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Safety First!!!!  

rm_2sxylips 53F
31 posts
6/15/2009 12:32 pm
Safety First!!!!

I have to say that I enjoyed this PDX party the best of all the previous parties I have been to. I finally felt like I had gotten to know enough people to feel comfortable in my surroundings, and was able to roam around some and socialize. I think that I am finally starting to figure this stuff out LOL.

I had a GREAT time, but I also learned a few things as well. I realized that despite how well we think we know people that it never pays to trust too quickly. I am a firm believer in the fact that it does take time to build that trust and it is foolish to do otherwise. I discovered that I may not know some as well as I thought I did and given a situation where I would be left alone with certain people at parties, now I would think twice about it.

As women especially we all need to be vigilant at all times, and when alcohol becomes involved you need to be especially careful. If there is one thing I could say when giving advice there is to always check in with someone. I have someone who looks out for me at meets and parties and I ALWAYS check in with them and tell them where I am going and who with. I mean realistically ask yourself this question: "If I disappeared from a party, would anyone know where to come looking for me?" if the answer is no then you should think twice about going in the first place.

Another thing that really opened up my eyes is that rule your girlfriend always told you about not accepting any drink from anyone you don't trust. I have come to the conclusion that you just don't know if something extra got slipped in or not. And you may think you know someone, but do you really know who is handing you that drink??

It makes you realize that it doesn't take long to put yourself in a bad position, and that you may not know people as well as you think you do!!

The things I learned about this weekend don't make me cynical, it just makes me realize that I have put myself into a few bad positions that ended up working out just fine, no harm no foul; but it would have been so easy for something to go sideways because I neglected the most basic awareness to my surroundings. It really makes me rethink the way I act and the decisions I make when I go to future events.

As a last note I wanted to say that I also saw things this weekend that really built my confidence in the small group of new friends I have made here. I feel like I have chosen some great people to be in that circle and KNOW that if I disappeared at a party that they would surely come looking for me!

I really wasn't sure what this blog was really about when I started to write it. I guess its really about safety and looking out for yourself first and foremost.

so play nice and be SAFE!!
2SXYLIPS
horny196364 60M

6/15/2009 1:31 pm

 very nice beautiful


rm_2sxylips replies on 6/16/2009 8:40 am:
thanks

rm_mistahmj 44M
29 posts
6/15/2009 2:13 pm

 Yeah, you really hit on some of the rules I try to follow at any events,

1: Don't drink out of something you didn't pour or open yourself

2: Bring a buddy, watch their back and they watch yours

I generally try to be the guy watching out for everyone, I'm most comfortable doing that and it gives me warm fuzzy feelings knowing that I'm helping to protect my friends, but even with guys like me in the crowd, someone, somewhere can always be an ass and try to get away with something


rm_2sxylips replies on 6/16/2009 8:44 am:
It's nice to know that there are those who do watch out for people and it shows how upright of a guy you are to do that. Makes me feel good knowing that I have so many great peeps watching my back

Cancer6962 61M
267 posts
6/16/2009 8:05 am

 2sxy,

Well said.
I very often travel alone. Though one friend or another knows where I am and what I'm up to, I'm usually not expected to be heard from till the next day or two. When I attend most parties I am going to meet specific people but that still no guaranty of safety.

I might add that a drink from or being watched by a "trusted" friend is by no means a guaranty that something won't be slipped into it.
When I was in my 20's I once left my beer with one of my drinking buddies / partner in crime while I hit the bathroom. We were just out partying, chasing the ladies and he felt the need to be a little higher than we would be from booze alone and didn't want to be the only one "buzzed". He figured I wouldn't mind much if he added a little something to my beer while I was gone.
We were both guilty of pulling pranks on each-other but this was a little over the top. He "forgot" or thought I was BSing about usually have a bad reaction to, particularly if I'm already pissed-off, what he slipped into my drink. He thought it was pretty funny until about the third time I stuffed him, head first, into the snowbank.

Your always better off keeping your drink in-hand and getting them yourself. You just never know who will be up to something, either in fun or maliciously.

Have fun ... Play safe.

Cancer6962
I eat'n


rm_2sxylips replies on 6/16/2009 8:50 am:
Dang! You know if you do decide to "indulge" in something at a party it would be nice if you could be the one to decide that you wanted to. Being able to make an informed decision that is our own is part of the empowerment of adulthood; and it really sucks ass when someone takes that choice away from you!

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