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Hall Pass
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Hall Pass One of our few hard and fast rules is that we no longer entertain contact couples where the male "has permission" to play alone. And like eliminating closet bi males, we know we are missing out on those rare occasions where the male's partner in fact does approve. However, when we started this exploration we formed the context as to how we would approach it. We decided that this would be a couple adventure and that we would not play with out the other. Think of it this way, the best experiences for couples are those that are shared ie say one of you has the opportunity to go to a concert, but your partner cant go. Well a strong supportive relationship, the partner would encourage you anyways. But of course you know they would feel left out and you know you wouldn't have as much fun with out them - in other words its better not go than go with out your partner. The best couple experiences are the ones you share together, then reminisce about through out the years. So in a sexual context, there is nothing in it for either of us if the other cant be their to share the experience. She has often asked the question when we read a "hall pass" profile, "why wouldn't the wife go along even just to watch?" So this is one of those rare times that we impose our value system on others - it makes no sense to us so we dont believe it. From our perspective, any attached males, claiming their spouse approves can just pass us by. |
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Here I (respectfully) disagree. The concert simile is a good one: I like classical music and opera (in original language). My wife prefers pop music and musicals. She can listen to them for hours - I get bored after one, and feel the need to change the channel; conversely, that is how she feels about what I prefer to listen to (especially opera). On both of us music has a profound, passionate, emotional, uplifting effect, but ... not the same music in each case. We go to performances together on occasion, and it is enjoyable to be together, but we know that the pleasure we derive from the music is never equal: one of us 'gets lifted to another dimension', while the other enjoys the company. So, we go to performances separately, too - if we did not, we'd be denying ourselves something we both enjoy a great deal. I think that could be applied to sex, too, if both partners have each others maximum pleasure at heart. more on my blog, http://AsianMatchMate.com.com/blog/pierd
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Actually our point wasnt to exclude attached people. There are many reasons and they are personal and varied. Who are we to judge? No, our issue is with those claiming "permission to play". We looked at your profile and it doesnt seem you have permission to play or the "hall pass". We have played with married males, well bi males, and I know what its like being in a relationship, with bi desires and feeling that you can not talk about this with your partner. So initially we felt a degree of kinship and understanding with the married males we played with. But thats all rationalization and in the end we take care of our personal life and we expect others to do the same. What we have found tho is that some attached males claim they have permission or are part of a couple - whom also play solo(we dont play with couples either) and its to those profiles that we say we just dont believe it.
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