the diffo between new topics and replies). After all "topic" is the term of art used around here, in fact it appears *right below* the words "Post New Message". A newbie who read words carefully would probably wonder, "wow what's the diffo between a topic and a message?"

    BTW, why doesn't this site have a "tour" ? You know, like a little slideshow that guides newbies by the hand. Those aren't too hard to build, you know. I suggest you start small by doing a 3- or 4-pager one for blogs, and see if it gets used. Might pay off in the end by saving time for support.


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:03 am:
    thanks

    I know the graphics team is working on workshop for the
    registration process... will see after they get that done

    marnison 84F

    7/13/2006 2:52 pm

    I've noticed that...only "CERTAIN" people get responded to ...on this blog/post

    What's the criteria for a response????
    asking for pie???

    hmmph
    Marni
    NOT smiling


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:05 am:
    Oh, sorry for being so random... it takes alot of
    time to address each post... I have an assistant who
    helps make a list but I read most of these (eventually).
    Yes, apple pie is always welcome... even american pie.

    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/13/2006 7:09 pm

      Quoting  :

    For what it may be worth.. the four biggest complaints I get from my group members, in no particular order are: 1) rudeness in the chat room, 2) lost profiles, 3) lost or missing posts, and 4) "can't get into chat."

    I have a long list of things-to-do about "can't get into chat" like I explain how to clear cookies, unjoin/rejoin, etc., but there are still people who can't get in. And #1 is what me and the chat mods have to work on, but 2-4 are beyond our control.

    If I could get two of those three last ones fixed, I'd be a super happy camper. Even one would be majorly dandy doodles. But then again, I don't pay the bills ...all I can do is hope lol.

    BTW my members don't seem real impressed with tech support, even the premium ones.


    hornylilgirl78 111F

    7/13/2006 8:32 pm

    Just a sugestion for the blogs. Since everyone is always up in arms about the active blogs list. Why not make the list an "Actively Watched" list instead of a comment list? It would give more opportunity to those others out there, instead of just those who can recruit posters. (Not dissing on the "popular" bloggers...I read most of them regularly, but sometimes it does seem like they are comment whoring a bit just to stay on top.)

    And slots do need to be more random. Although I do have to say that at least with them, I occassionally do see a blogger I may not have seen otherwise. Can't there be a random blog generator that include all bloggers?

    Just a thought.

    ~Hornylil~

    ~HLG78~

    "As kinky as a cheap garden hose!"


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:12 am:
    Actively watched doesn't change that much tho - you
    still watch inactive blogs.

    OK, you guys win... I'll expand # of slot candiates
    from top 200(just checked) to top 500.

    sexymamma662003 36F

    7/13/2006 9:16 pm

    how about having your staff actaully read stuff.

    i have changed a few things in my group and it was denied saying i posted contact info. wich i didnt mayeb they should read what is being written instead of just clicking stuff.

    and how about haveing the groups posts updated faster it is rediculouse when it takes 10 hours to see a new post

    ~sexy~


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:15 am:
    premium members will see new posts instantly in
    next code release (2 weeks).

    NSAAddict 47F

    7/13/2006 9:38 pm

    Andrew, thanks as always for asking for suggestions and feedback from your members. While I could ask for a million things, I'm only going to beg for 5

    1) Please stop allowing people who are not members to view the blogs from google. They can easily view people's pics and blogs just from clicking "I'm 18, let me see the blogs". It scares me that anyone can find my blog without being a member here. This should only be allowed by people who register for the site, standards and paying members.

    2) Please, pretty, pretty please let us include pics within blog text. One way to do this is to let us have a blog album that we can then html link pics into our blogs. Or even letting us link our network album pics into the blogs. PLEASE??

    3) You asked about promoting the community. The blog community is one of the best on the internet, it's the main reason why I remain on this site. How about hosting a convention or AsianMatchMate.com Tour bus with bloggers touring the nation? I know far fetched but, it'd be awesome to have a huge AsianMatchMate.com meet and greet, even as an add on to a porn convention. Think about it ok?

    4) Please give us a customized quick reply option for emails. QR is the only way I can manage my email and the canned responses are rarely close to what I want to say. Letting us type our own QR would be so much better.

    5) Encourage/create blogland games, contests, quizzes- have a section on the front page for top games, create AsianMatchMate.com run games and contests, whatever, it's what pulls us together and gets us visiting each other. Speaking of, you must be exhausted why don't you come take a break at [post 418579], the HOTTEST brothel in blogland! Then go vote for us at [post 419109], we'd love to have you

    THANKS!


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:16 am:
    Will pass this along - great ideas

    rm_DaphneR 63F
    8019 posts
    7/13/2006 10:42 pm

    It's amazing that they'll even comment whore on your posts.

    One thing that would be great to have in email is a "forward to the abuse team" button. As it stands now you have to copy and paste and some dork in CS gets it and sends back a canned reply that has NOTHING to do with your original complaint. (Yes, I complained about your customer service people before. Either your first tier of people are really bots or are working on single digit IQ's)


    Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:17 am:
    cool

    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/14/2006 3:18 am

      Quoting NSAAddict:
      Andrew, thanks as always for asking for suggestions and feedback from your members. While I could ask for a million things, I'm only going to beg for 5

      1) Please stop allowing people who are not members to view the blogs from google. They can easily view people's pics and blogs just from clicking "I'm 18, let me see the blogs". It scares me that anyone can find my blog without being a member here. This should only be allowed by people who register for the site, standards and paying members.

      2) Please, pretty, pretty please let us include pics within blog text. One way to do this is to let us have a blog album that we can then html link pics into our blogs. Or even letting us link our network album pics into the blogs. PLEASE??

      3) You asked about promoting the community. The blog community is one of the best on the internet, it's the main reason why I remain on this site. How about hosting a convention or AsianMatchMate.com Tour bus with bloggers touring the nation? I know far fetched but, it'd be awesome to have a huge AsianMatchMate.com meet and greet, even as an add on to a porn convention. Think about it ok?

      4) Please give us a customized quick reply option for emails. QR is the only way I can manage my email and the canned responses are rarely close to what I want to say. Letting us type our own QR would be so much better.

      5) Encourage/create blogland games, contests, quizzes- have a section on the front page for top games, create AsianMatchMate.com run games and contests, whatever, it's what pulls us together and gets us visiting each other. Speaking of, you must be exhausted why don't you come take a break at [post 418579], the HOTTEST brothel in blogland! Then go vote for us at [post 419109], we'd love to have you

      THANKS!
    If you care, they can google your interest group posts. They don't even have to declare that they're 18. The privacy policy says so (not in so many words).


    frangipanigal 49F
    10404 posts
    7/14/2006 7:04 am

    I know you were asking for suggestions about "building the community" but I would like to make one small suggestion...

    In the message centre, there is a drop down menu of "Quick Replies". Is it possible to add another option, something along the lines of "thank you but I am not interested" without having to specify why.

    I try and be polite and send a "thanks but no thanks" message and find myself having to choose a "reason",that may not reflect the mirage or reasons we say no thank you.

    Basically, a more Generic "I am not intereted" option...current options quite often tempt people to try and refute the reason you gave as they are more specific.

    Thanks,

    Frangi


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:19 am:
    I'll ask team to add more

    LadyGrayLeopard 61F
    26369 posts
    7/14/2006 11:54 am

    How about video 'intros' only for friends

    I'd love to shoot some (had to delete the previous one due to technical problems: one good one = 2 minutes of squirting and in top 50, ut bgot stuck after 20 sec; and the second tries never made even to the latest videos list in 3 weeks due to a bug I never got more explanation so hardly anybody saw them...)

    But as the contacts I get because of the videos are often not what I am looking for here, too much distance etc BUT would like to share some with my friends...

    And I would love to see the deleted members list too, not only declined members. Now people who were in the network don't excist at all!! Not being a native speaker I fear I sometimes mix 'move' and 'remove'...


    papyrina 56F
    21123 posts
    7/14/2006 12:58 pm

      Quoting NTTs_ilsuconu:
      "Better way to identify 'good' blogs..."

      Is it necessary to really identify them? The readers will decide-- if they like it, they'll keep reading it; if not, the writer will get the hint.
    A newbie walks into blog land and opens up 10 differant blogs,5 are gorgous bots were you cannot leave a comment 1 in friends network only,so again no comments,2 are please if you like me write to me for a fuck 1 is an extension of there profile and the last one being an extension of network pics with one word.

    Now that would not show how decent blogs are wrote and no its not extreme what i've written as new post lists sometimes is excatly like that,as a new blogger i would leave blogs well alone.

    At least with lists people can choose to comment or now and for the most part all top 50 bloggers are quite good,so newbie gets a chance to read and make a blog for him self and by working hard and yep its hard work gets a decent blog going and gets comments.

    And i can assure you having been on that list for over a year people don't comment as they think we already get enougth and nearly all top bloggers for want of a better name read and comment every where to encourage all to blog


    I'm a

    and
    i'm here to stay


    papyrina 56F
    21123 posts
    7/14/2006 1:08 pm

    having just deleted over 500 posts and 10000 comments because of a stalking problem from a mad sad bitch from Spain ,this friendly site must be able to work out away to ban folk once and for all,especially when more than one person complain .
    So far you have banned three of her profiles and yet i know for a fact she has at least 4 more,i and other women in Greek chat get our pics stolen from our networks and have them posted all over the place on and off the site,we get abusive in chat and in our mail.
    In the last month i've got banned more times than i can count from the stupid woman ,my profile is now turned on and so far so good i've stayed unbanned unlike my chat profile papy_ who now gets banned often

    Now i know i'm fed up of writing to you and i know your team must be fed up of Greek members writing to them about one person,so surely an Isp ban or something can be done.

    i can honestly say i was very upset having to delete the best part of over a years hard work and wonderful comments but as the Bitch has threathened to come and visit my country and cause me phsical promblems ,apart from leaving a site i've been a member off for over two years there is very little else i can do.

    From a mad sad papy

    Ps whats wrong with spell check


    I'm a

    and
    i'm here to stay


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:20 am:

    rm_kingbean2you 50M

    7/14/2006 1:22 pm

    Well, being a programmer for the last twenty+ years, I understand why any application/website/club is a balancing act with many, many performance/expedience/cost-benefit/feasibility tradeoffs.

    Please keep in mind that your server's bus traffic as well as AsianMatchMate.com's user traffic and your modem, ISDN, cable link speed all influence your throughput. Likewise, remember to routinely clear your IE, netscape, firefox, etc. cache, cookies, and history. Also, routinely use IE to keep your version of Windows up-to-date by visiting Microsoft downloads for free System Updates...

    Finally, some of the posters in here sure sound like straw men to me.


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/14/2006 2:36 pm

      Quoting frangipanigal:
      I know you were asking for suggestions about "building the community" but I would like to make one small suggestion...

      In the message centre, there is a drop down menu of "Quick Replies". Is it possible to add another option, something along the lines of "thank you but I am not interested" without having to specify why.

      I try and be polite and send a "thanks but no thanks" message and find myself having to choose a "reason",that may not reflect the mirage or reasons we say no thank you.

      Basically, a more Generic "I am not intereted" option...current options quite often tempt people to try and refute the reason you gave as they are more specific.

      Thanks,

      Frangi
    I have always wanted that too, cause I have received back alot of 'why's' back from them or people who want to dispute your reason...just a simple 'no thanks' option would be great along with the ones that are there now.


    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/15/2006 12:10 am

    Andrew, I wish you the best of luck with all the new features. I think it's wonderful that you're looking ahead.

    However, I'd be in your debt if you'd consider reading How to get into chat ... this is a good example of what we powerless, hapless, "working mods" face every day.

    I'm grateful for the opportunity to express my opinions here. I can only pray that someday, you and your heavenly staff will find the time to assist us humble ordinary folks with our mundane earthly problems.


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:21 am:
    Thanks - my assistant will read

    lonelywoman68 53F

    7/15/2006 4:33 am

      Quoting  :

    Seriously, Do any of the CS staff speak English?


    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/15/2006 8:49 pm

    I'm reporting the loss of one of the best Peeing Pleasures chat mod's profiles. It seems SexPistol262 no longer exists.

    I find it annoying when my members' profiles vanish. Even more so when my best chat mod.s' get clobbered. Something is majorly wrong here.


    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/15/2006 9:32 pm

      Quoting rm_Luv_PPPL:
      I'm reporting the loss of one of the best Peeing Pleasures chat mod's profiles. It seems SexPistol262 no longer exists.

      I find it annoying when my members' profiles vanish. Even more so when my best chat mod.s' get clobbered. Something is majorly wrong here.
    You know, this blog is supposed to be about "building communities."

    Some of us mods take that SERIOUSLY. It's my job to protect members from inappropriate behavior in the chat room. And rude posts, etc. I totally take that seriously.

    But if I can't protect my members and my best chat mods from having their profiles vanish, who can?? I know you're trying your best Andrew, but sometimes I just totally wanna SCREAM dammit.

    Sorry, just venting ... lol.


    meerkittykat 47F

    7/16/2006 12:45 am

    I just left a comment on someone's blog and waited for the page to roll over...and waited..and waited.

    I counted to 97 before the page refreshed. Over a minute and a half.

    The other night, I was responding to my "watched" bloggers, and it took me over 90 minutes to leave 17 comments. That's ridiculous.

    You want to improve the community?? Get rid of all the bells and whistles and do something simple; improve the speed of the server. I don't want to add anymore people to my watched lists, cos at the rate with which this site is moving in the last couple weeks I'd never get to any of them, and I don't have all day to read all the bloggers that I'd want to. I'd think I'd get more for my premium membership than watching the green refresh bar slowly inch left to right.


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:24 am:
    agreed

    rm_Dianne1959 62F
    334 posts
    7/16/2006 4:23 am

      Quoting  :

    I have to agree with Jems on this one. Not all the members of my group are in my friends list and i wouldnt be happy with it either.

    Also would this give the few people i have in my friends list from abroad the right to join my group considering we are a UK only group?

    Dianne x x x

    Z Dianne Z


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/16/2006 8:26 am

    I have exactly the same problem as meer. I click on a link and wait and wait and wait and wait and it never even starts to transfer data, in the bottom left corner of my firefox browser it just says 'waiting for AsianMatchMate.com.com..'. So I click on the stop button on my browser and click on it again and sometimes I have to repeat this process over and over and over again, and sometimes it does work the second time around. This happens to me quite often on this site. It once took me at least 4 minutes to get to an interest group thread on this site. Thats a long time considering I clean my browsers cache and history everyday,I do a spyware scan and disk cleanup quite often, and just yesterday done a virus scan and it came up completely clean.


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:25 am:
    Can you give me some specific links - perhaps
    they are reproducable and able to be corrected

    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/16/2006 12:06 pm

    Okay I've calmed down a bit since last night, but I really wanna get in here and try to explain why lost profiles are such a big deal. I konw I must seem like an unproductive griper.

    SexPistol262 has been a member of Peeing Pleasures for several months. She has the brains of Marie Curie and the charm of Audrey Hepburn. I've only chatted with her 1-1 a couple of times, but my understanding is that she's a college student who does volunteer work in her community. I can't imagine her even looking at someone the wrong way!

    I made her a chat mod. because she can really control the guys in the room NICELY, which is a pretty tall order. She also does some really super posts, like SQUIRTING the how to guide! She's just an all around GREAT MEMBER, and one of those rare people who is equally a credit to her "real life" community as well as an online community. Anyone in my age group would be ULTRA PROUD to have her as a daughter.

    The thing is that people in groups know each other by their PROFILES. So when you take away someone's profile for no reason at all, you haven't just forced them to register again and build up their friends list and repost their pix and all that.

    No: you have taken away their posting history, the handle that everyone knows them by ... you have TAKEN AWAY THEIR IDENTITY.

    Andrew, I know I'm just standard member (although I was premium for a long time), and I realize that it's your site and you put the time and effort into developing it. I am only a guest in your house. And there are probably all sorts of business related issues as well as technical ones that I don't understand. Natch, also I'm kewl with new features and stuff. But I hope you understand just how serious the lost profiles problem is, and I can only beg you to do something about it whenever it fits into your overall concept for the site.


    007sexy40plus 56F  
    7589 posts
    7/16/2006 2:00 pm

      Quoting  :

    Free balls? I have given this site almost 5 years and have told people about it and have never been given anything free from it. I pay for that standard membership and have been for a year now.

    I would like to see the site add some features that will NOT allow a banned poster to continue to comment on your blog even if they are banned. I would like to see a banned poster banned so that they CANNOT be able to even view your blog or profile anymore. Once banned always banned from everything to do with the person who banned them.

    I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"


    007sexy40plus 56F  
    7589 posts
    7/16/2006 2:07 pm

      Quoting  :

    Free balls? I have given this site almost 5 years and have told OTHER people about it and have never been given anything free from it. I pay for this silver membership and have been for a year now.

    I would like to see the site add some features that will NOT allow a banned poster to continue to comment on your blog even if they are banned and sneaking behind the scenes to continue to harass others with their comments. I would like to see a banned poster banned so that they WILL NOT be able to even view your blog or profile anymore. I believe that Once banned they should be banned from everything to do with the person who banned them.

    I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:27 am:
    Will investigate

    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/16/2006 3:32 pm

    When you click on "View My Blog" underneath someone's profile pic, you should be taken to the TITLE VIEW page.

    This is just like groups: when you browse to a group, you don't see all the messages in the topics one after another. Instead you see the group home page with a LIST of topics.

    This suggestion s/b easy to implement and might actually save bandwidth!


    tackman57 54M  
    184 posts
    7/16/2006 4:37 pm

    Please could you get rid of the Instant Message / Chat choice pop up?!!! I don't use either & I'm SO tired of having to click it off every time I move from page to page or back & forth between profiles!


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:27 am:
    it only pops during login

    rm_fistandlick 63M

    7/16/2006 10:27 pm

    I find its unnessary if I log in in Germany e.g. that I get displayed actual Blogs, articles etc of another country where I dont live. Of what interest ist a blog of the US to one in Germany - or any other country? The interest of the user should be basically standard in his/her own homeland. Searching other countries is NOT the standard and makes no sense, should be done individually. I search for a partner in my country and always have to do some additional clicks to get the list I want. Please think about ist. In Germany some links also does not seem to be useful or are wrong. For e.g. articles, advices and erotic stories lead to the same listings.
    Little things that makes live harder.

    Also the IMC which doesn`t work properly by displaying online contacts who are defintively are not online altough they are displayed as online. The message capacity by letters is - sorry- a joke.


    angelofmercy5 64F
    17879 posts
    7/17/2006 7:12 am

    I have to disagree with some here......I know there are some fake profiles....and I'm not sure what you can do about them. But I work hard on my blog....and I have traveled from the low ranks to the popular list. That "hillbilly" writes one heck of a blog....and she's no fake. Neither am I. I don't completely understand how the numbers for unique responses are done and I'd love to understand that better. Also.....I do wonder about the pictures in the slots. One in particular....jasonabadboy4u appears in the first slot constantly. He hasn't blogged since June 25th, and only has 1-8 commenters on his posts. How do the slots work there? Thanks.


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:30 am:
    Thanks for all the time and effort - really
    appreciate everyone who calls this site home

    Sometimes the "slots" get stuck... for a few minutes
    but should be working now. I just increase the
    randomness of it.

    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/17/2006 7:51 am

    Please fix the "active" versus "associate" member designations within interest groups.

    For quite some time now, I've been getting a lot of complaints from people who say that they've done myriad recent posts and are still being described by the system as "associate" members. This is almost certainly not a result of the data being distributed (i.e. server A not synching up with the info. on server . In many cases we're talking about folks who have posted regularly, week after week, right up until the current day.

    The default setting for groups with over 1K members is supposed to require only one post in the last month. (I always change that to the last 12 months after the morning update, but the system is still not doing the right thing, regardless of which time period is used.)

    Now I understand that a principal motivation behind the "active" vs. "associate" distinction was to reduce resource consumption during searches of the "active" members. And so it does, I guess (?).

    But most people - human nature being what it is - don't take too kindly to being considered "associate members" when they do a lot of posting. And they often have a hard time understanding that we moderators have zero control over this.

    Please: if you're going to introduce status distinctions within a "community," some extra trouble should be taken to ensure that the designations are computed accurately. No one anticipates that they'll be precise up to the minute. But the results here aren't just a little bit off.

    This is a microcosm of my point about losing profiles. What we are talking about here is whether Friend Finder keeps its own side of a bargain that it imposes upon the users!

    Most of my members don't understand that the software has bugs (most lay folks think a "bug" is a critter). They only know that they are dutifully doing what they're told to do, and not experiencing the promised results.

    Again, this is relatively small beer by comparision to vanishing profiles. But in both cases we deal with a fundamental principal of basic decency. IF YOU ASK PEOPLE TO FOLLOW RULES, THEN THE "GOOD CITIZENS" WHO COMPLY MUST BE TREATED ACCORDINGLY, AS FAR AS POSSIBLE.

    Whatever the reasons may be for this site's constant/consistent failure to achieve that standard, the end result is that you lose TRUST. And you can't "build communities" without trust.


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 10:14 am:
    Can you give us some specific examples so we can review?

    rm_zaher83 47M
    3 posts
    7/17/2006 2:27 pm

      Quoting  :

    i love you


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/17/2006 10:32 pm

    angelofmercy, I can tell you about that...the unique responses part means how many "different" people are responding in your blog, or at least in each post (I'm not sure which). the 'slots' that you are talking about (If you mean the actively watched blogs part) is people whose blogs are being viewed alot at that moment. The guy you are pointing to in your posts, posts links to his blog posts in the interest group postings, or he has at least...he posted a link to his blog posts in two of my different groups one time. So that may be why he is viewed alot without posting more blog posts.


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 10:18 am:
    fixed

    bipolybabe 60F

    7/18/2006 3:00 pm

    I sound like a kiss-ass, but I've spent a lot of time on match, and it doesn't have HALF the features of AsianMatchMate.com.

    Every time I look around, there's something new on AsianMatchMate.com that I hadn't used before.

    When I wanted to start writing about my adventures and interact with others, I found my way to the blogs.

    When I wanted to test my sex tele-classes, I found AsianMatchMate.com had a broadcast webcam feature. I had over 500 people watching the session on anal sex. I added my own tele-conference feature, which would be useful for charging a fee to attendees.

    Sometimes my blog updates don't go through immediately. It would nice if the server updated faster though it seems pretty quick for me as a gold member. In general, I'm impressed with how well AsianMatchMate.com works.

    Now, in terms of creating a community, I'd like to see AsianMatchMate.com offer FREE tele-classes on how to be successful finding sex, how to be safe, how to have great sex (sex that is satisfying so you can retain "customers") and I'm just the Sex Coach to offer those classes as I have been a member of the community for eight months and have moved up in the blog rankings to hit the page of closely watched blogs and have been able to draw an audience for my webcams without promotional support.

    I'm still working on my book about using AsianMatchMate.com to find a very adventurous life, and I'm not done yet!

    BiPolyBabe

    BPB

    Check out my blog Bi-Poly-Babe for more sensual, sexual pleasure!


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 11:46 am:
    Thanks - sometimes I need some ass kissing... I like
    the video class idea... we have recently launced the
    SexAcademy (may give it away to gold members).

    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/19/2006 9:33 am

    Small interest group suggstion - allow moderators to change the topic subjects.

    A lot of folks on this site have a real problem when it comes to thinking of something to say in the message body. On those happy occasions when they do, the additional serendipity of a descriptive topic line is often too much to hope for. So you end up with a lot of topic subjects like hi.

    I'm not sure how much coding effort this would take, but my guess/hope is that topic titles are stored in a separate field from the topic text itself. So perhaps there wouldn't be too much I/O.

    (Although I would still very much like to see something done about lost profiles, I guess that doesn't fit into the business plan right now. Next decade, perhaps?


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 11:55 am:
    Thought it's editable... will put it on list

    __iminatedaginst 48M

    7/19/2006 2:20 pm

    I don't know why people are so concerned about being harrassed by bloggers! It's done in front of everyone, and you are always free to comment back. If someone is as some of you say, "a Troll" or whatever, speak your mind on the following comment, and continue on with the rest as you normally would. YA can't expect to click with everyone, but you should be able to respond to everyone. This allows people to see more sides of you. People are free to say whatever they want on my blog. If they don't like me, by all means speak your mind. I have fun on this site responding no matter what people say, good or bad! It's better to bite back then to ignore someone. It keeps things interesting.


    __iminatedaginst 48M

    7/19/2006 2:26 pm

    What I'd Like to SEE is a feature which allows advice question posters the option to respond to the question's comments individually as you can in the blogs.

    I respond to all the comments people leave to my advice questions, but I always have to do it in one lump sum in the form of an additional comment. This means that when people read my responses to the comment they have to toggle from the comments that are posted to my lump comment of responses at the end of the collumn. This would be especially difficult when the advice collumn has more than one page.
    If I could respond to each comment individually, people could just read my responses to my questions comments easily and go down the list.
    MUCH MUCH EASIER!!


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 11:56 am:
    I see - just like how I'm doing it now in blogs...

    bluemovie2000 63F

    7/20/2006 4:53 am

    Happens to me when when I put a link to a post or blog and its infuriating

    x x x

    Blue

    x x x

    Blue


    tracy_de_lacy 110F
    9261 posts
    7/20/2006 9:16 am

    I would like a way to remove those members of groups who don't actually use the group. I am the moderator of an active group and we have a lot of meets. We have all sorts in the members list and I just don't have the time to monitor them completely. We have a function that demotes these members to associate status if they don't post for a specified amount of time...what if they are removed from the group list and have to rejoin instead of becoming associates. Or you could have a button that allows us to delete associated..not as much ban but remove.

    Yeah a remove member button would be good too as well as the ban button. We aren't so much interested in appearing as a popular group by having a lot of members. We would rather be a small group of active members. I can see when the last time someone logged onto the site but I don't know when the last time they popped into the group was...any ideas on how you can help with this.

    This will help us get rid of members who only join all the groups to flag their profile..it is irritating in an active group to have these people in there.

    I think albums in groups would be great as we do a lot of meets and always have pics to share of the meets. The only way we can do this is through the individual albums. Some of the pics we don,t want to share with our networks but to keep in our little group.


    Bye everyone, it was a blast


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:02 pm:
    thanks for the feedback

    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/20/2006 1:46 pm

    Profile Deleted Again!

    This profile of mine got deleted yet again yesterday late afternoon, (I posted in this very post about it before). It has happened to me now 4 times in the space of about 2 1/2 - 3 weeks. This time..I clicked on someones profile to read it and suddenly your navigator bar showed me as logged out, I tried to log back in and it said 'sorry your handle/password do not match our records'. The last time it happened was similar, except that I clicked on the link to one of my interest groups chat rooms and was suddenly logged out and couldnt log back in. It was a locational group chat room, one that I have been into since then and not had any trouble...so for whatever reason, it is logging me (and other people maybe) out and I am not able to log back in. Hope this helps in explaining what is happening.


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/20/2006 1:51 pm

    Profile Deleted Again!

    This profile of mine got deleted yet again yesterday late afternoon, (I posted in this very post about it before). It has happened to me now 4 times in the space of about 2 1/2 - 3 weeks. This time..I clicked on someones profile to read it and suddenly your navigator bar showed me as logged out, I tried to log back in and it said 'sorry your handle/password do not match our records'. The last time it happened was similar, except that I clicked on the link to one of my interest groups chat rooms and was suddenly logged out and couldnt log back in. It was a locational group chat room, one that I have been into since then and not had any trouble...so for whatever reason, it is logging me (and other people maybe) out and I am not able to log back in. Hope this helps in explaining what is happening.


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:05 pm:
    looks like C/S did it - don't know reason... earlier it
    was due to chat issues.

    tracy_de_lacy 110F
    9261 posts
    7/20/2006 1:55 pm

    hey where did my pic go???

    Bye everyone, it was a blast


    tracy_de_lacy 110F
    9261 posts
    7/20/2006 1:58 pm

    now there's a problem for ya. I post on here and ya delete my pic..I ain't that damn ugly....sheesh

    Bye everyone, it was a blast


    tracy_de_lacy 110F
    9261 posts
    7/20/2006 1:59 pm

    thankyou...scared ya didn't I

    Bye everyone, it was a blast


    TechSteve 54M

    7/20/2006 2:29 pm

      Quoting Shelly_Marie:
      Profile Deleted Again!

      This profile of mine got deleted yet again yesterday late afternoon, (I posted in this very post about it before). It has happened to me now 4 times in the space of about 2 1/2 - 3 weeks. This time..I clicked on someones profile to read it and suddenly your navigator bar showed me as logged out, I tried to log back in and it said 'sorry your handle/password do not match our records'. The last time it happened was similar, except that I clicked on the link to one of my interest groups chat rooms and was suddenly logged out and couldnt log back in. It was a locational group chat room, one that I have been into since then and not had any trouble...so for whatever reason, it is logging me (and other people maybe) out and I am not able to log back in. Hope this helps in explaining what is happening.
    Shelly, it happened to me last night as well.

    The site must have been doing upgrades last nite because everything was running slow for me on my backup profile.

    Steve


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:05 pm:
    Will have my assistant review

    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/20/2006 2:37 pm

      Quoting  :

    I'll give credit where credit is due. To my amazement, customer service restored my profile. Everything seems to be intact.

    This is the first time I've heard of a lost profile being restored ... members of mine who have complained about this have told me that CS was powerless to do anything. And/or it could also that sending an email gets you a better result than calling.

    What was even more astonishing to me is that I received a response within 8 hours - in the past, emails from standard memembers rarely received responses, and then only after weeks.

    One theory I have is that a profile is more likey to vanish if it gets used a lot. If so, maybe a desireable workaround for group moderators is to keep their personal profile separate from their moderator profiles. That would minimize the chances that the software would automatically hand their groups to someone else! (Fortunately my members are very loyal and cooperative.)

    The same might work for bloggers. That's not the prettiest solution in the world, but at least you won't lose everything at once, even if you're lucky, and the loss is merely temporary.

    That said, it would be nicer if this never occurred. Imagine how many people probably just sign up all over again. That can't be a good thing from the standpoint of resource consumption. In fact I did just that, about 3 months ago.


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/20/2006 4:22 pm

    fran, I have had that happen to me too, someone that I didnt know emailed me telling me how ugly I was (for whatever ungodly reason), and all of a sudden my picture rating went way down...I just turned the voting off and turned it back on to reset it at zero again.


    tracy_de_lacy 110F
    9261 posts
    7/21/2006 8:25 am

      Quoting  :

    I was a gold member on this site for a long time. I haven't renewed my membership for the last couple of months. I would renew it if any of my complaints were actually dealt with. I hear of people being banned from this site for abuse, yet for some reason I complained about something as serious as child porn (three times to try to be heard) and I didn't even receive a letter back. If the site improves I will pay for a membership again

    I am not the only one who has stopped paying for a membershp, so I do think AsianMatchMate.com should sit up and take notice of the members it is losing. I didn't find I had anymore respect being a gold member.


    Bye everyone, it was a blast


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:11 pm:
    Sorry to hear that the complain wasn't handled
    well. Please post more info and my assistant
    will research as to why it wasn't addressed.

    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/21/2006 9:57 am

    I have reported beastiality on here twice, and it seems to take them so long to deal with it, the first time...the guys profile took about a month or more to get removed from the site...the second time too, and there were words of animal porn right in the profile both times. But if someone goes and abuses someone in the threads, it will get removed right away, which is good too, but the animal and child porn profiles should be removed right away too, if there are words of it right in the profile...


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:12 pm:
    Will discuss with team on Monday

    rm_softcrimes 53M/49F

    7/21/2006 1:10 pm

    All great ideas!


    papyrina 56F
    21123 posts
    7/21/2006 5:41 pm

      Quoting  :

    kelli uniques works better honest,i can click on my own post 500 times without even logging in,try it,every time a person clicks on that post whether me,you or joe blog who gooogled it ,it counts as a view,it has nothing to do with readership whats so ever


    I'm a

    and
    i'm here to stay


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:13 pm:
    yes, and unique counting requires us keeping log
    of every member who ever looked at someones post

    FeistySyn 57F

    7/22/2006 6:30 pm

    After skimming through six pages of responses to this post, I can only say, if I were you I'd most likely be drinking a wonderful glass of wine (or maybe even a shot of incredible tequila ) somewhere overlooking the bay and refusing to open my laptop for at least a week... for crying out loud, do these people have NOTHING else to do???

    Apparently the depth of depravity here is bottomless... don't you feel right at home?
    ~~~~~


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:16 pm:
    Yes, taking me 4 hours to get to here!

    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/22/2006 9:32 pm

    amber, thats wierd that it has been taking them so long to get your profile back up, its only been taking them about 20 minutes on average to get mine back up.....


    Peche85 36F

    7/22/2006 9:36 pm

    Sorry if someone has mentioned this already, I couldn't be bothered reading all 6 pages lol. But I think we should be able to choose the eight members of our network who show up on our profile. Also, if someone permanantly deletes their account they should be removed from the network. And when we have deleted people from our network, their photo shouldn't show up. I only have about 6 people in my network now, but there are still about 20 people who show up at different times on my profile.


    Andrew replies on 7/23/2006 12:26 pm:
    nice ideas

    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/23/2006 2:56 pm

      Quoting Shelly_Marie:
      I have exactly the same problem as meer. I click on a link and wait and wait and wait and wait and it never even starts to transfer data, in the bottom left corner of my firefox browser it just says 'waiting for AsianMatchMate.com.com..'. So I click on the stop button on my browser and click on it again and sometimes I have to repeat this process over and over and over again, and sometimes it does work the second time around. This happens to me quite often on this site. It once took me at least 4 minutes to get to an interest group thread on this site. Thats a long time considering I clean my browsers cache and history everyday,I do a spyware scan and disk cleanup quite often, and just yesterday done a virus scan and it came up completely clean.
    It seems to mostly be when I click on a link to go to a thread, mostly in groups, but sometimes in blog posts too. This very thread at times has taken me a while to get to the first page of it, but for the past couple of days, things have been going faster and I havent had that trouble. I will take note next time of another thread that takes a while cause I cant remember any of them right now.

    one little addition? can you put the underline tag in the formatting bar? lol


    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/23/2006 9:32 pm

    Some quickies:

    1) I've posted a request in my group for people who have had their profiles turned on for at least 24 hours, and who have posted at least 24 hours ago, but who are still considered associate members. Hopefully I'll get a reply shortly for some test cases. (Although I don't see why it would be so difficult to programmatically find them.)

    2) Part of the problem is that one cannot be considered active if one's profile is turned off. Doesn't take a whole lot of thought to recognize that this affects females disproportionately, because they're most likely to find what they desire, and then to turn off their profiles afterwards. (Who wants a whole mail box full of "Wanna **ck" mails?) Isn't it against Friend Finder's pocketbook interests to keep females out of interest group chat rooms?

    3) It would be a lot simpler if interest group mods could have a checkbox to let associate/inactive members into the chat room. I think that might actually save resources because the software wouldn't have to check on someone's status before determining whether they were eligible to enter the group chat room. (I see nothing about the chat room options which would be inconsistent with this.) It might also cost less to install, than fixing whatever bug(s) affect the active vs. associate member designation. (Not all of us care for the "associate member" thing - I personally can't stand it, and do my best to set the options back to the least restrictive settings on a daily basis. And yes, I'm aware that many mod.s like it, and that it saves resources by reducing the amount of effort required to search the member list ... I just see no reason why chat room access must necessarily be linked to it.)

    4) If Friend Finder insists on keeping members with "off" profiles out of interest group chat rooms, perhaps the least it could do is warn them in big red letters about this! (In fact such a message might be easy to install - in the interim, before any software fix.)

    5) As you can see by the posts here, the site is losing profiles these days at an unbelievable and unprecedented rate. Some folks who call CS are being incorrectly told that that nothing can be done about it ... perhaps because historically that has been true. Whereas writing to team AT A.F.F. d0t c0m seems to be producing better results. This is what I've advised all my members to do.

    6) Are you aware that entire interest group topics lists can be clobbered? See Peeing Pleasures Personal Ads - in that case I was able to provide a workaround, although replying to all of the "invisible" topics doesn't seem to have helped them reappear. I've been assigned bug # 37939 (although that could be a "generic" bug number that was intended to satisfy me, so I'll quietly go away).

    In my opinion, the destruction of an interest group topic list is basically the same as killing off the group itself. I don't know how many groups are affected, but I strongly suspect it will start happening all over the site, if it hasn't already. (As with cockroaches, if you see one bug like this, there are probably more.)


    Andrew replies on 7/24/2006 9:57 am:
    thanks for the feedback - we'll add to the list

    tracy_de_lacy 110F
    9261 posts
    7/24/2006 2:11 am

    I have had members I have banned turning up in the chatroom of my group. They can get in again easily if they save the group chatroom as a favourite on their browser and they can also get back in by using their cache.

    Can't you stop this from happening.

    There is no point in mne going back into the child porn thing. I have forgotten the guys handle now ... he was in Italy. I actually changed my handle from tracy362436 because of this type of abuse. If you keep any sort of records of complaints, maybe you should check there. I also reported recurring incidences of chatroom abuse and nothing was done. I have to say the reason I didn't renew my membership was because I have never had a complaint dealt with at all.

    I now avoid the chatroom in question, which is unfair to me as I enjoyed it until the abuse got too much. I know you have had many complaints about the uk chatroom from many people so you know what I am talking about.

    Lets just leave that there and try to get started again. If the site improves I would be only too happy to renew my gold membership.


    Bye everyone, it was a blast


    Andrew replies on 7/24/2006 9:58 am:
    We have some chatroom upgrades this release - we'll
    see about adding ban support for it

    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/24/2006 2:13 am

    Notes from an insomniac ... or, The Law of Unintended Consquences and the Pursuit of Bugs ("Rube Goldberg Hell")

    (Long post, but well worth reading for those of you who might be curious about how stuff tends to go "bump in the night" around here.)

    Ever heard of The Law of Unintended Consequences?. Of course you have ...

    1. Let's talk again about the lost profiles problem. I think I pointed out that I now keep my interest group moderator profile separate from my posting profile, because I don't want the mod. profile to get lost, and also because I believed that a profile had a better chance of getting lost if it was actively used. And Andrew, I believe you suggested that lost profiles might have something to do with the way abuse reports are processed.

    Well, since Peeing Pleasures is often denied by the night/weekend crews for no good reason other than the fact that someone clicks the report for abuse link (formerly called "request review"), a little light went on in my head!

    Could it be that a profile is more vulnerable to getting lost, because someone clicks report for abuse underneath the lost_profiler's post? That would explain why people who post a lot tend to lose their profiles! Evidently there's something none-too-fragrant in Denmark here. And I doubt it has to do with mails that someone bothers to send to the abuse address, because those take time to write - whereas clicking that tempting lil' link takes just a few seconds. Welcome to the Law of Unintended Consequences!

    (Actually I'm thinking now about having a separate interest group posting profile and a separate blog posting profile along with my separate moderator profile. Just for extra reliability.)

    Quite a little irony isn't it? By posting a lot, you make yourself a target for folks who click Report for Abuse. To minimize the chances that your profile won't get lost, just avoid posting

    2. I'd previously reported that all the old posts have been lost at Peeing Pleasures Personal Ads ... and also that I'd been assigned bug # 37939 for this.

    That's not a bug, that's a feature ... one which also falls victim to the Law of Unintended Consequences! Earlier, I'd indicated how unhappy I was that sexpistol262's profile had been lost. Then it ocurred to me that my blog comments were missing when my profile was lost.

    So-o, I decided to go to Peeing Pleasures and click on Recent (Messages), in order to see if SQUIRTING the how to guide! was still there.

    Nada! - it should be on p.2 of Recent, because it was posted on June 23rd, and the topics are sequenced by the date of the first post! It's also not on p.1 of the Active (Messages) list, even though it has a reply dated July 24th (the Active list goes by the most recent reply in the topic.)

    Welcome, once again - to the Law of Unintended Consequences!. Even though that excellent resource is still being read and receiving replies because I've linked to it in my group intro., it's not visible in the "Recent" or "Active" lists. And that also explains why all the older topics at Peeing Pleasures Personal Ads are now gone: the original poster no longer has a profile here.

    Well, someone might not have been thinking things through here. Suppose an interest group moderator establishes some posts that are of important administrative or informational value. Then they decide to step down as mod., and leave the site. Should all the topics they've started go "invisible?" (Is that fair to the folks who've replied?) What about blog comments?

    3. One of the interesting things about the Law of Unintended Consequences is that these sorts of problems can "cascade" - sort of like the Rube Goldberg mechanism from Hell, if you know what I mean. Imagine this ... someone clicks on the report for abuse link, a profile gets deleted, and then all sorts of fun stuff happens. Their blog comments evaporate, their interest groups get handed to someone else automatically by the software, and any interest group topics they've started vanish into the ether.

    Now if that's not downright delightful, I don't know what is

    4. Remember my beefs about members not being able to get into chat rooms? People post and post, but are still not allowed in, and/or are still considered associate members.

    My guess is that they have their profiles turned off. Whoever came up with the idea of active members forgot to think about how many folks turn off their profiles, and/or who they tend to be (usually females).



    So you see, the Law of Unintended Consequences is a nifty thing to have around. And it explains in part why the addition of new features often leads to even more bugs. Because the new features interact with old ones, in ways that no one anticipates. That's how I got that bug number ... no one in CS really understood the conditions under which interest group topics would no longer be visible in the topics list (but still linkable).

    I think someone here suggested that maybe it was time to simplify the site, instead of introducing so many new features. Or at least, to think about how all of them work together to create "Rube Goldberg Hell." (Sorta like what folks used to call "DLL Hell.")

    Basically over time, what happens is that the number of bugs tends to grow faster than the number of new features. Worse, it becomes harder and harder to figure out why one small problem can lead to a whole bunch of others. In this particular case, I'm wondering how many other folks in the world have put together even what I've listed in this post.

    Anyway it's nice to have some good theories about why some of these frustrating things are happening. Now perhaps ... some of them will be fixed


    Andrew replies on 7/24/2006 10:03 am:
    thanks - will pass it along

    marnison 84F

    7/24/2006 6:03 am

    Yawn...*^%$#

    Sex site...Sex site...

    I'm reading ..take off all the cool ..sexy things that make this site....

    A Sex Site.

    Andrew..we should just start WWW.Blogtourheartscontent.com and leave this site as it is.

    marni


    qyxx 65F
    3348 posts
    7/24/2006 6:25 am

    Hi Andrew....I have been reading this post and it is a long one, and I have a couple of comments.'

    Sor far as the issue of the Most Popular Bloggers list, I feel you should leave it as is. Some people like the competitive aspect, some don't. Makes no difference to me. Unique comments are just as good views, IMHO. Since I am way down on the list, jealousy is not an issue with me.

    Most Active Comments in the Groups, leave as it is. Some people like to play that game, some don't. Again makes no difference to me.

    I do think before you start thinking about adding new features you need to look at the existing structure and clean it up, so to speak. I don't claim to have a lot of knowledge about computer technology, but it would seem to me that if there is a lot of deadwood, it would affect how any system functions. I think what we are seeing now are problems with system overload. Toward that end, it follows that parameters should be set up that any profile, blog, or group which is inactive for a certain length of time should be automatically deleted, I would suggest between 90-180 days. I know from looking at the groups there are a lot with only one member and have been inactive for a while, and I know there are a lot of inactive profiles and blogs.

    Just my two cents worth.

    Q.


    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/25/2006 1:57 am

      Quoting rm_Luv_PPPL:
      Please fix the "active" versus "associate" member designations within interest groups.

      For quite some time now, I've been getting a lot of complaints from people who say that they've done myriad recent posts and are still being described by the system as "associate" members. This is almost certainly not a result of the data being distributed (i.e. server A not synching up with the info. on server . In many cases we're talking about folks who have posted regularly, week after week, right up until the current day.

      The default setting for groups with over 1K members is supposed to require only one post in the last month. (I always change that to the last 12 months after the morning update, but the system is still not doing the right thing, regardless of which time period is used.)

      Now I understand that a principal motivation behind the "active" vs. "associate" distinction was to reduce resource consumption during searches of the "active" members. And so it does, I guess (?).

      But most people - human nature being what it is - don't take too kindly to being considered "associate members" when they do a lot of posting. And they often have a hard time understanding that we moderators have zero control over this.

      Please: if you're going to introduce status distinctions within a "community," some extra trouble should be taken to ensure that the designations are computed accurately. No one anticipates that they'll be precise up to the minute. But the results here aren't just a little bit off.

      This is a microcosm of my point about losing profiles. What we are talking about here is whether Friend Finder keeps its own side of a bargain that it imposes upon the users!

      Most of my members don't understand that the software has bugs (most lay folks think a "bug" is a critter). They only know that they are dutifully doing what they're told to do, and not experiencing the promised results.

      Again, this is relatively small beer by comparision to vanishing profiles. But in both cases we deal with a fundamental principal of basic decency. IF YOU ASK PEOPLE TO FOLLOW RULES, THEN THE "GOOD CITIZENS" WHO COMPLY MUST BE TREATED ACCORDINGLY, AS FAR AS POSSIBLE.

      Whatever the reasons may be for this site's constant/consistent failure to achieve that standard, the end result is that you lose TRUST. And you can't "build communities" without trust.
    Andrew, I must express my gratitude for your interest in this bug!

    Still considered an assoc. member after posting? has been established for reports here.

    My loyal members are here to assist! Please let me know what else I can do, in order to help get this one fixed!!


    tracy_de_lacy 110F
    9261 posts
    7/25/2006 2:08 am

    what do you mean ban support for chatrooms...won't they just come back in as another handle. Who will do the banning? I know of people who have had their profile removed for chat room abuse but they come back the very next day with a new handle. Some have even been doing this for two years.

    I was so happy yesterday that my profile rarely gets lost then bam...I couldn't get in last night. My blog disappeared too.

    I have to say thankyou to AsianMatchMate.com staff as I was back online withing an hour and all is present and correct.


    Bye everyone, it was a blast


    rm_sweetnurse25 48F
    8 posts
    7/26/2006 5:32 pm

    my group has been the victim of your new protocols to stop fraud. my group description which has gone unchanged for the few years since it's creation. however, with these new anti-fraud rules my group's description was reviewed and my group denied because my group description allegedly had contact information in it. there is no contact information in the descriptionl. there are no email addresses, phone numbers, instant message, etc. in the description. my group description only has what the group is about, the city we're in, and the set day and time that we hold chats in the group chatroom, nothing else. i sent the description for update in the hopes that when you reviewed it you would see your error. however, the group was denied again. what's going on and what can i do? this is upsetting a very successful and active group. all these changes instead of improving is making things worse. i don't know if this some sort of error bug of yours but what can i do to get my group active again. here is the group i'm talking about if you want to review the decription, BBWS in houston . the onlyt thing else i can try is blanking the description which is ridiculous, or removing our chat times since i don't know what your reviewers is mistakenly viewing as contact information.

    please, help
    sweetnurse25


    GiggleBite 62M

    7/26/2006 6:27 pm

    Looked at your profile Andrew and your video intro comes up blank with the message *Buffering NaN%*

    Not a good advert really? If the CEO`s profile has duff things going on what chance do us mere minions stand?

    Any idea when the missing profiles will be back? Several of my group members have emailed CS and not ONE reply.

    GB


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/26/2006 7:27 pm

      Quoting rm_sweetnurse25:
      my group has been the victim of your new protocols to stop fraud. my group description which has gone unchanged for the few years since it's creation. however, with these new anti-fraud rules my group's description was reviewed and my group denied because my group description allegedly had contact information in it. there is no contact information in the descriptionl. there are no email addresses, phone numbers, instant message, etc. in the description. my group description only has what the group is about, the city we're in, and the set day and time that we hold chats in the group chatroom, nothing else. i sent the description for update in the hopes that when you reviewed it you would see your error. however, the group was denied again. what's going on and what can i do? this is upsetting a very successful and active group. all these changes instead of improving is making things worse. i don't know if this some sort of error bug of yours but what can i do to get my group active again. here is the group i'm talking about if you want to review the decription, BBWS in houston . the onlyt thing else i can try is blanking the description which is ridiculous, or removing our chat times since i don't know what your reviewers is mistakenly viewing as contact information.

      please, help
      sweetnurse25
    sweetnurse25....I see why it is doing it. It is the "at" symbol in where you have put your chat times at. AsianMatchMate.com does not have 'people' reviewing your groups description, there is something that they have that is coded to scan for certain symbols like that one in the hopes of finding spammers who would put their email address in instead of a group description. Basically, its a computer that reviews it, not a person, and it is coded to find such characters as the 'at' symbol and the 'greater/less than' symbols too. the greater/less than symbols are what are used in HTML programming, which AsianMatchMate.com does not allow, but you dont have that character in particular in there, but you do have that 'at' symbol (the little curly 'a' thing).


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/26/2006 8:29 pm

    what is it with this site getting 'bound up' every night just about now?

    No postings go through in the groups and no postings go through in the blogs either.....for at least 3 hours it seems?


    rm_Luv_PPPL 63M
    57 posts
    7/27/2006 2:38 pm

    Shelly_Marie, your reply to sweetnurse25 is correct, although at the risk of repeating myself, there's one little piece of the puzzle that I think could be re-emphasized. It's that little "Report this for abuse" link.

    What happens when people click on that link, is that the group intro. will get scanned by the software, and words like "emale" (if spelled correctly) will cause an immediate denial of the group without any human intervention.

    As has been pointed out, there are only a couple of messages that appear under the group intro when it's denied - one has to do with the use of a language that's supposedly not allowed, the other is the individual contact info. message. (I think groups with fewer than about 500 members get the one about the language, and the rest get the one about contact info. Whichever message you get doesn't really matter ... because both are usually completely irrelevant.)

    You should also be careful not to use too many digits in a row, because these will be treated as a ph0ne number by the software. (In fact, if you correctly spell the word "ph0ne" you'll probably get an immediate denial too, such as if you say something like "Please do not post your ph0ne number.") I believe there are many other ways to inadvertantly trigger this automatic response from the software ... I suspect Friend Finder intentionally doesn't document them, because they don't want people getting around them.

    So basically you just have to look at your group intro and try to figure out wehther there's anything there that could possibly violate the Terms of Use, based on a computer program that picks out individual words or symbols. (As another example, I'd be wary about using the word addr3ss, such as in "Please do not addr3ss people rudely in the chat room" )

    Last, but not least, people get groups denied all the time for no apparent reason as a result of someone clicking "Report this for abuse" late at night. Interest group moderators need to login every morning to check on this, and resubmit as needed. This is not a software issue, it's a staff training issue - the night folks aren't quite as good.



    GiggleBite, your missing profiles problem is also due to that "Report for Abuse" link. What happens is that someone will click that link under a post, and either the software will automatically cancel their profile (for reasons similar to what I explained above), or some staffer will err on the side of doing so. But the member won't get an emale from abuse.

    The biggest mistakes my members make are: (1) they forget to say that they have no emale from abuse; when they emale team AT a.f.f. d0t c0m; (2) they don't mention their profile handle (CS will not look it up if it's not explicitly stated up front); and (3) a few will use a different emale address from the one associated with their profiles (if CS gets around to trying to restore it, I believe they will check and automatically reject the request if the two emale addr3sses do not match).

    Because there are so many lost profiles, CS is probably overwhelmed with emale from people who want restorations. So when the sender of the emale fails to dot every "i" and cross every "t" ... then their request gets ignored. That's the most effective way for CS to deal with the volume.

    If I were you, I'd remind them of what they have to do, and suggest that they emale once every couple of days until they get some action.



    One more thing I've said before - but will repeat. Never post messages, blogs, or blog comments under your moderator profile!

    If you do, your moderator profile can become lost because someone clicks the "Report for abuse link". If that happens, all the topics you've started will become invisible, and some other member of your group will be invited to become the new moderator ... it can all happen automatically.

    These shenanigans been going on ever since the "Report for abuse" link was established (it used to be called "request review" ). It's been there for almost as long as the interest groups themselves (since Feb '05 I think).

    It's not going away anytime soon, if ever ... although maybe some "ass kissing" will help LOL. (Some of you attractive gals might do your part - I may not have the necessary qualifications

    Seriously, we all have to learn to live the "Report this for abuse" link and its consequences for the indefinite future, maybe forever.

    So the more we understand about how it works, the better off we'll all be


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/27/2006 7:16 pm

    Luv, Its possible that someone could have clicked report abuse under her groups description or maybe she updated her groups description and added that part and then it got denied. Could be either way...

    About moderator getting their profile removed and the mod position going to someone else.....My friend had a group and his profile got removed and they still havent asked anyone to be mod, we just posted a message saying that the group was closed, since it was new and didnt have that many people in it yet anyway. I emailed CS about getting it myself cause he suggested it, and they said that he would have to email them and tell them to give it to me, and he did and they never did it. His profile has been removed now for probably close to two months or so.

    I think they need to do something with that 'report this for abuse' link...people are using it for kiddie games alot.


    tracy_de_lacy 110F
    9261 posts
    7/28/2006 12:18 am

      Quoting amberabercrombie:
      Its not just you!! Ive been deleted 3 times this week alone, it seems to happen to me right after or shortley after I post a new blog post, they get it back up ok, but it takes a good 4-8 hours in doing so...Seems its happening to alot of *standard members*.
    strangely enough this hasn't happened to me in a long long time, but it has now happened twice this week and both times I was booted while sitting in my group chat room. Very irritating cos then people think you have just left the room. During our convo last night no less than three of us got booted at seperate times and found it hard to sgn back in. I have only just gotten back in with this handle this morning. No wonder people need two handles on this site.

    I would feel this is a waste of resourses and it means to me that there are probably only half as many people on the site as we think


    Bye everyone, it was a blast


    tracy_de_lacy 110F
    9261 posts
    7/28/2006 12:26 am

      Quoting qyxx:
      Hi Andrew....I have been reading this post and it is a long one, and I have a couple of comments.'

      Sor far as the issue of the Most Popular Bloggers list, I feel you should leave it as is. Some people like the competitive aspect, some don't. Makes no difference to me. Unique comments are just as good views, IMHO. Since I am way down on the list, jealousy is not an issue with me.

      Most Active Comments in the Groups, leave as it is. Some people like to play that game, some don't. Again makes no difference to me.

      I do think before you start thinking about adding new features you need to look at the existing structure and clean it up, so to speak. I don't claim to have a lot of knowledge about computer technology, but it would seem to me that if there is a lot of deadwood, it would affect how any system functions. I think what we are seeing now are problems with system overload. Toward that end, it follows that parameters should be set up that any profile, blog, or group which is inactive for a certain length of time should be automatically deleted, I would suggest between 90-180 days. I know from looking at the groups there are a lot with only one member and have been inactive for a while, and I know there are a lot of inactive profiles and blogs.

      Just my two cents worth.
    I most definately agree with this. I think there is an overuse of the system and that these dead profiles are taking up too much space. I regularly delete people from my group who aven't logged on in over three months. I think we can safely say they aint coming back. If they did decide to come back it's their own fault if they have to make a new profile.

    I say automatically delete those who aint using the system. That way they should drop out of networks and groups too. Just delete all traces of them and let the space be used by people who do use it.

    It might seem to you to look better with all these profiles adding to the head count on the site. I for one would prefer to belong to a smaller site with active members.

    If this works and you reduce the faults caused by this overload...i bet more people would pay for memberships cos there would be less faults and it would be worth the money. I know I would pay for a better functioning site.

    It could run along similar lines to the programme that slips non posers in groups to associate membership. No associate meberships just remove them after about three months.


    Bye everyone, it was a blast


    tracy_de_lacy 110F
    9261 posts
    7/28/2006 12:36 am

    I want to add that the associate member thing is rubbish too. I have people in my group who don't post but they use the chatroom on a nightly basis, yet they are associate members. This is why I can't delete all of the associates. I think that if they log into the group they should be full members. I don't see hy posting should be so important. Some folk don't like posting. It is unfair that such active members should be lowered down to this status.

    Do it by how much they log into the group not by postings.


    Bye everyone, it was a blast


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/28/2006 10:14 am

    luv, oh i forgot she had said that about going unchanged..you are right then...someone may have clicked it then.

    I am the top poster in my friends group. His was first, and I was second, but now I am first cause his profile is gone. but i never received any kind of invitation. I dont know?


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    7/28/2006 10:15 am

    oh...not sure if this means anything but my profile gets removed every four to five days. Happened again last night, and I emailed CS and they had it back on in about five to ten minutes though...


    rm_goddess1946 111F
    13513 posts
    7/28/2006 10:03 pm

    I'd like to see a few more options in the NETWORK friends photos area. I'd like to see a grouping for Bloggers , one for Couples,
    ....would really love to be able to break down my friends list into States; however I know that this would be near impossible. East Coast, West Coast, Midwest, Canada, Europe ...might be some categories though. I have so many people in my friends list and yet if I wanted to take a trip to Spain tomorrow, I'd have an insane time going through everything identifying who is there that I've already had conversation with at one time or another. Just a thought...

    Sending you another breath of love, Mr. LuvPump! {=}


    Just a little food for thought.............
    If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
    {=}


    tracy_de_lacy 110F
    9261 posts
    7/29/2006 5:43 am

      Quoting rm_goddess1946:
      I'd like to see a few more options in the NETWORK friends photos area. I'd like to see a grouping for Bloggers , one for Couples,
      ....would really love to be able to break down my friends list into States; however I know that this would be near impossible. East Coast, West Coast, Midwest, Canada, Europe ...might be some categories though. I have so many people in my friends list and yet if I wanted to take a trip to Spain tomorrow, I'd have an insane time going through everything identifying who is there that I've already had conversation with at one time or another. Just a thought...

      Sending you another breath of love, Mr. LuvPump! {=}
    you can create new categories in your friends list. I have done it. You can't remove the standard ones but you can add to them. I can't remember how to do it without looking but if you try and can't do it I would be happy to look and see if I can remember how. It is in the settings somewhere in your friend network.

    Maybe somebody else will know how to do it better than me


    Bye everyone, it was a blast


    qyxx 65F
    3348 posts
    7/29/2006 2:44 pm

    Got to Friends, Manage Categories,

    Q.


    TechSteve 54M

    7/31/2006 3:42 pm

      Quoting  :

    Who is the moderator that you cannot stand on this site LOL

    I noticed you mentioned this in the past.

    I agree with you.

    Some moderators on this site rule with an IRON FIST and some of them think they own their groups. I got news for them.

    All group moderators are just caretakers that can be fired WITHOUT compensation.

    If you lose or give away your moderator position for any reason, you do not have the right to get it back. You are like a laid off worker with no right to be recalled.

    AsianMatchMate.com does NOT support moderators who use their groups as an extension of their profile.

    Trillogy is correct.

    Steve


    marnison 84F

    8/3/2006 9:23 pm

    As a Moderator...of a group...that to me was an important part of life...
    I took it with the utmost respect. ...
    as well as this site. I truly hope the goal of Andrew will stay fast and solid. I think people are losing sight...of why they joined.

    smiles


    qyxx 65F
    3348 posts
    8/5/2006 12:26 pm

    I wish there was a way to send an instant message directly from the person's profile. Sometimes the profile will show them on but when I go to the Instant Messenger, it does not show them online. I am assuming that this is a glitch in the program.

    Q.


    rm_n2mint14u 46M

    8/5/2006 1:27 pm

      Quoting sexyeyes102005:
      Revert to the old way of questions showing up in the Advice Lines, with the newest on top, not the ones with the latest responses. It seems like we're looking at the same question for days on end.

      Improve the review process. People are talking about incest and bestiality on the advice lines and in groups, and somehow, it all goes through the scanners unnoticed.

      There are people, who abuse and insult others in the advice lines and blogs, and no matter how many "request review's" in AL are submitted, their posts and profiles stay. WHY?

      There should be a way to block an IP address, once a member's account is deleted for violating TOU, because as it stands, they keep coming back under new handles.
    The problem with this is if the person is using dial-up & potentially forged/stolen account, anyone who goes to use that IP later on won't be able to access the site. IP blocking is good in certain cases & I would agree that it should be used if the same person keeps showing up on the same IP.


    rm_n2mint14u 46M

    8/5/2006 1:50 pm

      Quoting sexyeyes102005:
      Revert to the old way of questions showing up in the Advice Lines, with the newest on top, not the ones with the latest responses. It seems like we're looking at the same question for days on end.

      Improve the review process. People are talking about incest and bestiality on the advice lines and in groups, and somehow, it all goes through the scanners unnoticed.

      There are people, who abuse and insult others in the advice lines and blogs, and no matter how many "request review's" in AL are submitted, their posts and profiles stay. WHY?

      There should be a way to block an IP address, once a member's account is deleted for violating TOU, because as it stands, they keep coming back under new handles.
    I would be open to talking more about the different issues that are showing up & hopefully lending some info/advice whereas needed.

    For instance, due to the slow loading of the server - have you enabled hotlinking block to stop bandwidth theft? I have noticed that some "rogue" sites copy or directly link to AsianMatchMate.com so they have pass off whatever they are selling. Just do a Google for a member name or even using AsianMatchMate.com as the search word & you should be able to see what I'm talking about.

    Also, have you split up your resources to different servers to get rid of the unwanted load. Having one directly for messages, one for chat & so on... It can be costly but does take care of a lot of basic problems. Caching of images & creating alternatives for page loading can also help - in one form or another, depending on the users connection speed you can "test" to see what to send to them (low grade to highest quality).

    As for spammers/scammers/fakes - there are several ways to build a more secure system that allows others to not have to deal with those types of people. You have done will with the Confirm ID as a first part as well as other features since my last visit. If need be I can pass on what "tricks" I know most can or will use to get around such measures but with your implimenting of the "no contact info till the 2nd message", that defintely helps. Most users should be weary of someone sending their contact info from the start & flag it immediately (would you give out your phone number or home address to a complete stranger who just walked up to you?).

    Per another poster - the ID manditory is a good option as I've heard of underage users posing as adults - though again, copy a parents ID or an adult friends & you are in. Any steps to make it harder for those not of legal age is better than nothing!

    Should there be an added part to the profile, like you have on ALT in regards to "drugs"? I've talked with people who say they are smokers to refer to 420. I would prefer being able to, pardon the pun, "weed out" those who use drugs so I don't have to deal with them at all (part of message filtering & cupid).

    Is 5 stars enough? I've found profiles that I match all 5 or even 4 stars but when you visit their profile, something doesn't match up correctly or you find that they you aren't even close to what they want. Would it be possible to increase them to up to 10 stars, so it could break down easier or even place a % instead of stars (80%, 91%, etc.). What one of the most interesting points of this is "couples" - if for instance you have age range that you are looking between 18-49 & allowing couples, if one of the couples is over 49 it counts against the match (even if the other partner is in the age range). Same goes with all the other "matching features" (if one smokes & the other doesn't, one doesn't drink but the other is a heavy drink, one is slender & the other overweight, etc.).

    What about blocking "undesired" bloggers from linking to anything related to you (especially your blog) - this could relate back to a "hotlinking" but could be messy. So for those above who have mentioned some unwanted users showing up, they could stop them cold from linking directly to anything they say in their blog or their profile. That way friends could still link back & forth but not worry about others doing the same & potentially copying what you blog.

    I'm still wanting to see more "breakdowns" in certain areas (thankfully you've added to the extended questions - which is wonderful). Like for drinking: drinks only with meals, rarely drinks, drinks on holidays, always has a glass/bottle in hand, closet-drinker :and perhaps smoking: closet smoker, trying to quit, smokes only after sex :and any other area that may need to be "edited" or added to (eye color - if some feel their eyes are a cross between two colors, we should be able to 'feature' that, for instance I'm more of a blue-grey or grey-blue).

    Add-on, since you already have "specifics" in regards to our body (circumsized, length, width, cup size, etc.) - why not "body/pubic hair" (natural, trimmed, shaved)?

    That's all for now, for everyone to digest.


    rm_n2mint14u 46M

    8/5/2006 1:52 pm

    I would be open to talking more about the different issues that are showing up & hopefully lending some info/advice whereas needed.

    For instance, due to the slow loading of the server - have you enabled hotlinking block to stop bandwidth theft? I have noticed that some "rogue" sites copy or directly link to AsianMatchMate.com so they have pass off whatever they are selling. Just do a Google for a member name or even using AsianMatchMate.com as the search word & you should be able to see what I'm talking about.

    Also, have you split up your resources to different servers to get rid of the unwanted load. Having one directly for messages, one for chat & so on... It can be costly but does take care of a lot of basic problems. Caching of images & creating alternatives for page loading can also help - in one form or another, depending on the users connection speed you can "test" to see what to send to them (low grade to highest quality).

    As for spammers/scammers/fakes - there are several ways to build a more secure system that allows others to not have to deal with those types of people. You have done will with the Confirm ID as a first part as well as other features since my last visit. If need be I can pass on what "tricks" I know most can or will use to get around such measures but with your implimenting of the "no contact info till the 2nd message", that defintely helps. Most users should be weary of someone sending their contact info from the start & flag it immediately (would you give out your phone number or home address to a complete stranger who just walked up to you?).

    Per another poster - the ID manditory is a good option as I've heard of underage users posing as adults - though again, copy a parents ID or an adult friends & you are in. Any steps to make it harder for those not of legal age is better than nothing!

    Should there be an added part to the profile, like you have on ALT in regards to "drugs"? I've talked with people who say they are smokers to refer to 420. I would prefer being able to, pardon the pun, "weed out" those who use drugs so I don't have to deal with them at all (part of message filtering & cupid).

    Is 5 stars enough? I've found profiles that I match all 5 or even 4 stars but when you visit their profile, something doesn't match up correctly or you find that they you aren't even close to what they want. Would it be possible to increase them to up to 10 stars, so it could break down easier or even place a % instead of stars (80%, 91%, etc.). What one of the most interesting points of this is "couples" - if for instance you have age range that you are looking between 18-49 & allowing couples, if one of the couples is over 49 it counts against the match (even if the other partner is in the age range). Same goes with all the other "matching features" (if one smokes & the other doesn't, one doesn't drink but the other is a heavy drink, one is slender & the other overweight, etc.).

    What about blocking "undesired" bloggers from linking to anything related to you (especially your blog) - this could relate back to a "hotlinking" but could be messy. So for those above who have mentioned some unwanted users showing up, they could stop them cold from linking directly to anything they say in their blog or their profile. That way friends could still link back & forth but not worry about others doing the same & potentially copying what you blog.

    I'm still wanting to see more "breakdowns" in certain areas (thankfully you've added to the extended questions - which is wonderful). Like for drinking: drinks only with meals, rarely drinks, drinks on holidays, always has a glass/bottle in hand, closet-drinker :and perhaps smoking: closet smoker, trying to quit, smokes only after sex :and any other area that may need to be "edited" or added to (eye color - if some feel their eyes are a cross between two colors, we should be able to 'feature' that, for instance I'm more of a blue-grey or grey-blue).

    Add-on, since you already have "specifics" in regards to our body (circumsized, length, width, cup size, etc.) - why not "body/pubic hair" (natural, trimmed, shaved)?

    That's all for now, for everyone to digest.


    SweetSmiles62 59F

    8/6/2006 9:03 am

    Perhaps it already works this way, perhpas not, but....

    With all of the hoopla over the Bloggers Lists, perhaps the lists only take into account the past week, just like the lists on the Advice Line.


    rm_n2mint14u 46M

    8/6/2006 11:09 am

    More "mood settings"!! We need 'playful' as well as others....


    sexymamma662003 36F

    8/7/2006 7:12 pm

    how about making it so that a watched post or blog doesnt get highlighted yellow untill the post or comment is visiable, so we dont keep going back to the same blog and post over and over again looking for the comments or newest post

    ~sexy~


    Shelly_Marie 49F

    8/9/2006 6:13 pm

    luvpump, this is something that you might wanna have checked out. check out this group, click on the discussion threads and then look at the top part where it shows the links to what group and topic/location that group is in...

    group_0809

    also, you might want to check out all of the groups in that same location...most of them are the same: stolen threads from other groups


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